2007-04-30 01:41:49 · 11 answers · asked by sn@iLady 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Both! They both betrayed you terribly. But the guy--guys come and go and hopefully this one is long gone. But your cousin...she was the real betrayal here. She has been with you for an entire life, she will always be your cousin--but she was willing to betray that just for a guy. I would be far more upset with her, as she is the one who will always be related to you. Blood should be thicker than water.
She is no victim. Last I checked, it takes 2 between the sheets--she was not victimized. She was enjoying getting one over on you. If she is trying to play the victim card, she doesn't get it. And until she gets the harm that she was willing to inflict, I would not forgive her.
2007-04-30 01:47:33 · answer #1 · answered by phantom_of_valkyrie 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
It takes two to tango, two to tango, Oh darling it always takes two.
Either one of them could have said no. It doesn't make a lot of difference who the aggressor was. I am sure it wasn't a case of rape.
Since you sort of think of her as a victim I assume this has happened before with your lover and other girls. He evidently has a history of sleeping around. Why are you still with him? Are you going to let him cheat and mess around until he brings back a disease for which there is no cure?
Those diseases are out there and the players find them.
Forgive your cousin if you want to, but give your lover his walking papers. I assume he has assured you each time that it won't happen again. If you take him back again, you are a fool and just asking for trouble.
2007-04-30 09:17:52 · answer #2 · answered by don n 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
my gramma used to say "forgiveness is good for the soul" . she never said whose. when you forgive someone the benefit is purely selfish.. you are the one who will feel better.. this is a good thing. this does not mean you have to put up with crap for the rest of your life. people should be held accountable even after forgiven. so find a new best friend. then a new lover, after all do you really want a man who will target anyone you know even your family..
2007-04-30 08:49:52 · answer #3 · answered by pbear i 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I know that's a hard pill to swallow but the fact remains that it takes 2 to tango and regardless of what happened she's always gonna be your cousin. You can be upset with her all you want but you can't change the fact that she's still family so maybe it's something that you really need to get out of your system and just talk to her about the way you feel. Good Luck!
2007-04-30 08:47:49 · answer #4 · answered by 2sweet4u 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think you should forgive your cousin because push come to shove, blood is thicker than water. Boyfriends come and go but family is forever. I wouldn't say she's a victim, however. What she did was unscrupulous and she should've never done what she did, but in the end she's still family. It may be tough to do, but forgive her and move on.
2007-04-30 08:47:48 · answer #5 · answered by lady_j_nsu2001 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Excuse me?!! I did that to my cousin and he and her have been married for 25+ years, that also happens to be how long it's been since we have spoken. No real love lost there, but it was a pretty shitty thing I did, not so much that it hurt her, but it hurt me too............I've been paying for that Karma a long time...................It's up to you.........you obviously have more compassion than I do, but don't kid yourself that anyone was a victim..............please............it's sex and sex is a victimless crime.............with the exception of RAPE. So, if she was raped then yes forgive and comfort her, but if consensual? It's what you want to do..........Good luck.
2007-04-30 08:49:49 · answer #6 · answered by corina381 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
How is she the victim? She deceived you and your so called lover obviously doesn't love you very much.
2007-04-30 08:45:29 · answer #7 · answered by mom of twins 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Be upset with Him and her, you are the victim here, dump them both.............
2007-04-30 08:45:26 · answer #8 · answered by kc 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
be mad at both it takes TWO to tangle not one
2007-04-30 08:44:35 · answer #9 · answered by Jessica R 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
it takes two......blood if thicker then water....
sh*it happens. forgive and forget.
2007-04-30 08:45:47 · answer #10 · answered by rock 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋