been with my fella for 6 years and we both go out a lot sepertalty with our friends. the thing is alot of people i know who are in relationships seem to do a lot of things if not most things together. where both 27 and liove together - so just wanted to klnow what peoples veiws where on this - we do still do a lot as a couple such as going to concerts and and holidays together. anyway feedback would be good to here......
2007-04-30 00:59:20 · 20 answers · asked by Pebbles 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
If you do everything together, you have nothing to talk about. Being in a relationship does not mean you become a single entity - at the end of the day, you are 2 separate people. As long as you're comfortable and secure that you aren't growing apart - so much the better!
Relationships should be the icing on the cake of a happy and stimulating life, not life itself.
2007-04-30 01:55:16 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
being together with a person for 6 years.. you need to spend some time alone. I'm with my boyfriend for over a year now, and we live together and have a 4 month old daughter together. We really dont go out much cuz we both work when the other doesnt so that someone could be at home with the baby.
Hopefully ya'll dont have anything "holding you down" like that though.
Some form of seperation is good for a relationship. The time you spend apart from each other, makes you miss and want the other more. Trust me.
2007-04-30 08:03:55 · answer #2 · answered by Mami 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Well Geri, i too have been with my fella for 6 years and we go out with friends separately, and still do stuff together which balances it up. As long as you and your partner have no issues with this arrangement then I don't see the problem. No relationship works if neither of you are allowed a bit of freedom. Don't matter how long your in a relationship for you both still need time to do your own thing. Think about it if you were permanently together you would eventually get bored and start getting on each others nerves. we all need our own space from time to time, to keep us sane! So you go for it girl and enjoy life to the max, and stop feeling guilty. Just remember to make time for each other as well. x =o)
2007-04-30 08:41:43 · answer #3 · answered by donna 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
My partner was the same with his ex - that's why she's his ex - I can't really understand this - I think that a lot of people settle for someone that has a very different lifestyle - if you find your soul-mate or a good relationship, then you want to do most things together, although you need a bit of space, you generally don't want to run away from the relationship or avoid being with your partner as some people seem to.
2007-04-30 08:12:21 · answer #4 · answered by ticket2ride 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if you are happy in your relationship and this works for you two then the heck with what everyone else does. I think that is why their is so much divorce in the world because people try to be like everyone else. By all means if it ain't broke dont fix it. Just cause ya'll are not up each others buts all the time does not mean you are not just as committed as the next couple. Remember everyone is different. Good luck & God bless!
2007-04-30 08:12:21 · answer #5 · answered by dinkylynn 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It isn't about what works for others its about what works for you and your bf. It is very healthy that you all have a night or so out with the friends..being a couple shouldn't effect who you are and definitely shouldn't compromise your friends..It is whatever works for you and him ..If you both are happy who cares what other relationships do...If you didn't have an outlet and spent 99% of your time together you would probably argue alot..It sounds to me that you both are healthy happy adults in a very healthy relationship good luck to you both
2007-04-30 08:09:10 · answer #6 · answered by Alli 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you don't have a lot in common and you don't do a LOT together, why stay in that relationship? Get out and find someone more compatible. You are burning daylight and the longer you stay with this person, the harder it will be to leave.
It should be obvious to you that you do not have the same interests or concerns. Find someone who does and you will be much happier.
Good luck. Hope there are no kids, that would be tragic.
2007-04-30 08:06:49 · answer #7 · answered by charliehc 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
It's good to have time apart and to be able to go out with each of your friends. There is nothing wrong with that. In my situation, I do not go out without him very often, I think its a jealously issue, because he knows I have a lot of guy friends. I am able to go out occasionally without him. If you can do this, then that shows you have a lot of trust and can have your own space.
2007-04-30 08:05:24 · answer #8 · answered by firegirl90 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Hey, I think it`s great that you two trust each other enough after 6yrs. to go out and enjoy time with your friends separately, and enjoy time as a couple too! I don`t hear a problem if your OK with it.
2007-04-30 08:08:22 · answer #9 · answered by MISTY 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
As long as you are both happy and secure with how you go about doing things, then I see absolutely no need for concern. What is good for one couple doesn't mean its good for every couple.
2007-04-30 08:04:47 · answer #10 · answered by zaytox0724 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋