I am in college and I plan to join the navy when i graduate. I want to go into BUDS and try to become a SEAL. But i have a girlfriend and I realy like her. If I don't go into the navy i plan to be a lawyer. I just was wanting to know how hard is it to hold a relationship in the military?
2007-04-29 17:21:39 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous in Politics & Government ➔ Military
Someone above me said that the needs of the Navy will become priority over your home life. There is a old saying they issue you your gear not a wife.
If they say jump you jump and if your wife doesnt like it or makes a huge fuss on a regular basis and makes it hard for you to do your job they will very literally have you send her HOME. I have seen it done on a Marine base we were stationed at awhile back.
But as a whole being a military wife is hard. The Seperations are hard. I have been a Navy wife for 12+ years and it doesnt get easier on one hand but it does on another
You get used to the underway periods, you miss them like crazy but you get through and wait on that pier or where ever when they come home. Rain or shine.
But the thing is some people are not cut out for it. You have to basically be able to run a house and take care of yourself and any kiddos that come along. All on your own and on top of it be able to let that other person swoop in and rejoin the family when the Navy allows.
If she is clingy and wants and needs your constant attention. Or doesnt like doing things herself, your gonna have problems. She very literally needs to basically be totally self sufficent or learn to be. Because communication is alot better now with deployments then it was when i first married into this life. But still there is black outs and if you are gonna be a SEAL then there will be slim to non when your gone.
Good luck on whatever you chose
2007-04-29 18:59:32 · answer #1 · answered by pandabr74 3 · 2⤊ 1⤋
I have no experience in this but I have heard that it is harder to be in a relationship and then join, compared to joining and then getting into a relationship.
Your gf will probably be used to having you around. When you join, it'll probably be a big shock. If your already in, then from the start they are used to you not being around.
But if your becoming a SEAL, she'll have to stay with you. It's gotta be a big chick puller.
Good Luck Mate.
2007-04-29 20:34:51 · answer #2 · answered by kokoda42 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Bear in mind the needs of the military come first. Don't expect your attachment to this girl to have any bearing over wherethey send you.
If either of you can't accept this, then, the navy isn't the place for you.
2007-04-29 18:33:04 · answer #3 · answered by TedEx 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well it depends on if the girl is cut out for a military relationship. I'm really good at being a military wife, so it's not that hard for me. My advice would be if you want to join the military, do so. And if your girlfriend is meant to be with you, she will work it out and you will be fine. Because your relationship could not work out even if you dont join. Good luck!
2007-04-29 17:38:44 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 2⤋
very!
divorce rates in the military are 20% and up higher than the civilians due to the long separations, need for secrecy of what you do sometimes, etc. not many people can handle been a military spouse.
so make sure your love one UNDERSTANDS that your life will require great sacrifice from her... ! many lonely nights away from you, specially if you are going to become a SEAL...you will be gone many times, and won't be able to tell here were you are going or for how long, she will have to take care of the house the children, etc all by herself while you are gone, etc...
18 years in Submarine Service vet here....
so good luck!
2007-04-29 17:43:58 · answer #5 · answered by Krytox1a 6 · 2⤊ 1⤋
Very hard, especially in the navy. Even when you are home, in port, you've got to stay on the ship 1 day out of every 5.
2007-04-29 17:26:22 · answer #6 · answered by Yak Rider 7 · 4⤊ 0⤋
Yes. Relationships in the military are very hard.
2007-04-29 17:29:10 · answer #7 · answered by Mopp 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
If you're both committed to the relationship and mature about it - it can work.
Like another poster said, she needs to be self reliant - especially if you're in the Navy.
Good luck!
2007-04-29 19:01:46 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Relationships are hard no matter what, Military relationships are even harder. However they are also the best and strongest when they work.
2007-04-29 17:27:51 · answer #9 · answered by kherome 5 · 4⤊ 0⤋
its very hard....their is alot of cheating and lying and divorce...its not easy being separated and being lonely and sad...but this does not necessarily mean everyone falls apart within the military family..the strong ones survive....it takes trust and complete and total honesty
2007-04-29 17:55:31 · answer #10 · answered by Becky aka queenb 2 · 2⤊ 1⤋