Is all this crazy for me to think?

Question

So, what i really don't get is what problem do people have with families with more than 2 children? Why do people even care how many children one family has, as long as they can provide for them? Personally, I want a big family when I get older(I am 14 now), around 8 -10 children. As long as my husband and I could provide for them, what is the problem with that? I don't get it. Why do people frown upon families with this many children? Also, I am not Morman, I am Lutheran(very similar to Catholic, i guess just not as strict in a way?). Any feedback would be appreciated. Sorry for it being so long. : )

Answer 1

Well we are Mormon's,and personally that has no bearing on the decision of how many children we should have! We have three children...two girls,one boy! And as far as the Wife and I are concerned,that is all we need to have. How many children you should have-really depends on your lifestyle choices,and what you can reasonably afford to work with. Also...can you handle a large number of children in your day to day economics? I think that some people frown on larger Families today...simply because of mixed reviews about Environments,Wages,World Uncertainties and Falling Living Standards! My Wife and I are quite comfortable with the 3 we do have,because it is what we can easily manage and afford-not by any reasoning of the Church either! We would like to eventually retire too...so we have to have some money to invest as well. Kids are expensive,but not so much when they are kids-more so when they get older(ie) College or University Tuition,Clothing,Financial Assistance etc. So No...I do not think you are "Crazy" it depends on your priorities and financial situation. And also how much you can "tolerate" with the real situations that occur with kids-they are a huge responsibility,and you've got to know when to say that Enough is Enough! For my Wife and I...3 is the Ideal. For someone with a large Family Farm...maybe 6 to 8 kids is acceptable! If you have considerable Wealth and Stability...and you really love Children that much? Great...Have a dozen or so-but be responsible and caring for the "Lives" that you do bring into the World! Most peoples "family size" today,has alot more to do with Economics,Educational and Job prospects-more than any reasons of Church Doctrine! This may have been reasonably true...about a century ago? But I don't think it would fit in todays realities,at least not for your average "middle income" family! thx.theerrander.

Answer 2

I personally believe as long as they are married a couple can have as many children as they want. It is our choice, not the churchesm our parents, the school system, the governments, or anyone elses for that matter. Some families want only 1 or 2 and some want more. It is frowned on because someone always has to have something to complain about especially when they see people doing things they would not do. Even though some religions tend to believe in having more children I do not think you should or should not have a certain number of children simply because of your beliefs. Ignore people that tell you it is wrong, pay no attention to people who say it is not "normal". If you have the desire to have that many children God Bless you and I hope you have a very fruitful life!!

Answer 3

I don't think your crazy. I did grow up Mormon so I know all about the large families. But there were only 4 of us kids so pretty small compared to the other families lol. The only problem I see with people having lots of children are the ones that just pop them out and collect government money. That's wrong. But if you and your future husband have the financial means to properly support a large family then go for it.

Answer 4

I don't think that people do have a problem with people who decide to have big families AND can afford them. The problem is, many people who are having these big families CAN'T afford them and are living on tax payer's money. That is what is frowned upon. I say, if you you can afford 8-10 children and WANT that many, then go for it. You do know you will probably have to make at least $100,000 a year to raise that many children? That is probably on the low end.

Answer 5

The bigger the family the better. The problem only lies with the financial condition of the family. If one can afford to raise decently a family of 12 children that would be superb. But if your finances are limited so should your children be. Feeding your children and sending to school requires a lot of budgetary constraints.

Answer 6

I love children,, my husband wants 6..but im gonna have 4 or 5. i would rather having a big family than be alone with my husband and 1-2 kids.

Answer 7

I never knew people had a problem with the bigger families.
I have one child and am 7 mo preg with 2nd. My dilema is that I only wanted the one child. I couldn't abort the new baby when I first found out, but I know in my heart that I cannot emotionally or financially handle an infant. I am planning on finding her a loving home that will give her all that I cannot.

Answer 8

Of course you aren't crazy. People are just really selfish these days and don't like kids because they represent selflessness and sacrifice.

I have four kids and would love to have more. I always dreamed of having nine children. Unfortunately, my husband is unable to father more children due to deteriorating health.

Big families are a blessing, so don't let other people's snipes get you down.

Answer 9

my family is catholic and we have 9 kids. (8 of us are from the same parents, my older half brother doesn't have the same mom as the rest of us) theres nothing wrong with it. but thats the reason on why i don't want any kids when i get older. my cousins have 11 children, yes 11 all from the same parents. now thats a lot of kids.

Answer 10

I'm all for people having lots of kids. We actually have a problem with under-population in this country and many other western countries do as well due to this notion that there are too many people already. Between aborting 1 million babies a year and nutcase married people having no kids at all, we are now forced to import doctors and dentists because we don't produce enough little people ourselves.