sex before marriage?

Question

i had a looooooooong dry spell. I haven't had sex in about a year. the men i usually date i often leave because i tell them no sex. I'm a pretty spiritual and religious girl, so I believe respect and purify the body is good thing. but i slipped recently. 3 months ago, I had no men at all. Now I had 8 men falling after me in a matter of one week. And I had sex with one of them. and he's awful. hes a bad guy. And now I'm getting temptation left and right. He wants to keep having sex, and I have about 4 other dudes that want to start to have sex with me. Its like the devil is clinging to me! What do i do? Im starting to think that sex is 'okay" before marriage. But I don't want to hurt God. I know he was proud of me to wait so long. What do I do? it's like my flesh is craving sex now! but my spiritial know this is not right. I only had sex once, should i continue and give in, or get back on my feet and be strong......what would you do if you
were me? WWJD?

Answer 1

I wish I would have waited until I got married.

Answer 2

Well, my dear, it is not unusual to be tempted by sex, but if you've been slipping up, you have to examine your relationship with God. Is it as secure as it's supposed to be and have you done all that you know to do to keep it secure. Your relationship with God is not unlike a relationship with a man or woman. When you spend time with them, you grow closer to them and they to you. As the relationship gets stronger, it becomes apparent that nothing and no one can separate you from that person because of close relationship that you have developed with that person. Now let's go back to your relationship with God. Do you spend time with Him in prayer like you should? Do you read and meditate on His word like you should? Do you have the Holy Spirit, which gives us the power to overcome the enemy? Do you listen to Holy Spirit when he warns you to flee temptation? If the answer is no or you're not sure, then you might want to focus on those areas. This will help you to overcome when temptation strikes.

A few reference scriptures:
Matthew 26:41: "Watch and pray so that you will not fall into temptation. The spirit is willing, but the body is weak."

1 Corinthians 10:12-14: "So, if you think you are standing firm, be careful that you don't fall! No temptation has seized you except what is common to man. And God is faithful; he will not let you be tempted beyond what you can bear. But when you are tempted, he will also provide a way out so that you can stand up under it."

Acts 1:8
But you will receive power when the Holy Spirit comes on you; and you will be my witnesses in Jerusalem, and in all Judea and Samaria, and to the ends of the earth."

Answer 3

Stop, at once! And mend your ways. It's never too late to follow a rightful and moral life. Do NOT yield to temptations. You can come back to within the folds of God's shelter by making a spiritual commitment, anytime. He is waiting for you, always and eternally, with open arms. He doesn't care where you have been! He is infinitely merciful and all-forgiving. But, "Where are you?" I can hear the voice of the Lord, as He is calling out for you. But, "Where are you?" This means, you must begin to lead a spiritual life...henceforth. Never deviate from the methods prescribed by society. It's never late to be moral, ethical and spiritual.

Answer 4

First of all GOD is a SPIRIT. Not a he. You are learning from life. Life is a school. You are learning not to let people take advantage of you. If a guy really loves you he will wait for marriage. Its usually the ones that bug you for sex that will not stay with you. Take this advice because I have been there done that. My fiancee and myself have both agreed not to make love until marriage. Do not forget the std's. Lots of people have diseases that they forget to mention. A few minutes of pleasure is not worth a lifetime of misery. Enough said!

Answer 5

I think that it is wonderful that you are trying to stay pure for the love of God. Unfortunately at times as imperfect humans, we "fall". Now that you have experience the pleasure of sex, satan has you under a bond of flesh sin. Now, the temptations to have sex will be more strong. Though you may fall again; when you feel the temptation coming upon you, pray and ask God to help you withstand this temptation. As he told St.Paul( who also battled with temptation in to sin in the flesh and after Paul would ask God to take the "thorn" out of his flesh), "my grace is sufficent for thee". Pray for deliverance.Peace w/you.

Answer 6

Ok, think about it-- these guys want SEX, not you. If they don't get sex from you, they will go somewhere else. It has nothing to do with you as a person. If they think you will put out, they'll come after you. If it's hard for you to resist the temptation, buy yourself some sex toys and have fun by yourself :)

Answer 7

Listen to your heart and do what you think is right. God will not judge you for doing that. There are people out in the world doing far worse things than sex. And I dont think sex is considered bad. Go with what you feel. God loves you no matter what.

Answer 8

shame on you!!! your suppose to fight temptation, not accept it. obviously, you are letting those guys get into your head. you are putting their needs in front of yours. people like you are the same ones who start to believe that other sins are "okay." you want to do what everyone else is doing. just cause you have sex doesn't mean he's going to stay with you. he may be using you and you never know it. guys are soooo good at doing that. once you start, its hard to stop...that's why you shouldn't start in the first place. statistics show that those who wait before marriage to have sex, have a higher chance to not get divorced. Surround yourself with people who have the same belief. they will encourage you and give you strength. God bless!!!

Answer 9

good for you for sticking to what you believe in for so long! it's good that you're asking what to do, b/c i think that by asking, you know what you SHOULD do.

i've held out for 21 years with no sex, and i plan to hold out for another 21 more if i have to so that i don't have sex before marriage b/c i don't believe in it either. i think the best thing to do is to stay strong and surround yourself with people who are only going to help you stay strong, not bring you down. pray that god will take this temptation away, that god will provide you with the strength to fight the temptation, and pray that god will give these guys and everybody else the understanding that this is important to you, so that they won't try to tempt you. good luck and god bless you :)

Answer 10

Being a christian myself. I would say NO, it is easier said than done. I have been thru this process before. U need to have mature christian friends or best of all leaders and pastor to be accountable to yourself.
In your msg u put WWJD, do u think Jesus will give in? Surely not!!! Be overcomer and not being being overcome. U surely do not want to break the heart of Jesus right??? Of whom He has always being beside u pouring out so much love and care for u? I will be pray for you, sister! Dun give up!!!

Answer 11

Are you going to have sex with 8 man? That is just sick!And if you are not in love why would you want to have sex with some bad boy?I am sorry but what you are doing is just not right,I hope you think this over...and I hope you will have a conclusion about all this...