my partner is sex addicted, should i trust him?

Question

i been with my partner for 6 yrs. we have 1kid n one in the way and one that passed away last july. recently he was dx with sex addiction. i love this man so much, but now i'am so scared and confussed. he start it taking sex addiction classes to get help but i feel that its not going to help. all this just start it 1 month ago. i found out that he was cheating and having sex. he end up at the hospital due to depression and anxiety due to his guilt. hes guilt made him go crazy he even thought he was gay. but he got over that n now hes back to being normal. normal that it scares me to leave him alone, cuz he might strike again. all this is to much for me that i'm even depressed and now getting help. i feel hate and anger towards him, that i feel leaving him. i ask myself why m'i still here with him? i feel like sreaming my lungs out. he hurt me so much, that i have nasty thoughts in my head about him doing that girl, that sad part is that i know that girl he had sex with.

Answer 1

are you married? either divorce him or leave him. did you get yourself checked out, and your kids? you don't need him, but make him support those kids. he knew that he was doing you wrong.

Answer 2

He'll never change until he admits he has a problem and seeks help. Meanwhile it's killing you and making it a bad atmosphere for your family. Don't bring your child into this environment. Get out while you can and seek counseling for yourself, so you feel better. You will not be able to fix him. You will always have these thoughts in the back of your mind as long as you're still together. No matter how hard it hurts, and don't use the baby as an excuse for staying, leave him and get yourself right. It will be worth it..trust me!

Answer 3

Get out of that situation before he brings you home a disease while you are carrying that baby.(my daughter's ex husband brought VD home to her when she was pregnant, and her daughter ended up blind in one eye and almost blind in the other) He needs to be on his own to resolve his problem. You should not be under this stress while carrying that baby. If he ever gets his problems worked out, then you can go back to him if you choose to. Right now you need to focus on your pregnancy, not his problem.

By the way did you go to the doctors with him for this diagnosis? Sounds like an excuse for what he did wrong to me. Anyway, he is all messed up, and you could be too if you stay.

Answer 4

U still have anger towards him that u need to vent, best is to check with his sex counselor when they have sessions to interaction then u vent ur heart out. keeping it all in wont help u at all.

Once u have let go of all that in build emotions decide if u want to stay with him or not, this is a process it will only work out during time

Answer 5

Doesn't sound like you trust him.. If he is a sex addict, as you stated. Then he will get his fix from anywhere he can until he completes Counseling!! How much of an addict is he? Will he force himself on you if you don't want it? How will he treat the baby after he?she has been born? Tell him he needs help and that you love him, But if he refuses help, your going to have to leave for your own safety and sanity,,,

Answer 6

Dump him. right away. If your married, move with your kids and file divorce. A creap like that will give you aids one day and maybe your kids too. Find a good guy, theirs still some out there. Being a "Sex Addict" isn't a disease, it's an excuse! I don't believe in such a thing.

Answer 7

Set your boundaries....while I sympathize about your situation, I wouldn't stay in the relationship. Since he is trying to make an HONEST effort towards rehabilitating himself, you still need to think of YOURSELF. It's obvious that at this time your unable to come to any rational decision, you may need to step out of the box for a while. I truly wish you luck, but you need to think of yourself and your children. Counseling would be a great start for you, you'll need it.

Answer 8

i think the whole "sex addict" is bull*hit! i couldn't spend my life constantly thinking about what hes doing or has done! i would leave but you have to make up your own mind because i wanna leave my fiance' too but we have a lil boy together and dont wanna put him through that but kids pick up on anger even if you dont broadcast it in front of them so if you dont leave for yourself do it for your child! so sorry to hear about your other child i know that was very tough to go through!!! may god bless your family

Answer 9

You overtake that gal and make love as much times so that he asks for no more the day. Let him get fed up of his addiction.
Let him come after u and beg "I NEED YOU".

You can do it cos u want him back !

All the best...

Answer 10

i woudlnt want to be marreid to him anymore. id be his freind for support but its not fair to you to have to go through this. theres a good chance he wont recover adn who knwos how many porno sites hookers whores phoen sex and side affairs he has had or will have. there is a lifetime movie about this based on a true story i suggest you watch it , you might not look @ your husband the same again.

Answer 11

Sweetheart, you really should go to counseling and straighten your thoughts out. No one here can really help you. You need serious help with a serious situation. You deserve much better treatment from your man. My prayers go out to you. Good luck. LL I've very sorry to hear of your loss of one of your children. Tragic. God Bless you.