i have been having some problems with my ex...we have been having a rough time. i want to get back with her and i have been nasty to her and i want to make up with her and treat her specail. i have said some nasty things to her at work infront of her works mates. do you think i should send her some flowers at work cos i love the girl
2007-04-30 01:10:46 · 25 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I don't believe you love her at all if you humiliated her infront of collegues!
Thats so low!
2007-04-30 01:14:50 · answer #1 · answered by PollyPocket 4 · 3⤊ 0⤋
No, you can bet her work mates have seen you in action and will no doubt think you are weird. At the end of the day you are the one who is responsible for the relationship breakdown and she has moved on. You need to do the same. The best thing you have going for you is the fact that you have admitted to yourself(and us) that you have some anger management issues.
You should remain single for a while and experience life for what it is and have some fun. Another girl will come along and you will have learned lessons from your last relationship that will impact on the new one. Hopefully you will not be so uptight or angry about the little things. If you continue to be abusive with future girls then you will never be truly happy and will lead a sorry and hurtfull life. Dating is similar to evolution, eventually you get better at it. Also if you don't stop harassing your ex she will eventually call the police and you will end up in jail. Remember she is not attached to you now and that she is fully independant of you, so what right do you have to speak to her in this way.
Good luck
2007-04-30 08:27:39 · answer #2 · answered by carswoody 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hello,
If you have said nasty things to her in front of her work colleagues, to be honest, a bunch of flowers will be sneered at. You need to make a big impression. I was in a similar position to you about 3 years ago.
I did what I now refer to as a "Richard Gere" (spelling?).
I drove to her work and then put the stereo on full blast with a slushy tune. I had a great big bunch of flowers. I shouted up to her office that I was sorry, and I still loved her like I did the first day I saw her.
You see, partly, admitting that it is your fault, and showing her that you are prepared to look a complete idiot to get her back, does make a big difference.
Do not do it if you are still going to be nasty to her though. You will not get another chance.
Good luck.
2007-04-30 08:19:11 · answer #3 · answered by sloane_ff 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I advise that you send not just a flower but a greeting card that speaks your mind then follow up later.
Make friend with someone close to her who can plead on your behalf for reinstatement of your love in her heart.
She must have been seriously hurt. However, it is normal in a relationship that will last long. By now, both of you must have known your dos and donts.
Let her know that it has to be rough to be clean. Real love ususally rear its head and leave a gap where the partner vacate. If you do not feel her absence then she is not your own.
2007-04-30 08:31:50 · answer #4 · answered by moses 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It wouldn't hurt, but if you're expecting her to instantly forgive you and want to be with you, forget about it. It is good that you want to make amends but it shouldn't be done just with the intention of getting back with her. Remember, she was on the receiving end of your nasty behavior, she may not feel the same as you. Most likely you will have to do more than flowers to get back in her good graces. You need to show her that you are genuine about her and your feelings and that you won't treat her that way again.
2007-04-30 08:23:31 · answer #5 · answered by ctelly22 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes it's A very good idea because like this at least you'll make her feel better as you told her bad things in front of her collegues so it's right to ask pardon in front of her works mates by sending flowers there. She'll feel much better and will appreciate this.
BYE FROM BELLA.
2007-04-30 08:17:47 · answer #6 · answered by Felicità 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Flowers are not enough for what you did to her,GO in person with the flowers and kneel down infront of her and apologise infront of her work mates just as you did before,that will proove your love for her.
2007-04-30 08:20:54 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
no ,she won't forget you for having treated her so badly .you must forget her,fortunuately her mates knows her very well or else she would have quit her job for long .next time you go out with another girl think twice before you open your mouth to hurt somebody.she's your ex thats it ,leave her alone if you really love her .who do you think you are one time you say some nasty thing to her next time you want her back .she's not a toy.grow up mature!
2007-04-30 08:19:43 · answer #8 · answered by emma 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
NO! If you are REALLY sorry for what you did, tell her and SHOW her that you made a BIG mistake. She won't trust you, but you will have to prove yourself to her. NEVER belittle someone in the presence of others. The timing for you to express your sincere regrets is in privacy. From what you said, I am not all that sure you are sorry. You seemed to have learned that you lost something you would like to have around. For ANY relationship to work, there has to be mutual respect. Sorry, I don't see it here. Learn from your bad experience and don't repeat it.
2007-04-30 08:18:50 · answer #9 · answered by charliehc 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Thats a start. Put some thing really sweet and from the heart on the card and then try to take her out to a nice place to eat. Then continue on doing nice thing and leave nasty at the door.
2007-04-30 08:15:22 · answer #10 · answered by lyttledarlin 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Well, if you send her flowers at work she'll be happy if her colleagues see them arrive - come on - what woman doesn't want this to happen to her? It's a sweet idea, if you've not been too bad maybe it will work for you. Remember if you've really upset her though it may not be enough, but it could be a very good start. Good luck.
2007-04-30 08:15:09 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋