I want to lose my virginity. What should I know before doing it?

Question

I'm an 18 year old girl and I have an urge to lose my virginity. I'm planning on using protection. I want the guy to be experienced and attractive also.
How do I make sure I don't regret it? I don't want it to be a bad or dissapointing memory.
The things that are holding me back is I'm worried about how I would look naked, people might think I'm easy or a slut and I don't know how to approach guys for things like this.
What should I do?

Answer 1

It's ok babe, the feelings you are experiencing are totally normal. It's fine that you want to lose your virginity. You are old enough to know what you want. Just make sure you use protection. It's so easy in the heat of the moment to not care, especially when he promises you that he has got nothing. But, seriously, use protection.

I'm not going to say that your first time will be great. Mine wasn't. I was drunk and in a garden with a guy who didn't care one little bit about me. I hate that I gave my virginity away to him. The problem was that once I started, sex just didn't seem that important and it almost became a habit with guys. That is bad and gives u a reputation.

This doesn't mean that you should wait until you meet someone 'special'. Just make sure that you are ready and that you wont get upset if it is means nothing more than sex to the guy you do it with.

Your first time prob wont b that enjoyable either. It's a little scary and to be honest a bit painful. But as time goes on you will start to enjoy it. But let me tell u, sex is a million times more enjoyable when you do it with someone you love.

Don't worry about feeling insecure about your body. This is normal. Once u have a boyfriend you will get more comfortable with your body and you will understand what you like and don't like and what feels good and what doesn't.

I don't think you can plan to 'lose your virginity'. It's like planning for your first kiss. U can't. Just be patient and it will happen, of course it will happen. Good luck and be safe.

Answer 2

Why do you want to lose your virginity so much? I'm glad that you plan to use protection, I guess you don't plan to wait for marriage to have sex though really that is the best thing to do rather than have sex for the sake of losing your virginity.

If you plan to do this, try and find a guy who will treat you with respect and not abuse you or take advantage of you (there are good guys out there).

Make sure that you both are relaxed and understand what you're planning to do and what the consequences could be; protection doesn't guarantee not becoming pregnant. Find a comfortable place and treat each other gently as sex for the first time can be painful.

To answer your last question; I suggest that you not go through with your plan to have sex but if you do, make sure it is with a guy will treat you well. Don't have sex in a car or in public; if necessary, rent a hotel or motel room so you can be comfortable and relaxed.

Take care of yourself and be safe!

Answer 3

To answer the question "How do I make sure I don't regret it?" ..... you won't regret it if it's with someone you love but you will regret it if it's just meaningless sex. Losing your virginity is a huge deal and you don't wanna do it with any random guy, even if he is hot and experienced. But, if you aren't going to wait for someone who means something to you and cares about you the same way then make darn sure that you wear protection. Just keep in mind, even though you use protection doesn't mean it's going to work 100%. And, if by chance it doesn't work and you get pregnant.... are you gonna wanna have a baby by some random guy or would you rather it be with someone you loved and knew would be responsible enough to help you take care of this kid. And.... you might get an std if you don't know the"experienced" guy's sexual history. He might tell you he doesn't have an std but he could just be lying. It's your life..... make a smart decision. Why are you wanting to lose your virginity so badly... for the experience, bragging rights, to be cool? I think your expectation for sex is way higher than what your actual first experience is going to be. The first few times for girls are normally painful, awkward and uncomfortable... not matter what your partner's experience.

Answer 4

Losing your virginity is not something you can take back if it doesn't turn out the way you wanted. Very few people think of their first time as a wonderful memorable experience. It defiantly will not be that for you if you just give it up to just any guy that comes along. Sorry but that is kinda slutty. I understand that you are 18 and think that it may be time to loose it but you aren't in a relationship for it to be the right time. If it's not with someone that you have feelings for and he has the same feelings for you then you WILL regret it. Are you wanting to loose your virginity for you or others to think you're not a little girl anymore? That's a dumb reason. Are you ready to be a mommy if the condom fails? If you aren't ready to handle the consequences of your actions then you are not ready even if you found THE GUY.

Answer 5

I have noticed that nobody talked about marriage here. Everybody is suggesting that you should get a "Boyfriend". what if that guy wants to be your boyfriend just for sex? Believe me, it happens all the time. Guys love sex so much that they are ready to do just about anything just to get some. I'm not expecting you to listen to me, because I'm not your parents, but wait until you get married. That's the only way to know if the guy really loves you for you, and not what you have between your legs. I have done some research about that, and I've heard girls say that they regret giving their virginity up to a guy who cheatted on them or who got them pregnant and then left them. I think it's better to fight those urges and use your fingures for now, until you find the right guy, fall in love with him and them marry him. It would be the best thing in your life to "make love" for the first time on your first night with your husband. Believe me, that's something you will NEVER regret, and you can ask other girls if you like. Good luck and take care

Answer 6

This is a complex problem.

1: You should lose your virginity to someone you love. That's the way to guarantee it won't be disappointing. It will also make it so that you're not worrying about how you'll look naked.

2: As for regret, you can't make sure of that unless you're with someone who cares about you, and isn't there for "wham bam thank you maam". Even then, it's not certain.

3: As for approaching guys, you'll be gambling on a stranger, you'll prolly have more luck with a friend, or friend of a friend, but that could make things weird, but you'll prolly trust them more. Don't approach the guy with a "business proposition", gauge his reaction by easing into the topic.

Answer 7

Save it for the man you marry.

You may want him to use protection but nothing is 100%. Are you ready for the consequences? If you do get pregnant do you know what to do. Can you support the child? Will the man you lose it to help? Are you willing to give it up for adoption so it can have a good family? Are you ready to risk an STD, particularly one that can take your life like AIDS? Protection offers no 100% guarantee you won't catch a disease.

If you want your first time to be memorable then make it on your wedding night with a man who has committed his life to you. You won't look back to regret it and it will be a wonderful memory you will cherish lifelong.

Answer 8

Make it meaningful. That's the best advice I can give you. Don't just have sex with some guy just to lose your virginity. You will definitely regret it. Make it with someone's who's right...and you'll know when it's right. This may take time, but don't rush it. Sex raises the level of a relationship and is a very emotional thing, so just make sure that you're really ready, because you only lose your virginity once.
In my experience, it was somewhat painful too, but I don't think it is that way with all women. Just a note.

Answer 9

First thing you do is find a man who you love. NOT like, but love deeply. Don't just loose it to a guy who you will forget his name tomorrow.

Next, once your in love how you look naked won't matter to him. (insecurity problem solved) If your having sex with your long term committed BF then very VERY few people will think your a tramp.

Next. Do you know what pleases you sexually? If you don't, I suggest you find out before you have sex. That means you must masturbate and explore your sexuality. Once you know what pleases you, you can then direct your BF/Husband when you have sex.

Sex. Get on a hormonal birth control, and have him use a condom EVERY time. You may or may not bleed your first time. (I didn't) Urinate right after sex. Clean up. Drink a full glass of water. Go back to bed to cuddle. (this is called after-play)

Note - If you should have painful or burning urination a few days after sex, you may have a urinary track infection (UTI). Get some cranberry juice and start drinking it also drink LOTS of water too. Get some uristat to help alleviate the symptoms.

Answer 10

Wait till you find the right one - don't just go give it up cause you have an urge. You'll never get it back. Wait till you been with someone for a while or even for marriage. If you just sleep with a guy he's gonna think your easy. Men like a little mystery in a women and if u make them wait they'll want you more and respect you more. If you do it just to do it - you will regret it later.