after 2 years of a relationship, we had a fight one day. like any other fight. you fight and you make up. but this was different. he never called back. i called. but he said it was over. he was really cold. i thought he loved me. we spoke about marraige and kids, and everything. but he just left me. i asked to see him, to talk, and he said he never wanted see me again. did he ever love me? he never gave me a chance to say goodbye or explain, why did he do that? why do guys do this? and a year on, it still bugs me. i think about him so much. he says hes got a girlfriend, and this was a couple of months after we broke up. but i dont belive him, i feel he just wants to hurt me. help.....please
2007-04-30 01:02:50 · 8 answers · asked by bless1982@talk21.com 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
but it was me, that started the fight not him. he fought alot. most of the time because he was verbally abusive to me and physically. we fought that day because i saw him looking at porn, and that was my breaking point. he wanted me to change my religion for him. i couldnt. but i loved him. he could have said sorry or bye to me. that the least he could do. especially what he put me through. he blames me for everything. i didnt do anything. i was just me. all i wanted was goodbye?
2007-04-30 01:33:20 · update #1
its over... he's told you, stop obsessing over it, because you will NEVER know why it was over, or if he loved you really
move on
2007-04-30 01:05:55 · answer #1 · answered by bronzebabekentucky 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It may seem all-of-a-sudden with no warning to you but I sense he had been planning the break up and was just looking for the right moment. He used the "usual" fight to end it.
The reason why it bothers you so much is because you don't have closure on the situation. You need to accept the fact that you will probably never get an explanation. He has moved on and the reason he is being so cold to you is because he wants you to move on as well.
Think about it....... he broke up with you, didn't want to discuss it with you, didn't want to see you, got a new girlfriend after you broke up......... this guy wants to move on.
Take what you learned from this relationship and apply it to your next relationship. You shouldn't want to be with someone that doesn't want to be with you.
2007-04-30 01:19:41 · answer #2 · answered by teacher101 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He does not want to hurt you but he probably knows you well enough to know that any little word from him would give you false hope. Go back and read your post. He has left you and not contacted you and still you don't want to let go. I am sure that he liked and cared for you very much but it was obviously not the right relationship for him. Let is go and get on with your life.
2007-04-30 01:07:50 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
i dunno if he loved u or not, but for sure he does not anymore.
sometimes people can be real jerks. and wait for a any arguement or fight to end it all, even though what u fought about is not a good reason to break up that way.
if i were you, i wont bother a minute about a guy so selfish and insensitive. carry on with ur life, there r lots of nice guys who will appreciate a tender person like u.
2007-04-30 01:11:55 · answer #4 · answered by lord 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It has been a year, get over it. At least he didn't string you along with false hope of reconcilliation or of being friends one day. It could have been harder. It was a clean break, so stop whining and move on already.
2007-04-30 01:09:25 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
something tells me he wanted out, and was too much of a coward to say it. and he used this fight as an excuse. forget all about him, dont waste time worrying why.... for every day you worry about him and his reasons, thats another day passed where you might have found the perfect partner.
onwards and upwards
2007-04-30 01:09:36 · answer #6 · answered by michael f 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
We do it because we get sick of the mind games. thats mostlikely what the fight was about. I'm sure at one point in time he did love you, but too many games and this is what happens. But hey this is what dating is for. so you exactly what you are getting before you get married.
2007-04-30 01:09:32 · answer #7 · answered by gearnofear 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Honey, get the book "men are from mars and woman from Venus" Its a gr8 book and explains why men and women do what they do in relationships. Men run to their caves in a fight. They need time out to think. Us girls want to talk our heads off. Get the book!
If you want him to come back, then leave him alone!!!, back right off!!!!. Hard i know, but do it!!!, you will see, he will come back!
2007-04-30 01:12:11 · answer #8 · answered by Purity 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋