ive got a close friend, but her daughter can b so bossy , mean and hurtful to my quiet natured daughter [theyre both 10] and her mum just stands there and dosent tell her daughter off for her b i tchy behaviour, im so mad at my freind now, i dont know if i can hold it in anymore, my daughter said leave things alone cos shes scared if her bossy friend wont play with her anymore, even though she brings my child to tears as soon as we are home,
2007-04-30 01:09:36 · 8 answers · asked by ROCKMUM LOVES BOWIE 7 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Parenting
If you can't bring yourself to confront your friend directly maybe you could try a little distance. If you cut back on the time you spend around your friend and child she may just ask you why and you can tell her. Let her know that by the time you get home your child is in tears, and this is just not fair to your child. This may prompt her to do something about her child behaviour.
If this child is bringing yours to tears, that sounds more like bullying than being bossy. Your daughter does not need a friend like take, it doesn't seem like a friendship I would foster.
2007-04-30 01:21:47 · answer #1 · answered by Choqs 6 · 3⤊ 0⤋
I terminted a relationship for this exact same reason. My child was friends with a brother & sister that routinely hit him, choked him and pushed him down. Their mother acted like MY child was the one with the problem when he didn't like their abuse. The mom & dad allowed thier kids to fight, hit each other, shove each other to the ground! Their 4 year old little girl even kicked her younger brother in the ribs after she knocked him to the floor! They are thugs in the making.
Tell the Mom of this nightmare child that you expect better treatment for your child. I would go with your daughter when they play together and step in when that little wench is mean to your daughter.
I'd catcher her in the act and tell that little girl that if she does it again, she'll have YOU to answer to. Since her mom isn't disclipling her, she's not seeing adults as a 10 year old should. I'd tell her "just because your mom let's you get away with it, doesn't mean I will allow you to bully/abuse my daughter! Next time you are mean to her, you'll see what mean really is!!"
I couldn't take it anymore. I told that mom to stay away from me and I promised to avoid her like the plague. I haven't seen her or her thug kids in 6 months and my kids are better off without that kind of "friendship" in the long run.
I would find a new activity for your daughter that doesn't involve that rotten girl, like an indoor soccer league, girl scouts, an after school art class, dance classes, etc. She'll make new friends and you can phase out that mean girl.
2007-04-30 02:56:40 · answer #2 · answered by wwhrd 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
You need to work on your daughter's self esteem. She needs to learn that she doesn't need to be friends with someone who is going to make her cry. This can lead to other relationship problems later on in life. Tell her that REAL friends are nice and kind to one another and don't make each other cry. Then don't let your daughter play with the "friend". She will understand one day that you did it for her own good. Good luck!
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2016-12-28 04:44:07 · answer #4 · answered by hassinger 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No I have never fought with my friends over our children...the kids have to work it out for themselves. Your daughter will not always have you to fight her battles for her and if you start doing that now she will allow you to intervene in all things that upset her and she will not learn to be a strong and self-sufficient adult. You can give her advice on how to handle the girl but I wouldn't do it for her.
2007-04-30 01:16:18 · answer #5 · answered by ? 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Just called a mom that I was good friends with because her son beat up my kid last night.. of course, she said my kid was the one with problems.. That happens all the time and the best thing I think you should do is toughen your kid up - no sense talking to the parents because they would stick up for their kids anyway!!!
2007-04-30 03:43:25 · answer #6 · answered by Daisy 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Leave it alone.
Your daughter is old enough to deal with it.
Just give her advice thats all.
Its all part of growing up.
She will have to deal with this B i tchyness for the rest of her life.
We know ,cause we are adults and it still happens.
Leave her to learn and deal with it herself.
I understand your fustration. msn
2007-04-30 01:17:02 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
well i dont have any kids and i dont think i will any anytime soon so thats a no for me
2007-04-30 01:28:32 · answer #8 · answered by yader s 3 · 0⤊ 2⤋