If so then why.... and if not the how long should two people be dating before it's time to get married?
2007-04-30 01:19:26 · 41 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
well one year is not long enough to get married....you need more time to know someone...I say a good 3 or 4 years of dating because one thing I believe you never get to know someone completely
2007-05-07 19:21:29 · answer #1 · answered by nutty 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
A year is plenty long enough depending on the age. Someone 25 or 30 year old has probably figured out "who they are" and can make a sound judgment as to whether or not the other person is right for them to spend the rest of their lives together. However, anyone younger than that has a lot of growing up to do and therefor should probably date someone longer than a year before getting married.
Just my opinion. But I know I am a completely different person now than I was when I was 16 or 20 years old.
2007-05-01 14:19:57 · answer #2 · answered by Yinzer from Sixburgh 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Why are are you saying "only" one year? Of course it depends in which culture you are living, but certainly a year is not at all too short.
However, if you need to ask "why" and are not sure, then you should not get married. There is of course no rule on "how long one should date before getting married", it's a matter of the heart. Having said it, your question suggests you are still young and inexperienced, so even after dating for a year, do not rush into a decision as important as marriage.
Against what happens today, marrying is supposed to be for life and you must be ready for it.
2007-04-30 01:24:36 · answer #3 · answered by Eugene 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
There is no set time to date before a couple decides to get married. Some couples decide to get married after dating for only three or four months and others wait three or four years. The length of time they have dated seem to have no bearing on the success of the marriage.
2007-05-08 00:14:09 · answer #4 · answered by don n 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Its a lotto draw. You could meet someone and get married a week later and live happily ever after, or you can date for 5 years, get married and divorced in the next three months. Life throws obstacles at us the whole way. Some easy, some impossible. If you are best friends and respect each other to start, you should have a better chance. It takes years to REALLY get to know someone. Even then they are full of suprises.
2007-05-07 20:57:52 · answer #5 · answered by blerchus4incapet 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Usually I would say that it is not long enough. Depends on your age and experience. It is hard to say really. I dated one man for 6 yrs and got married and it was a disaster but I never should have married him. I knew that he was not everything I wanted but I thought that it was impossible to have everything. He also had problems with committing. I dated my present husband for 6 months before we moved in together but we were already talking about marraige and got married 6 months later. If you are having problems and are struggling to make it work I would say no. If you get along great then maybe you are ready. One thing that I will tell you that whatever problems you are having now will be five times worse after you are married.
2007-04-30 01:26:29 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
I think that it is long enough but I do recommend living together before you get married because it will give you a better idea of what you are getting into. People are a lot different when you are dealing with them day in and day out rather than just seeing them a few times a week and going home when you need some time to yourself.
2007-04-30 01:24:29 · answer #7 · answered by fruitylil'me 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
The time you date has nothing to do with being long enough to 'want to get married'. The criteria should be do you love each other and do you have the necessary tools to make a marriage work. There is no maximum time for this to happen. The better you know each other and the more you are able to deal with each other, the better any marriage will be. Bottom line, if you are in doubt, DON'T.
2007-04-30 01:27:02 · answer #8 · answered by charliehc 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
My mom dated my real dad for 2 or 3 years before they got married, and he turned out to be an a5shole.
The she dated my step-dad for 2 months before they got engaged and they have been married for almost 15 years, with no problems.
2007-05-07 14:38:56 · answer #9 · answered by joeln31 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I believe you should get married whenever you both want to; because, as I told my daughter, marriage is not permanent and mistakes can be remedied. However, you should not have children for a long time, like at least five years, after you get married, because children are permanent, even if the marriage is not. Have you thought of just living together?
2007-04-30 01:26:26 · answer #10 · answered by LodiTX 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋