I work with my mother at my second job. I NEED to quit this job because they are giving me more hours than I asked for and my other job and home/family is severly suffering with my constantly being gone. However, my mother is taking her vacation in June and wants me to stay at this job so she makes sure she gets her vacation off. But if I stay at this job any longer I going to snap. What would you say to your mother who I think is being quite selfish?
2007-04-29 10:37:25 · 9 answers · asked by Peanut Butter 5 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
My mother doesn not control my life. I just don't want to fight with her. She said it would be better for her if I quit at the end of June because of "all the things she's done for me." What a guilt trip!
2007-04-29 10:38:59 · update #1
I'll begin with always be honest, and honor YOUR FEELINGS. Its good to consider other people, family, friends etc, but when folks, no matter who they are infringe on your life happiness to get what they want, it's simply not right. If you feel you truly cannot stay at this job due to what you have described and feel your about to snap if you stay then your leaving will be for the right reasons. Remember, we cannot solve the worlds issue's no matter who they belong too. But as my husband put in his two cents he says: " if she has been doing the job this long why can't she just stay until her mom's vacation is over" Now, thats his take and I must say we debated over this very issue. I disagree, if you don't honor your feelings now, they you might never. A doormat is made for walking over, thats IT's JOB! If you remain the yes, sir no sir, I'll do it becuase your more important than I, then a doormat you shall remain. And I might add if we do this is one aspect of our lives, we also do it in other parts of our lives as well. So make sure to honor YOUR feelings. Be truthful, and honest by saying I simply have taken on too much, and I need to cut back now so I don't become so over burdened that my whole life and everyone in it suffer. We leave our parents and move into adulthood and in your case you have a family that is already suffering so why add more suffereing. I hope some of this helps, just honor your true feelings, its your complete right!
2007-04-29 11:12:03 · answer #1 · answered by Kim k 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are right. I cannot imagine a mother so selfish. You need to give notice and if she is mad at you, remember that you need to take care of your own home and family first-just as she evidently did. Tell her if she makes a fuss that you were raised to have the integrity to take care of your own family and that is what your obligation is. Tell her you are very sorry she is unable to recognize that. ( maybe they will hire someone soon anyway and she can take her vacation) But if not, her vacation can be moved.
2007-04-29 17:46:08 · answer #2 · answered by barthebear 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I'd quit and lay a guilt trip right back on her that my lovely family needs me more. Jobs come and go and this one is no exception.
2007-04-29 18:09:30 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well wait till your mOther starts her vacation then leave, that way you Mom will be on vacation and won't know till she gets back. But she is been a little selfish for making that rude comment.
2007-04-29 17:44:45 · answer #4 · answered by John S 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
That is a tough one. Tell your mom you need to quit on good terms so that you can fill in for her during June if needed but that you can not and will not continue to over extend yourself.
2007-04-29 17:41:10 · answer #5 · answered by wantajeannie 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
what she's doing is wrong. why would she think she couldn't take her vacation if you quit? if she puts in for it now, it shouldn't be a problem. if you can't handle these hours anymore just quit. you don't need her permission.
2007-04-29 17:49:14 · answer #6 · answered by racer 51 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do what you feel is best for you and your family, and let your mother deal with her own issues.
2007-04-29 17:55:01 · answer #7 · answered by Bethany 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do whats best for you. Lookout for number 1, that's you. lol.
2007-04-29 17:41:33 · answer #8 · answered by larry m♥ 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
do what best ok
2007-04-29 18:55:29 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋