i just found out that my step mom has been getting 1,000 for me every month since my dad die what should i do?

Question

I contact the soc. Security office and they said that a month after my dad die she was getting 1,000 for me. and my step mom dont do nothing for me she dont cook,clean but she ride around in a new car new blackberry. she never give me money. the only thing she said that she will do is pay for my college. now the people at the soc. se office said that they can make the money come in my name but i dont want no problems with her. im almost 18 i was thinking about waiting until then but its wrong!!!

Answer 1

Once you turn 18 years of age -- and you are graduated from High School -- those funds no longer will be there for you -- that is for sure!

I have to ask this question -- you claim she provides nothing for you -- but where do you get your internet access at this time of night (as well as on a Sunday!), where do you get food (because you ARE eating), where are you sleeping (you are in the home that she and your father shared), and how do you get around other than in the vehicle she owns (yes, you get transported places), and what about school activities, supplies, clothing, etc????

I KNOW for a fact that your parent IS providing things for you -- you just REFUSE to see it at this time. You'd rather NOT acknowledge the efforts she is making to see you continue with your schooling, and keeping the roof over your head and the access to the internet connected.

I've heard all this before -- and I'm a Long Term Single Parent Myself. MY own children had ONLY MY Income to provide for their needs .. and the same way as this posting -- would NOT Acknowledge or even RECOGNIZE what they were 'claiming' (through the 'poor pitiful me' ploy/routine) Not realizing the $1,200 of food in their bellies every month, the NEW clothes all the time, the Internet and Power and Water and every other utility they enjoyed, the fact that the house was CLEAN because I WAS The ONLY person doing that ... that the yard was good because I worked that too (without their help), and yes, I ALSO EARNED The income to cover their needs (and then some!).

Answer 2

$1000 per month is actually not that much money. I doubt it covers the mortgage + utilities.

She drives a new car and has a blackberry ....but if that money came directly to you, how much of it would you be putting in a college fund? How much would you give her for bills and food? I'm sure you would have spent that money on "fun" stuff anyway. She's been paying your bills and keeping you flush and she says she's goin to pay for college. Well college can certainly cost way more than $1000 per month. Sounds like she's doing fine, but you might want to start learning about how to financially take care of yourself because obviously you don't have clue!

Oh and if you're getting money because your father died, then she, as his wife, is also getting some money. So all those things you think are bought with "your" money? Probably not. You really need to learn a bit about home economics/accounting before you start whining that you aren't getting your "fair" share.

Answer 3

It's alright for her to ride around in a new car and have new things becaue she was married to your dad and is legally entitled to it. If the money was being sent to her it was because somewhere it says that she's your legal gaurdian. Now, here's the thing...I'm sure she uses that money to also pay for rent/mortage, utilities in the home where you both live, and puts food in the fridge. If she's not washing your clothes...she doesn't have to do that for you. You are old enough to wash your own underies. My daughter is 16 and I don't wash her clothes. That's her job to do. She has to learn to do her own things. That's part of life. If it's only the two of you at home and she doesn't cook. Then, once again you are old enough to cook a meal for you and her. For crying out lous, you are so lucky that she didn't say "ok your dad is dead now get out my house"...like many evil step moms would. Sounds like she does love you enough to say she'll pay for your college tuition. That means you don't have to take out a loan and have to repay it. $1000.00 a month doesn't go far. What if you do tell ss to send your check in your name. Do you think and believe that you'll be able to pay rent elsewhere, feed and clothes yourself, pay utilities, car pymt, insurance, cable, cell phone and pay for your school books for college along with other school expensives...etc, etc. She might ask you to move out since you want to betray her. She might feel that you are turning on family and may not like it.

Sit down with your step mom and tell her that you would like some money when the checks do come in. Maybe $200. so you can get some things you would want to have.
But, you have to talk with her, there's no way around it.
TALK, TALK, TALK...COMMUNICATION IS KEY HERE.

Now, if you really want your money, then tell them to send it under your name but, don't be surprised if she doesn't pay for college and tells you to move out once you're 18.
I hope you're prepared for the consequences. Or she just might charge you for rent, ultilities, etc etc just to keep the miney in her hands and you'll still be stuck with very little in yours.

I think you have a good thing going now since you don't want problems with her. I sense you have love for her and appreciate things that she has done for you. Just talk it out. It's your best bet.

Answer 4

seem, i comprehend it really is probable strange coming from a 14 12 months previous woman (merely about 15). besides, i comprehend how you sense. My dad left my mom and did negative issues to her. He would not seem after me or my brother. every time i bypass over to his homestead he threatens to hit me. He would not pay new child help to look after his toddlers and that i hate him. i fairly hate to say it. yet I hate him. My mom and sis suggested I really haven't any perfect to examine with him and that i shouldn't ought to and that i do not. i did not even favor him a contented father's day because he would not should be a father. merely decrease ties mutually with your father. do not examine with him, do not even invite him on your wedding ceremony. And if my dad ever passes away and he's performed not something yet sit down round and watch his little woman get beat then i might want to under no circumstances in my existence call him a father or bypass to his funeral. and that i'm fairly about each little thing that has got here about to you.

Answer 5

If you are living in her house and eating her food, ect. Then she does have the right to help pay for your expenses. Hey, if you are almost 18 isn't it about time you learned how to take care of yourself? Especially, since you are thinking about moving out on your own! She sounds sneaky but hey money changes people.

Answer 6

I say if she is going to pay for your college and you know she is really going to pay for your college. The cost of going to college per semester may be about the price of the SS she is getting.
Let's do the calculation
90 per hour
12 hour
980 bucks per semester
Excluding books, rent and food.
Weigh this heavily and be discreet about how you handle this.

Answer 7

no its not wrong,its ur money.and now that ur about 18,try to see if u can get that money in ur own name.and how long ago did ur dad past?cuz if u just know find out about the money,ur step-mom might have a saving in her name with ur money.or just ask her if she at lease put away some of that money for college already.just talk to her...

Answer 8

If she pays for your college, that would be great. When you are 18, I do believe it will come in your name. You should check on that. If you are living with her, it is costing her something, by the way.

Answer 9

well, the whole reason she is receiving the money is to financially support YOU, not herself. I'd get the money sent in my name. You can simply tell her that Social Services contacted you to "update the information in their system" and now the checks are coming to you.

Answer 10

take her to court. I saw a situation just like this on Judge Judy once. It's your money