The mother of the daughter called me she found her diary an read it an called she said her daughter was trying to trap my son. He said did protect himself but he is grounded for a while what else can be done. the girls mother is really going to put the daughter thru living hell. she is very upset I went into shock over the weekend. but we did talk about it more tonight
2007-04-29 19:23:13 · 9 answers · asked by shawneen t 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Parenting
Having been through this situation I hope I might be able to shed some light on this. I honestly think this relationship is not healthy. Your son is being manipulated by this girl but I can almost guarantee he does not see that, I didn't. Once my parents became aware of the situation, they expressed their feelings to me and gave me guidelines to be with her. When they first noticed it, I was 17 and entering college and they forbid me to go to the same school as her. They also forbid me to drive to see her. I was very upset about this for a long time and when I hit 18, they told me it was my life and they could only provide their opinions. After about 7 months more of this, I finally realized what my parents were saying and my quality of life had improved since then. I think you need to sit down with your son and describe your feelings and discretions about him being with the girl. Also, I don't know your beliefs on pre-marital sex or even how old your son is, but it is the real world and it does happen. I fell bad for your son though because of the circumstances that he encountered. You should share with him how emotional girls can be and the fact that they will go to great lengths to try and trap a person the may love. I thinking grounding him was a good start but I think the next step after talking would be to forbid him from seeing her. Also, I think this step should only be taken if your son understands and accepts your position otherwise it will be worse and he will fall into the trap. I think you need to express to your son that you are grounding him because you don't know what else to do and you are upset with him and his choices, not because he had sex or you will embed a feeling in his head that sex is a dirty, wrong act. I hope this helped and that everything turns out ok for you and your son.
2007-04-29 19:41:16 · answer #1 · answered by ctcox1 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You and the other mom are concerned about different things, I think. You're worried that your son will get the girl pregnant, but I think she's really freaking out that her daughter is having sex at all. However, if she read her daughter's diary, and her daughter wants to get pregnant, you might tell your son all the things a girl who wants to get pregnant might do. Like, she might put a pin through the condom package to put a hole in the condom. Or, she might take the used condom and see if she can put the sperm inside her afterward (yuck! but true). Or the condom might break, and he might end up being a dad anyway. Condoms do fail about 3% of the time. Ground him, then get him into a sport or something so he has something else to do. Ask the girl and her family over for dinner so you get to know her, and make sure he's supervised after school. No dates alone, no sleepovers, no lying and telling you he's somewhere else. You probably can't forbid them from dating, but try and create things for him to do to keep him busy.
2007-04-29 19:31:38 · answer #2 · answered by Katherine W 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Good Night
2007-04-29 19:32:02 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
At this point I think it's important for you not to judge him so he can feel like he can talk to you. Obviouly he can't keep dating this girl, it's going to get them both into trouble, but if you forbid him then he's only going to want to defy you. Talk to him and guide him in the right direction.
And no offense to the person who said try to keep him busy, but kids aren't stupid they know when you try to manipulate them.
2007-04-29 19:33:19 · answer #4 · answered by vampire_kitti 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Good Luck hope ur son snaps to stay away from girls like that!
2007-04-29 19:31:19 · answer #5 · answered by Lil :) 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Good luck
2007-04-29 19:29:27 · answer #6 · answered by Randall A 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have not asked a question. What is it you want to know?
Tell your son to keep it in his pants.
2007-04-29 19:27:15 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
AIDS is not a "nasty thing. It WILL kill him.
You call them "nasty things" you don't do those diseases justice.
You're going to have a LOT of trouble if you don't start showing him now that AIDS, syphilis, gonorrhea are not "nasty things", they are DISEASES.
2007-04-30 00:54:45 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your question is not well composed.
2007-04-29 23:17:41 · answer #9 · answered by sholly 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋