why are there so many hostile answers involving questions of a military discharge?

Question

ive been reading questions for about 10 minutes now which involve poeple asking questions reguarding a military discharge. and a good percentage of the answers are just people bashing the person for even considering getting out of the military early.

im currently enlisted, and i am completely sympathetic to the fact that this isnt for everyone. i would never insult a person for feeling the way that they feel when it comes to the military, some people were misled, some people thought it would be a good idea. but what it comes down to is, it's a different way of life, a different way of thinking, and why ridicule a person for feeling such ways.

i know people that are extremely upset and distraught over the decision they made to join the military, i recommend to these people that they go talk to someone, because its better that they do that, and try to seek discharge, then get put on restriction for doing something wrong, which only amplifies these symptoms.

any input?

Answer 1

I agree with you, I am also enlisted and I know that the military is not for everyone, I think of someone dosnt think they can kick it in their job (i am combat arms of course) they should get out. Civilians just dont understand, of course anyone can say to these people "You knew what you were getting yourself into" or "you volunteered for it", they fail to realize that alot of people who do enlist didnt know what they volunteered for, or it was a last resort for them. I would rather have a guy admit he cant cut it than risk him getting anyone injured in combat.

Answer 2

Too many young people these days believe that contracts and committments are not iron clad. They believe if they don't like something, then they have "right" to get out of it, or quit. Not so. Your signature on a contract and/or your oath should be held as unbreakable.
Many of these individuals want their cake and eat it too. They want all the benefits of military service, primarily money for education, without having to do the time and service required. To that I say too damned bad. You signed the dotted line - now do your time. Is it hard? You damned right it's hard. Is it for everyone? No - very few will make it a career. But if it were a walk in the park, then everyone would do it, and there would be no reason to offer incentives and benefits. Are some people misled? Yes, but that too is a harsh reality of life. You will likely be misled by a lot of people: car salesmen, insurance agents, cell phone companies; the list goes on and on.
If you sign up, you do your time, and if you don't like it, then you walk away. If you get out early due to a legitimate circumstance beyond your control, then I think you should be able to get a General (Under Honorable) discharge. If you commit misconduct or fraud or otherwise malinger to "earn" your separation, I think you should get an Other Than Honorable discharge, at best.
I know a lot of people that are upset and distraught too. The military has a lot of people programs to help these people. But I think if you have contracted to do something, you should be required to fulfill the contract.

Answer 3

Since WWI, or, even before, millions of men, American, German, British, Canadian, even Japanese and Russian, served honorably. Many died.
Many had no choice whether or not wanted to join. They were simply drafted and handed a rifle.
, Today no one ( at least in the US) gets drafted. it is a free choice. With this, many volunteer, serve, then leave due to expiration of term of sevice. Unless someone leaves due to a medical,you have to wonder why. Prospetiv employers do.
Maybe they weren't cut out for it, maybe they can't keep their mouths shut, show respect for superiors, stay away from dope, whatever. ..
But you know as well as I do, anything less than an honorable always presents questions. I have seen many losers learn a lot from the military and grow up. So have you.

In a VA hospital in this area here is a guy who is paralyzed from the nose down. He can move his eyes, and that's about it. An explosion in Iraq sent shrapnel into his neck and lower back., He is a Marine.

When i think of him, and then of someone who smoked dope and went AWOL and wants to know how to change a dishonorable discharge, well....

You've seen the Vikings on the CapitalOne ad?? What';s on YOUR dd 214??

Answer 4

Entering, and leaving the military is a major life decision. Many people are passionate about the subject, especially former (or current) enlisted. I may not be as enthusiastic about this as I have experienced good and bad in civilian and military life. If someone truly wants to leave the military environment, let them. Don't fault someone who gave it a chance, when many today don't bother trying to support thier country in any branch of service!!

Answer 5

I completely agree with you. There was a question on here not too long ago from a kid that wanted out of his contract before he shipped to boot camp. It was the same thing...don't be a chickensh*t. Keep your word. And so on. I felt like you, and told the kid the deal.

I loved my time Corps, but I know it isn't for everyone. I know how terrible it is for people who really want to get out.

I do have to say that there are right and wrong ways to go about getting out if you are unhappy. I definitely think that you should do it the right way. I do get upset when I see people looking for a lie to tell.

Good question/point.

Answer 6

Yes, I have input: People get out and get in the Military every day, it is actually a bigger thing to get in then to get out. For those whom have served......Thank-You, for those that are going to serve, Thank-You but, if your going to get out, have the intestinal fortitude to make that decision on your own or with your immediate family, don't come on yahoo and ask people who for the most part don't know a thing about the military. For those of you that do.........awesome, but you nor I can make that decision, the individual has to by thinking about it, considering the pros and cons and coming to a logical decision. Make it yourself.

Answer 7

I'm one of those people that answer those questions with less than a cuddle and encouragement. I think that giving your word means something. I've had to do a lot of things in life I didn't want to, but did them anyways because I gave my word.

I don't care that they don't like the military, a lot of people don't like it, but serve to the best of their ability regardless because that's the right thing to do. If they feel the need to act like a teenager and act out to get in trouble, then they deserve the punishment that comes with it, and not liking the military is no excuse.

Answer 8

completely agree with you, though people should just keep things like that to themselves