And if so, how do you think of it?
There's this guy I've been friends with for a while and I'm very fickle about how I feel about him. Sometimes I care about him a lot to the point where I might feel like kissing him and I can envision myself doing it when I'm away from him, but there is just something about his style which is awkward and his physical attributes just don't do it for me like with other guys. In person, unless I'm overwhelmed by emotion, I really don't feel like kissing him. My dilemma is that he's leaving in just a few days, and I really wanted to kiss him goodbye to let him know I appreciate how sweet he's been. I operate a lot on passion as you can see, so it's for me to go against what I'm currently feeling in the heat of the moment. Any advice?
2007-04-29 15:39:35 · 16 answers · asked by __ 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Just go for it
2007-04-29 15:43:39 · answer #1 · answered by zerocool8122 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ok let's put it in perspective. If you don't want him to think you want more than just friends don't kiss him. There's an invisible line that you could cross. I was once told by guy friends that if I wasn't interested all at I shouldn't kiss the guy, not even a good night kiss after a date it sends the wrong signals.
Is he leaving for good??? I would just give him a hug goodbye and a kiss on the cheek as you're going in for the hug.
To him it will be a sisterly gesture and one he probably won't read into. If you're not attracted to him and you kiss him, what happens if he starts kissing you more than what you planned???
I've gone on dates with guys I didn't at first find attractive but became attracted over time. Sometimes it's not what's on the outside that counts, it's whats on the inside that makes a person attractive.
Good luck.
2007-04-29 22:48:23 · answer #2 · answered by Weimaraner Mom 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I am not so sure you should kiss someone you don't feel compelled to kiss. But you clearly have feelings about this guy, even if they are "friend" feelings. What about just concentrating on how sweet he has been and see what you do feel like doing. Maybe a really good hug would express your feelings better.
If he is leaving and you kiss him in a way you don't feel you may be leading him on - that's not good either.
And remember the awkward shy ones can turn out to be the really dependable and rock solid ones. Ones that you can develop a lot of passion for once you see how loyal they can be.
2007-04-29 22:47:34 · answer #3 · answered by midtownirene 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like you are confused about how you feel about him, SO...kiss him on the cheek and leave it at that. If he's leaving for good, it wouldn't be cool to give him a deep wet kiss, it would just add to the confusion, then there's the fact he's gone. If he's coming back, then you would have to confront those feelings when he gets back. It could make what turns out to be just a good friendship awkward.
Kiss the cheek, give a big hug and tell him that you appreciate him and that you've enjoyed the friendship you share. Ask him to keep in touch.
2007-04-29 22:48:35 · answer #4 · answered by pintobns 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I wouldn't want to kiss someone that I didn't feel that kind of attraction for/to. So I can't give you any advice. But I do wonder why you even asked a question like this? Why don't you just give the guy a good solid hug? Why send him mixed (false) messages? Are you just into playing with guys emotions?
2007-04-29 22:42:08 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yes, but I wouldn't want to. Anyone can kiss anyone else.
If it's to show your appreciation, just a kiss on the cheek would be best.
2007-04-29 22:43:58 · answer #6 · answered by deksta 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
there is alot of different kinds of love and alot of differnt kinds of kisses.a friendly kiss should not be passionate,that wquld be leading him on.also,he may not want it,so for now a good kiss on the lips and a tight hug should suffice..leave it at that
2007-04-29 22:46:12 · answer #7 · answered by pattialfy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well it not the out side of a person it the inside so i think you can kiss someone that you think that they are not attractive see we always looking at the out side that dont matter what what matter is he or she going to treat you right because a good looking man can be so fine and so cute and treat you like crap so dont look at the outside look what in side a person
2007-04-29 22:46:03 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
OK so you are friends and you like him but not that way..
Why lead him on but if you want to kiss him ..
Just imagine someone who is hot while you kiss him
2007-04-29 22:43:38 · answer #9 · answered by JJ 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you don't have to make out with him just because he's leaving! just kiss him on the cheek and tell him good luck where he's going.
2007-04-29 22:44:00 · answer #10 · answered by sarah 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋