How do I get a Dog?

Question

I've had a dog when I was 7, but it ran away and my parents blamed me for not taking care of it right and I've had a cat, but didn't want it so I gave it back. My parents would never trust me and I know I have commitment issues. I don't know why I got a cat (i don't like them), but I miss my first dog and my parent's still don't think I didn't want it in the first place. I tried to explain to my mom that I want a goldie again, but she won't believe or trust me! Help, I want one really bad!

If anyone didn't know I am thirteen

Answer 1

You don't say how old you are. You were too young at 7 for the responsibility and it doesn't sound like anyone went looking for your Golden. Next you gave away a cat and the cat may have been a bit of a test from your parents to see if you could care for him.

You # 1 have to earn your parents trust..... grades, doing what they say, not lying, minding them, etc.

# 2 do you take care of your bike, toys, games, clothes? If you don't what about a live animal - how will they understand if you don't take care of the other things ?

# 3 try getting a small animal that you like. Learn about different ones on the internet first. Be sure you want it.

My nephew wanted a ferret. He begged and begged for months.

His Mom paid over $200 getting the ferret, food, and a home. After 3 months, my nephew was too busy with soccer, basketball, and hanging out with his friends. The ferret stunk and he didn't clean the cage. He'd let him out and the ferret would poop in corners of the house, under the couch, etc. Poop and pee got everywhere. My nephew had to clean it up and he complained and complained and said ' it wasn't his fault.'
He was punished for not taking care of the ferret and grounded. His Mom and Dad usually ended up feeding and watering the ferret. Next, they put up a calendar on the refrigerator for their son to check off if he had cared for the ferret each day. If he did not, he did not go anywhere over the weekend. Finally, the ferret got out the door and it took 3 days but he was found in a neighbor's shed. My nephew spent about 1 hour looking for him.... only 1 hour.

Do you think he is interested in the ferret and deserves to keep him ?
Do you think he should get a dog ? He says he will take care of the dog, but he doesn't like the ferret anymore. He says a dog would be better...... but he is forced to take care of the ferret......

Make sense to you ?

He will not get a dog until he can show he can care for an animal. He will pay part of the veterinarian bills. It doesn't have to do with age sometimes. I know of children that do well at age 7 with guidance, and other that are 16 and could care less or think their parents should do it if they don't.

You lost your parents confidence and trust, and you may not be able to remember all that you have to do.

Earn their trust and grow up some.


Do you like dwarf hamsters ? Can you clean it's cage twice a week, feed it, show your parents that you are interested in it? What about a bird - cockatiel or a parakeet ? You can play with them, too.

Maybe you just need to wait.

Answer 2

I guess you need to prove to your parents that you are responsible now. Perhaps you need to volunteer at a local shelter and take care of unwanted dogs and cats so you can see what happen to your first dog. It probably wasn't pretty and you don't seem to realize what happens to lost dogs. When you adopt a cute young animal and then don't want it when it grows up is wasting another life also. It is hard to find a good home for grown cats. Most people will adopt a kitten but there are so many unwanted cats. Do you have any idea how many animals are put to sleep because there is no place for them, because someone just decided they didn't want them anymore. Before you take on the responsibility of another pet you need to find out how to take care of one and on a long term basis. One of these days you will be leaving home-either to work or college-who will take care of the animal then? Or will you just throw that one away too? If I sound harsh, I mean to. You sound pretty young and so don't realize the consequences of your actions. Please be very careful about your choices. I understand about wanting another dog. I want everyone I see but I have to think of what is best for the dog.

Answer 3

if you live with your folks still then the best bet is to wait till you dont. I dont know how old you are but assuming your parents are the ones who pay for things it would be best to listen to them on this one. I read a post a little while ago from a young girl who convinced her parents to get a dog, the dog got sick and they dont want to treat it.. very sad.
One option, and one thing that may help their decision, and also help you out is volenteer at an animal shelter. often times they will let people come in and walk dogs, and play with them. It would be a great learning experience, and a good way for your folks to know you are serious about it. Then if they decide you can, you will already know some great dogs who need homes!

Answer 4

Goldens are very curious. Tell your parents that Goldens tend to run away and its not your fault. When I had a Golden it ran away about 6 times or so. My bro would forget to shut the gate and we would let my dog out to do his business. He would see a squirrell and dart after it into the front yard and then down the street. Start researching dogs and make sure they see you do it. They will think "Hey, she is learning about dogs. Thats very responsible of her. She is trying to learn so that when she does get a dog she can be a better owner and care for it better." Hope this helped.

Answer 5

they're probably worried you're going to change your mind about the dog like you did with the cat. if you adopt an animal, it's your responsibility. you didn't want to take care of the cat, so they don't trust you to take care of dog and handle that responsibility.

Answer 6

You already got rid of a pet. I am worried you will continue with the same habits and get rid of your dog. Let the dogs go to responsible homes for now.

Answer 7

well if you have commintment problems and your parents dont trust you.. well try proving them wrong it might take time but it works. once they see you are really commited and really want a dog they will let you.. good luck

Answer 8

Sorry,about your dog.But your parents were probaly testing you w/the cat & when you gave it back you failed.
try telling them you'll pay for it.
Then you'll have to work hard as a papergirl or something.

Answer 9

hey why ask your parents go just to see the dogs to aspca sure they will be a love with one of then just try it

Answer 10

sorry, but from your comments,, i am definitely siding with your mom on this one... try video games or something to occupy your time..