She could have got a job 6 months ago she's got a car no excuses I think she expects me to pay for everything.
Wrong
2007-04-29 11:19:25 · 37 answers · asked by Semper fi 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
You take on a lazy girlfriend, that's what you deserve.
You need to move on. She's not worth messing with.
2007-04-29 11:22:19 · answer #1 · answered by Stuart 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋
You are asking us to make a decision for you. I can tell you right now, what most of the Answers will say. Pack up your things and don't walk out the door, RUN. You are being used and you do not realize it even after four years. Sorry, but haven't you seen all the dozens of little red flags warning you that this relationship is not a good one? I am sitting here shaking my head all the way through your question. When I came to the part that her Mom and brother live with you as well - I broke into hysterical laughter. What on earth are you doing? You are being used as a doormat and you are putting up with it. Why? Because you "love her"? I guarantee you that if you run from this relationship, within a period of time you will get another one. However, if you do not change your thinking you will get the same kind of relationship you have now. You have to change your thinking. You have to realize that YOU deserve more than this and see that this woman has been, and still is, using you. That is not love and I bet anything deep down you know this and it is more of a habit than love. This is such a ridiculous situation that I am beginning to wonder if this really all true. That how unbelievable it is. No one, surely, would put up with all this and still say you were in love with her? As I said, run to the nearest exit. If you do not, you will be living like this for the rest of your life. Is that what you really want?
2016-05-17 04:33:20 · answer #2 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
when I saw this question, I expected all these answers above me, and I also agree with those who said to tell your girlfriend how you feel. Maybe show her how much you pay your bills and how having her around adds to the costs. If that doesn't work, it would probabily be best if you two separate to save yourself the burden... that way she will realize the reality how things aren't always free.
I often hear the saying that there are two types of people: the givers & the takers. I believe she is a taker.
2007-04-29 11:31:37 · answer #3 · answered by Jess3e 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
well man if its wrong!!! why are you still with her? don't seem right to me that you would talk about your girlfriend and how lazy she is !!there must be something about her that you like :) maybe the right thing to do is to help her out man think if it were you how would you feel!!! if you love the girl well that would be the right thing to do right? if not then sounds like you should just tell her the truth and find a new girlfriend!! good luck I'm sure you will do whats right!!
2007-04-29 11:28:15 · answer #4 · answered by Justme 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That is wrong. If she was trying to get out and work that would be another thing. If she is expecting that you or someone else pay for everything, all she is doing is looking for a free ride. Stay clear, and find someone who is going to work with you to improve both the relationship and herself as a person.
2007-04-29 11:28:11 · answer #5 · answered by G.I. J 1 · 1⤊ 1⤋
You pretty much answered your own question, (If you asked one in the first place) OK so let's evaluate, 1. No one is making you help her, 2. She needs to grow up, and 3. You need to get a backbone and tell her
2007-04-29 11:23:16 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I've been married a number of years. You can't take her in expecting her to change. If you aren't willing to support her, then tell her that she gets a job to help pay expenses or you are done with her.
2007-04-29 11:26:28 · answer #7 · answered by lisa l 1 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Tell her no. Say that you can't afford to pay for everything. She needs to pitch in. It might be hard but you can't live your whole life like that. You might do her some good and make her come back to reality. Good Luck!
2007-04-29 11:22:55 · answer #8 · answered by Brey 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Give her a hand as you kick her to the curb! She's showing you now what life would be like with her. She's lazy sod and will not change if someone doesn't force her to, so if you care about her...
Force her to change or kick her lazy @#$ to the curb...
2007-04-29 11:26:02 · answer #9 · answered by Innisfil g 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
let her know that your not her mommy and your not going to take care of her like a baby.. its HER fault that her mom's kicking her out. Tell her that she's not YOUR responsibility, and she's a big girl and should take care of herself. i know this might be hard, but you have to tell her that you cant pay for EVERYTHING.
It's rediculous that she expects that. she should get a job.. tell her the plusses of jobs and that they arent so bad.
hope this helped!!
2007-04-29 11:29:06 · answer #10 · answered by iheartwater. 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋