Hi,
My girl friend of 2 yrs, told me that her first time was with her ex- boy friend of 5 yrs. She left him after their engagement as she felt insecure as he never earned and lived in her cash.
You can say she jumped on her friend's boy friend (me) when i broke with her friend (my ex-gf), i never had sex with anyone so didn't know if she was a virgin or not. But,one day when we were talking she told me how she lost her virginity to this guy.
She is from a conservative catholic girl, but now i feel she seems to never forget him, even though she says otherwise. I have given her a good home, car, money and even bailed her out of her credit which she incurred for her ex-guy.
So, what should i do? I am very attached to her,but everytime we have sex, it always hits me she has slept with someonelse or much worst thinking oh him or comparing him with me..
We are from Asia, down here women lose their virginity after marriage.. So, i need some advise to make my life better, pls help guys..
2007-04-30 01:02:49 · 10 answers · asked by Quest_Master 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Hi! To answer your question simply, no he will never forget him but that doesnt mean that she is comparing you to him. As a woman, I know, that you never forget your first but I don't compare my boyfriend to my ex. I can understand the whole sex until marriage. I am indian but just because you have had sex with someone doesnt mean you want to settle down with them. She chose to have sex with her ex and theres nothing wrong with it. I advise that you stop thinking about her comparing you to her ex. I also suggest that you talk to her about this. Communication is very vital in a relationship. Don't let the past get in the way of the present and the future.
2007-04-30 01:09:10 · answer #1 · answered by AnGeL_BaBy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
"We are from Asia, down here women lose their virginity after marriage.. " So you're trying to say... asia is more morally correct than other parts of the world? Hmm.. anway, she can't take back her past and neither can you. Instead of it scarring your mind why not use it as motivation to be a better lover? If you were a better lover I'm sure that this would barely cross your mind. You are in love and I know it feels like you should have been her first but what's done is done so just do your best to let it go.
2007-04-30 01:11:52 · answer #2 · answered by kickstatus101 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The question is not whether your gf can forget it. She obviously has, or she would not be with you. The more important question is can you learn to deal with this. Her past is her past, she can't do anything about it and holding her up for ridicule is really not right. She's with you now and she hasn't done anything to deserve your ridicule.
As far as the girls loosing their virginity after marriage, you guys aren't married and your sexually active. Women make mistakes sometimes. Who knows, maybe her ex told her that he loved her and assured her that he would marry her which is why they slept together.
2007-04-30 01:10:10 · answer #3 · answered by sinkablehail1978 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She will never forget it. She may say so when you ask her but probably thinks about it every now and then. If it is bothering you to the point where it is messing things up for your relationship. You should seek counseling and resolve this issue.
Good luck!
2007-04-30 01:12:01 · answer #4 · answered by 229d36 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
One question... Are you happy with her?? The past is past and your having sex with NOW aren't you?. Time to get past your own insecurities dude. You can't have it both ways. Her not being a virgin doesn't make her a bad person.
2007-04-30 01:09:03 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
no, she will never forget the 1st guy that took her virginity..as im sure you wouldnt forget her if you lost yours to her. Its normal, and its a milestone in adulthood. dont let it bother you but also tell her not to talk about him if it bothers you.
2007-04-30 01:06:29 · answer #6 · answered by Scotty_J 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
id say the best thing to do is dont worry about it.. u dont forget who ur first was.. but that doesnt mean it was the 'best'..Its probably just as bad that you guys each hooked up from your friends relationship.
2007-04-30 01:08:30 · answer #7 · answered by julie092179 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
she never will forget him no...but You need to let it go, it has NOTHING to do with you or the relationship you have now
2007-04-30 01:07:05 · answer #8 · answered by bronzebabekentucky 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if you do love her,you won't care about it!
can't beat the real thing!
come on!
2007-04-30 03:07:01 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
she wont forget it..
but you can do sth for your relationship too, that make it unforgetable.
2007-04-30 01:10:17 · answer #10 · answered by zoyaaa 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋