really bad heartbreak?

Question

A month ago i had a break up with a girl I was in a 7 month relationship with, and I had been trying to hook up with her for about 2 years before we got together. She's the only girl I can say I've honestly loved. We had a good relationship. It wasn't perfect, we argued sometimes, but we were really deeply in love. One day... she broke up with me.... Not a week later... she was going to dinner and the movies with another guy. We haven't talked for about 3 weeks now, and I still miss her so bad. I'm so scared that I won't stop loving her because I've already loved her for more than 2 and a half years. And I don't know how to get over her. Please tell me what to do. My heart is in pieces.

I read a lot of the answers and I appreciate to all those who wrote, thank you. But I just wanted to add... I know she did love me... like I said things weren't perfect.. and the reason she gave me for leaving me is that she wasn't happy. That she couldn't handle the times we fought, and that she was tired of crying over me. I can understand that, but what I've been trying to do is convince her that there are problems in all relationships that need to be worked out. Should I give it up? We had a great connection, we had love. Give it up or keep trying?

Answer 1

TO HEAL FIRE YOU NEED FIRE!!!

Answer 2

Well a lot of guys would say "Toughen up" well i am here to tell you that LOVE HURTS LIKE HELL!!!!. Its the STRONGEST POWER IN THE WHOLE WORLD. Eventually you will however get over her. It MAY take a while and you are right to be sad. BUT : DO NOT DO ANYTHING STUPID! She may even be just going thru a thing where she needs to explore and make sure that you are the MR.RIGHT that she wants to be with for the rest of her life. I say give her some space. After a few weeks call her 1 time (ONLY ONE TIME) and speak with her. let her know that you respect her choices and will be there for her shall she need you. DO NOT argue or CRY on the phone or THREATEN her in anyway that is DUMB and it will only draw her further appart from you.
Go on a date or 2 yourself. Dont get drunk or high it dont help at all and remember if it was ment to be she will come back to you.

Answer 3

Well cheer up ....no one dies of a broken heart!!! Cheers to that or I would have been dead a few times over, sure I am know a cynic and am quite content where I am, your heart break will end when you choose to move on and decide that your life will be full of pasts and that only futures matter, cliche maybe but its true, each day brings with it the opportonunity..i met a friend that believes in love always and forever, why, because its better to love than to be bitter...live to love and love to live.. good luck it takes a while.

Answer 4

Well, I was in a similar situation before, and it took me a LONG time to get over him, but I did because I knew I had to. In the meantime, I kept myself as busy as possible. Some things that really helped me were spending fun times with my friends, keeping a journal, working out, and even going to church. I don't know how religious you are, but going to church always seemed to give me a sense of peace and let me know that somehow, in the end, things would be ok...and they are now. And they will be for you, too! Everything happens for a reason. You might not know what it is yet, but one day, you'll see.

Answer 5

I really feel for you, sorry to here about this real emotional situation. Three weeks is still fresh, time heals, if she does it once she sill do it again. Like the old saying says set it free if it returns then it was yours in the beginning. Try and keep your self busy and take you time before getting into another relationship. like I said over time it will heal, and you may never loose the deep love felt for this girl. best wishes

Answer 6

I totally understand your situation.. My boyfriend did the same thing to me... Really, the only way to get over a true love is within time...It might take awhile (it did for me) but you also have to come to terms with what went wrong, and why it didnt last.. Its going to be a struggle, and prob hurt really bad, but its for the best.. Also if possible, you could talk to her and ask her about why she broke up with you and why she moved onto someone else so soon..
Hope i helped..

Answer 7

i have been with my girl for 8 years now i recently found out that she is a cocaine addict and she treats me like trash. my heart is broken as well because i felt the same way she is my life partner we belong together. honestly the hurt never goes away never but you need to go out and do something even if its not with another girl just go out it will occupy your mind try something like driving somewhere you never been b4 print out directions and the trip will occupy you when you get there the destination will fill your mind and if all that does not work drink as a last option i have got thru a lot of problems with alcohol but would not recommend it to others its just a temp. mask best of luck and just keep pushing forward

Answer 8

My sister were given cheated on and had a foul heart smash. What you want to do is have ur girlfriends come over mutually with your popular action picture, You get your popular action picture with ice cream popcorn and regardless of alternative snack you want, that way u have ur women and dont ought to imagine about the dumb a** who you had a issue with. you also might want to take motorcycle rides and stuff until eventually you could totally get your thoughts off the guy. My sister develop into depressed for 3 months and lost a lot wieght because she develop into continually operating putting with acquaintances or out exercizing / having interesting. The kinfolk barly suggested her because she develop into so busy conserving her thoughts off of each little thing that got here about. i think for ya. i wish each little thing ends nicely and deel extra efficient! XOXOXO P.S. adult males suck =P

Answer 9

7 months is not a long time to be in a relationship! Time heals all wounds.Just go on with your life.I don't think she is interested any more in you,because she already found someone else.She will know in the long run what she gave up.If you bother her in any way ...she will drift further away from you !! Play it cool

Answer 10

As for getting over someone you love--you don't. Well, to clarify, you never get over those you love, but you come to understand that you are in love with who they were and not with who they are. Eventually your love for them becauses an abstraction that you can never go back to, but can always remember fondly. That isn't to say there is never the chance to fall in love with them all over again.

I suggest you give yourself a period of self reflection and then move on with your life. If she wants to be a part of it again, then let her come back to you.

I wish you well.

Answer 11

well, you have to forget about her. this doesn't mean go on a rebound relationship because that is probably what she is doing. that poor guy will probably get dumped when she realizes that she doesn't really love him. you are probably only meant to be friends. this has happened to me before, but i found that with time, it got better. i would be so excited when he talked to me at first, thinking he wanted to get back together, but as time went on, it only became slightly satisfying when he would talk to me. eventually, i was over him and when he would talk to me, i would be polite, but not wishing for anything more because i knew we were meant to be friends. best of luck.:)