i know there are some of you out there that has had this happen to you... you find out a year later that your man or girl friend was a H.O.E. that they tried to sleep with any and everything when they were younger... what would you do how would you feel to find this out... that you could one day walk past someone they slept with... or you could be working with someone they slept with... how would you feel??? and would the relationship end??? or could you work threw it...
2007-04-30 03:08:04 · 12 answers · asked by Godson 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Well, I wouldn't get involved with someone unless I knew they were disease-free and practiced safe sex. The number of past partners isn't important to me. If the guy I was with had a problem with my number, he's not the guy for me. My past is just that, past. So I don't ask for the number. Like I said, it's not important.
2007-04-30 03:18:33 · answer #1 · answered by Erin 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It IS possible to work through- but it takes awhile to build a trust with someone who has a very "busy" past. STD testing is a must of course... But the deeper issue is that the two of you build a solid relationship where you both know you can trust one another and what was in the past stays in the PAST. Don't look at everyone and wonder if your man or girl slept with them- it will drive you crazy!!! Focus on your relationship NOW and your commitment to one another. And remember that just about everyone has some past relationship "baggage" that they bring into a relationship and most (I'd hope) find a way to not let it negatively affect their current relationship.
PS- I knew when I met my husband that we had very different pasts- and it took awhile to work through- but we have (and continue to address stuff as it comes up) - it's made our relationship even stronger.
2007-04-30 10:26:04 · answer #2 · answered by josiah's mom 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Everyone has a past. Some pasts are shadier than others. You are asking if we could forgive someone for such a past. In fact, you are implying that you're not ready to forgive him quite yet if at all.
Now, a past is a past. Some folks change & some don't. Which category does your spouse fall under? If you think he's truly turned a new leaf, could you still forgive his past transgressions? Also how much do you love him? Enough to forgive his past? Be honest with yourself. It doesn't matter what we think, it's what you think that ultimately matters. Good luck.
2007-04-30 10:16:06 · answer #3 · answered by Bugsy 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dude, you are dumb. You never ask a girl has many men has banged her. YOU WILL NEVER LIKE THE ANSWER! If the girl has a girlie moment and wants to tell, tell her not to. You will be happier and so will she.
Since there is no use crying over split milk. If a thousand girls opened their legs for you one at a time when you were younger, would you say :"I do not want to have sex", then dump the girl. If you answer is "Oh yeah baby, spread 'em wide" then she is as freaky as you were so why complain, the past is the past.
2007-05-02 23:31:06 · answer #4 · answered by Green 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I won't lie, I'd find it hard to deal with. The logic in me says that everyone has a past and it has nothing to do with how the said h.o.e is now. But if it was my b/friend and I didn't find out until ages later then I'd feel wary. I don't know why cos I think you shouldn't judge people but if I'm honest it would bother me but I don't think I'd split up with them. I'd tell them how I feel and hope that we could work it out.
2007-04-30 10:55:54 · answer #5 · answered by CUTEY 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
were you watching american dad last night, lol? anyway if my partner was straight up about it to begin with and told me then no i wouldnt get mad. the past is past. you cant change that. now if he had lied to me about how many he had slept with or never told me then yeah id be pretty peeved. but no i would not end the relationship over something stupid like that.
For some reason guys especially have a hard time understanding the word past. lol
2007-04-30 10:17:01 · answer #6 · answered by million$? 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If this were to happen to me, I would focus on my current relationship and see how it's going. I mean, that's the past, and there's nothing you can about it. Just as long as that person isn't the same right now, and that person loves you and only your, only that would matter to me. If by any chance that person's past catches up with him, then you should be the one to trust him to act professionaly. Temptation is a dangerous thing, but it can easily be passed by.
2007-04-30 10:16:13 · answer #7 · answered by Answer Givererer. 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Past is the Past! As long as they love you and respect you and are totally faithful to you and only you. WHO CARES about the past? As long as each one of you has had one in the past, you both are not virgins, SO both of you could run into someone from the past! It is possible that you never run into any but they run into your one (or however many you have)
Don't dwell in the past look to the future!
2007-04-30 10:15:39 · answer #8 · answered by me4tennessee 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
everyone has a past, but it is the future that really matters. if you accept someone at any given time.. the past is the past..dont keep thinking about it.
you can and should work it out,if you really love each other.
2007-04-30 10:13:48 · answer #9 · answered by wongfiehung2003 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
do not live in the past... always look to forward..
2007-04-30 10:18:08 · answer #10 · answered by MJ 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋