Bad mommy?

Question

I feel so bad. I have a 5 year old and a 2 year old. The 2 yr. old is always getting hurt. He banged his head on a coffee table(I was standing right there) and had to get stiches. Then the two boys were wrestling over a bowl- I don't know if the 5 year old hit him with the bowl or if it was an accident but the 2 year old ended up with a huge gash over his eyebrow that required 6 stiches. I feel so bad. My 5 year old never got hurt this much. Do I just lock the 2 year old in a bubble until he's 21???

Answer 1

Yes, he will be much safer that way! Lol... my kids always had a bump or bruise on their head at that age. It seemed like they knew when picture time was approaching!

Answer 2

I feel for you...A better solution would be to wrap him/her in bubble wrap, except the constang popping of the bubbles would drive you insane. Question is Girls or Boys. My oldest is a girl and she hasn't had a single stich, she is now 9. She did jump off of our bed when she was around two and smacked the TV Stand which gave her a hematoma on her cheek that then heeled such that she has a cute dimple on one side of her face when she smiles. People always say she has such cute dimples. I correct them by saying it's only one dimple and it's man made. My 5 year old is a boy and a walking stich factory. Most at daycare and one at home. Yes jumping on the old bed again. Hey it just happens. My boy plays much rougher than my girl and he is fearless. That's just the way he is and god knows we wish he would learn a bit of fear.

Now here is an example of bad parenting and my dad fully admits it. If you've ever been to the Empire State Building Observation Deck you would know that there are large spikes that loom overhead. When I was 7, I couldn't see over the edge. My Dad put me on his shoulders to see over the ledge and bang - 23 Stiches...Split down to the skull. Always look above you before tossing them up on your shoulders. I do hope I never lose my hair as I'll look like a baseball or Herman Munster.

Answer 3

There's a reason why they call it the terrible twos. Most children are just rambunctious at that age. You're not doing anything wrong; he just has a lot of energy and might end up getting hurt now and again. Most children will begin to learn what hurts and stop doing those things. That is, as long as your two year old is feeling pain. That might sound like a preposterous question, but some children simply don't feel pain, and this is actually a bad thing. But it sounds like you're keeping a good eye on him, and that you are really worried about his well being. With that in mind, even if he gets hurt here and there, you couldn't possibly be a bad mother.

Answer 4

I know how you feel! My daughter is 2 and she is covered from top to bottom in bruises cuts and scrapes most of the time. I had to take her in for her 2 year checkup i was afraid that the doctor would all CPS on me because the day before she fell off the steps and scraped her arm and leg! When i told him this he laughed and said "Ive been practicing medicine for 30 years and Ive seen 2 year olds coming in with bumps and bruises all that time. I can tell the difference between that and abuse."
You just have a child that's not very graceful as my mom would say. My daughter comes by it naturally, i had the nickname 'gracey' growing up! Kids will be kids and bumps bruises and cuts come with the territory! Good Luck!

Answer 5

If I count right, he's been hurt 3 times in 2 years, oh, if only that had been me. I'm a father of 5, they came within 7 years from oldest to youngest, so we had your situation repeatedly. You can only do so much. You might want to explain to your 5-year-old that he's a big boy and he should be helping keep his brother safe. Perhaps he'll help a little, perhaps not, but at least you might get some help from him. Most of us shortchange our kids, and don't give them as much respect as they deserve. What you want is to let him earn some, and you may be surprised at how much help he'll really be. But don't make him feel he's totally responsible, just that he's helping. Good luck, you're a good mother because you care.

Answer 6

lol. i really did have to laugh while reading this. my oldest never broke anything. she still hasn't at 19! now my youngest, he is more than making up for the lost doctors visits my oldest never used. i really think some kids are just more accident prone than others. i swear my youngest is an accident just waiting to happen! don't lock the two year old in a bubble. no matter how tempting that seems. just let him be a kid. accidents happen. it's part of growing up. just keep that insurance current!

Answer 7

Poor kid! And poor mom too! lol I know when I had my 2nd son, I was amazed at how much more he was hurt than my first... then I thought about it... My oldest didn't have an older brother banging on him all the time! lol Boys are gonna fight, accidents are gonna happen. And yes, I have thought about the bubble thing many times! Just hang in there... he'll get tougher :)

Answer 8

i know how you feel.I have two boys 7 and 2 and I'm not surprised they havent had a bad accident.Some kids are just pron to accidents,and just do the best you can.They are boys also,and boys are always rough players. My two year old has fell out of his crib three times,fell off of my bed twice,and all on his head.I was so scared he broke his neck or something,but he cried for a minute and he went back to playing as usual.

Answer 9

Just relax. This happens to every child. You have a rambunctious two year old! Its normal! As long as you try your best to keep an eye on them, you're fine. If you don't, that still doesn't mean you're a bad mom, just that you need to watch them a little more intently. EVERY KID HURTS HIMSELF: ALOT. Ask any experienced mom. Don't worry. You're taking responsibility by questioning yourself, which already tells me that you have some credibility. As long as they don't get TOO hurt (anything that requires surgery, haha), don't kill yourself over it. Just watch him near the coffee table next time (:

Answer 10

honey it's ok...you are not always going to be there to protect your little ones..i have a 4 year old and a 1 year old..and i can't begin to tell you how many times i would be in the same room and my 1 year old would get hurt..those kinds of things just happen with kids...it doesnt mean your a bad mommy..im sure you are a wonderful mommy that does everything in her power to protect her lil ones..set down with the oldest and explain that he can't be that rowdy with his lil bro b/c that hurts him..and he shouldnt want him to have a "boo boo"..show him the boo boo on his brother and explain to him that is what happens when they wrestle...and the 2 year old will eventually learn to take up for himself..he will fight back if when he learns..good luck darlin!!!