Singles Ministry leader expelled from church for fornicating?

Question

Our Singles Ministry leader (not a pastor) was asked to leave the church because he fell into sexual sin by fornication. When he led the study, he preached sexual purity, walking with the lord and not by the flesh and resisting temptation. Because of his actions, he is no longer credible. He is divorced with two children. Was this a harsh or reasonable decision by our pastor and congregation to request that he leave our church?

Answer 1

No, unless he repented and openly asked the church for forgiveness. In any case, he shouldn't be in a leadership position. They probably asked him to leave because the singles are usually young and more vulnerable to his influence. The decision was to protect the larger group. Besides, he probably wanted to leave due to the whole awkwardness if he hung around. Whatever the outcome, he should have been forgiven and an effort made to restore him to fellowship.......and I'm not saying that didn't happen.

Answer 2

He should have been asked to leave his position, but not the church itself, unless he was unrepentent and proud of what he did.

Leaders are held to a higher standard than others. Paul in the NT says that leaders will be judge by a harsher measure. If a leader cannot live up to the qualifications of his/her position, including moral behavior, he should step down, at least temporarily.

(If anyone thinks of Bill Clinton at this point, I'll remind you that his was an elected secular post, not an appointed spiritual post.)

However, we are all sinners, and we all fall, some of us seriously. If your church is in the habit of expelling everyone who commits a serious sin, eventually they'll have to expel everyone.

(Now I'm thinking of Newt Gingrich, who, as it turned out, prosecuted Clinton while he, Gingrich, himself was committing adultery! Romans 2 warns against condemning others while you're doing the same thing yourself. Sorry to get all political on you.)

If that Singles Ministry leader was sorry for what he did, he should not have been thrown out of the church--just out of his leadership position. Peter denied Jesus, but Jesus didn't throw him out. Peter was sorry, and Jesus restored him.

Why not share what I said with your pastor?

Answer 3

I'm not sure if leaving the church was right, but the decision was made by your staff or by-laws I'm sure. He definately should have been asked to step down from his position.

Remember, leave the judging to God, this guy is obviously going thru a time, (so is his family) where he will need TONS of prayer and accountability.

Answer 4

I agree he should have been ask to resign from that postion, but I don't think he should be expelled from the church. Let he who has not sinned cast the first stone.


Forgiveness is a sign lf love which we should have for everythhing and everyone.

Answer 5

Jesus met a adulteress who was going to be stoned and he asked the crowd at that time that anyone of you that is without sin let him cast the first stone,We are all sinners, i would reason with the persons of what they did was sinful and they need to seek forgiveness. the churches are forced to instead of hiding things and facing law suits is to get rid of the person.the church is for sinners, drunks, fornicators, liers...

Answer 6

God tells us to guard the "widows and orphans" for this reason i might want to truly do those. He tells us to guard the unfavourable, so I artwork in a benevolence application finding out outfits, shoes, mattress lining, homestead finished products, toys for toddlers, and sack up groceries for each kinfolk that come into our benevolence progression. Take nutrition to the close ins. The fifth element is to help the missionary's get the resources they favor to help the human beings they are ministering to. Like bypass door to door gathering eye glasses that human beings can't ware now, and the human beings in overseas international places are so satisfied to get for now they're going to be able to confirm. help set up can and dried nutrition (like rice and beans and dried fruit, all kinds of can vegetable, meat, nuts, milk). those products might want to be created up and positioned on the plane for the missionary's to distribute even as they arrive at their vacation spot.

Answer 7

Everyone should be held accountable for their actions. How do you justify having someone teaching something they don't practice themselves? Why would anyone listen or take what he says seriously?