so i have this friend, who i think i have feelings for!?

Question

We have been friends since high school. we have always had the flirting thing going on but i always thought it was harmless fun.
We started spending more alone time together a few years ago. people would always mistake us for boyfriend and girlfriend when we would go out.
We then both found ourselves in serious realtionships with other people, so the flirting and hanging out stopped for a while.
about a year ago, we both ended up single again. the flirting started all over again. we started hanging out more, and one night we slept together, this had never happened before.
we talked about what happened and we both agreed that we are friends and that mabey it shouldn't have happened.
He now has a girl friend. I think she is awesome, but he is just not happy. I am his personal relationship shrink..lol...he tried breaking up with her but he wimped out...
we have such great chemistry and a high sexual attraction that it is hard to hide. we both like each other. what do we do now?

Answer 1

Although I don't know the depth of your friendship - I'd say to let the decision be made between both of you. A lot of the time people get confused about the closeness/ ease of a certain relationship with what really should be just a close friendship. As you two are friends, you both are probably scared to lose what you have in each other if things go awry in the relationship. Keep in mind that he found himself a girlfriend in the meantime since you had your encounter. Find out why he is miserable in the relationship he is in - if it is because of you/ he wants you - make sure the hookup wasn't just about the sex, an easier score as you two are so close. If you want him, be sure of the same things and ask if it is ok for your relationship - do you two know each other so well that what you don't like about each other/ problems you know from past relations of the person - will these be points of contention in the future? The main point - be careful to not lose what you two have now or in the future if you two do get together. Good Luck!

Answer 2

Well seeing myself as a relationship shrink myself lol i would say that since he is not happy thenb him and his girlfriend need to talk about that one, but otherwise it would seem as though you two already know that you like each other so you just need to come by terms that you both agree on set your boundaries early so no one person takes control it should be a joint relationship where you each give or take at any point in time.