He has been out of high school for a year now and does not wish to have a diver LC, the closest bus stop is 4 1/2 mi away, and he is really good at saying "no" or just blowing us off. I want to hit him and throw him out but his mom would go into a sever depression. I love him but I know this is not good, and we just do not what to do. He chooses not to go out and meet any other people since we have moved here (2yrs) he has not left the property for over a year, he is parinoid of everything and anti-social. He has no income and no place to go. I have thought about taking him to Seattle give him $50.00 and leave him there, what do you think? HELP we are worried and scared!
2007-04-29 10:48:33 · 9 answers · asked by Island Radiant Yeti 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Parenting
Perhaps he needs a healthy change of environment to encourage him to be a productive member of society and perhaps pursue further education.
Giving him $50 and dropping him off in Seattle would be a very very bad idea.
Perhaps you are right that he is paranoid. But paranoia is an "unreasonable" fear. There are real reasons to believe one is not always safe in America. Especially in a big city.
Better is to find him a job with some language school abroad. Then he could teach English as a native speaker, and have some self-esteem from that.
Teachers in Japan need a university degree, but Americans can get a job in Eastern Europe (a safe place) with just a high school degree (or less). The money is not much, but it pays the bills, and is a great experience.
I have been in the Czech Republic for ten years after I retired.
2007-04-29 11:06:53 · answer #1 · answered by Romneyminn@yahoo.com 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think he needs to be evaluated by a phsychatrist or a marriage and family therapist. He sounds like he may have a social disorder, paranoia or depression.
And why would you want to take him to Seattle and dump him out with 50.00??!! How freakin clueless are you? What would he do in a city like that on 50.00??!!! That would be cruel and evil. Especially considering he likely has some sort of issue going on here. What he is doing isn't normal behavior for his age.
2007-04-29 13:07:53 · answer #2 · answered by The OTHER Boelyn Chic 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
nicely, a 17 year old would be an 18 year old very quickly, and could be seen an entire grownup below the regulation. and fairly, i could say that at 17 i could have performed my best to instill my values and existence classes in her for an extremely long term and if she hadn't gotten it via then she could desire to no longer. So i could be somewhat silly, i think of, to attempt to steer away from her from making her very own decision to stay with him. it may better than probable in straightforward terms create a wedge between us, or deepen it if one became into already there, and set the point for an extremely undesirable scene. So i could basically enable her be attentive to that i did no longer think of it became right into a good suggestion, yet enable her make her very own ideas up regardless of if i did no longer like it. I also have a 13 year old daughter, btw.
2016-10-14 02:50:54 · answer #3 · answered by sitzman 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This does sound like depression. Please get him to a doctor for a physical check-up first. Tell the doctor what you have stated about his refusal to leave the house. The doctor or your community mental health association can guide you to resources for getting your son help.
It can be slow going, perhaps a year or more before medication and therapy can bring him back to being a functional person. Please don't blame him for this, he honestly can't help being ill. (You wouldn't blame him if he was near-sighted or had a heart condition. This is the same thing.)
Please remember that suicide is the second leading cause of death for young people. Get him help, be supportive, you have no time to lose.
2007-04-29 11:05:41 · answer #4 · answered by smallbizperson 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Not leaving the house in over a year is a definite sign of depression. He needs to talk to a counsler about what's bothering him. Please don't turn your back on him. He has symptoms that shouldn't be ignored. You are his only hope of getting him the right help he needs, so he can live a productive life.
2007-04-29 11:02:19 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like the poor lad may be depressed.
I really wouldn't advise nor condone hitting him or dumping him on his own.
Have you tried sitting him down and talking to him, rather than at him?
Perhaps helping him to talk to someone other than you or your partner? Someone he feels he can talk to?
2007-04-29 10:58:45 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes you should kick him out of the house and not let him back in. He needs to learn how to take care of himself.
2007-04-29 10:54:00 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Look up tuff love and go to their meetings
2007-04-29 10:57:02 · answer #8 · answered by Patches6 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
he might have social anxetiy...maybe severly depressed...i would talk to a doctor because thats not normal
good luck!
2007-04-29 10:55:06 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋