K Ive been dating a fantastic guy for the last few weeks - he seems besotted with me- constantly tells me he loves me and we are getting on fantastic - I have no problems with him and we are madly in love and spend every spare minute we have together. However - his brothers girlfriend is starting to bug me - herself and his brother live together and according to my bf are madly in love - however when we meet them she makes a point of standing in between us - gazing up at him and ignoring her bf to speak to mine. I said this to my bf who was shocked at me being jealous as he said there is nothing between him and her - but the more I see her the more I think shes into him - he does nothing to encourage her from what I can see - but shes really annoying me. She rings him for no reason as well - can you guys please help? AM I being paranoid over nothing or do you think she fancies him? Should I be worried?
2007-04-30 00:32:25 · 33 answers · asked by Its me! 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
What difference does it make? If he's not interested in her, don't worry about it. Besides, it's his problem, not yours.
2007-04-30 00:36:52 · answer #1 · answered by Alice K 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If it carries on then talk to her, tell her you feel uncomfortable with the way she is towards your bf. If she doesn't listen then she could be deliberately trying to wind you up, in which case don't let her get to you. Or tell her that if she continues with this you'll tell her bf, maybe she's jealous of what you and your bf have together. Remind her that your with him and not her. Be affectionate to him in front of her, and show her that you have a strong relationship and that nothing will come between you and your bf. If your bf is besotted with you then why worry you should trust him. because if you show him that you don't you could end up losing him anyway. And like someone said he wouldn't wanna hurt his brother's feelings, surly. Might be best if you and your bf go some where else, without his brother and girlfriend around. And spend some quality time together, it's still early days so you wanna get to know each other better and you can't do that when he's they are around. I'm sure things will sort them selves out in the end. good luck hope you both managed to build a strong and happy relationship together. x =o)
2007-04-30 02:04:40 · answer #2 · answered by donna 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She is a boor if nothing else. I sense jealousy on her part and she probably doesn't give a hoot about your bf but is perhaps jealous of the way he looks at you. Is there a chance you are prettier than she is? That could explain something. I am sure from your bf point of view there really is nothing between them as he already told you he loves you. I dont think you are being paranoid and I dont know one way or the other if she fancies him but it is clear she is no friend of yours. Start by spending more time with other people. Good luck,,.
2007-04-30 01:38:06 · answer #3 · answered by pwwatson8888 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She might not like him like that, but she might just be jealous or even overprotective. She probably just feels like she was there first and now she isn't the only girl anymore and she doesn't want you to hurt him. I wouldn't worry about it. Just try to become friends with her.
I have a quick question for you though...if you have only been together a few weeks then how do you know that you are in love, it seems a little early.
2007-04-30 00:38:54 · answer #4 · answered by hillabee_is_me 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know exactly how you feel!!! you've said it to your boyfriend so you've made him aware of the fact that it bothers you so you have taken the first step in being honest with him - which is good.
He sounds like he genuiney doesnt know shes flirting and it sounds like he doesnt flirt back?
All I could suggest is that you go out of your way to let her know hes YOUR man when shes around- be touchy feely with him - if she stands in betwee ye - move so that you end up next to him instead of her. If after this she continues annoying you I might suggest saying it to your fella again - dont accuse him of anything but just say that you feel a bit threatened by her behaviour.
xx
2007-04-30 00:53:52 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
maybe u should think about what they talk about and if her bf gets jealous 2 of her talking 2 ur bf. or (no offensene) its just u because u dont wanna lose a good thing. i dont think ur paranoid cuz if u have trust in ur bf then theres no problem u should be asking ur questions at the girl.kinda chessy but ask her what u thinks going on between them 2. Also u SHOULD be worried thats UR bf!lol
2007-04-30 00:41:43 · answer #6 · answered by zza 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She was probably used to being the only girl of the group , and is not so fond of sharing the attention. I don't think you are paranoid, I think you should make it a point of being extra lovey dovey and cozy around your beau when she's in the room and give her the 'he my man' look so missy will get the point.
2007-04-30 00:39:01 · answer #7 · answered by GreyRainbow 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
How bout you in basic terms do no longer do something? you're gonna look like a jerk in front of your bf and his brother, and that's no longer a physically powerful issue. stepping into good with the relatives continually enables the dating, and while you're making waves there they won't invite you lower back. there'll continually be people we can't stand, yet we can't tell all of them off. study to stay with it.
2016-12-28 04:42:14 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
First off, when she's near, make sure she cannot stand between you and your b/f... If she does, go stand next to him so that you and him face her together.
About the phone calls, ask her in front of b/f and his brother why she calls him for no apparent reason!
2007-04-30 00:48:56 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hmmm, sounds a bit fishy. I'd keep an eye on this girl to check she tries no funny stuff but if your boyfriend is showing no interest in her then don't give him a hard time about it. If you act all jealous and insecure, when he's doing nothing wrong then this will only push him away.
If this girls behaviour persists then say something to her. She's got no right whatsover to take whats yours
2007-04-30 00:36:52 · answer #10 · answered by MrsMatsuyama 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
if you think there's something going on, then chances are there must be something going on. you're a girl and you know exactly how a woman acts when they like somebody. always trust your first instincts. if you're not usually paranoid on things like this and all of a sudden you feel like it, then you're probably right. so i suggest you talk to your boyfriend to lay off and give distance from her. see what happens and if you have to go up the ante then talk to your bf's brother.
2007-04-30 00:38:28 · answer #11 · answered by Kendrix 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋