My g/f hides things from me and I'm not sure how to react.
A couple years ago she hid a serious illness from me and was hospitalized for a couple months w/o me even knowing what was going on. I understood because it was a tough situation and she had trouble talking about it. Then something else happened and she refused to talk about it. I still don't know what happened. Not knowing is driving me crazy and even worse, when I take on an "I don't need to know" attitude, I feel like I'm not in love w/ her anymore.
She's going through a lot and I want to be understanding but at the same time I can't see being in a relationship with someone who is keeping secrets from me.
How much do I let her get away with and is it possible to be in a relationship with some who is hiding things from me?
2007-04-29 09:56:50 · 12 answers · asked by Professor 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
She is definitely hiding something. Since she doesn't think highly of you enough to share those secrets, I'd just move on. I don't know how you guys lasted this long with her hiding all these things from you. Good luck.
2007-04-29 10:03:46 · answer #1 · answered by ..... 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think it's possible to be in a relationship with ur g/f hiding stuff from u! 'cause when u really love a person, u tell them everything! And mostly if ur being hospitalized and stuff, 'cause u need their support! So, i think u should just confront her and tell her how u feel about the whole situation and if she reacts in some odd way like she's been doing ! Then just break up! I think that b the best thing 2 do, but if u really do love her then it's up 2 u! Good luck!
2007-04-29 10:08:56 · answer #2 · answered by Precious me 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No. You are not in are not in a relationship. If someone would not tell you that they have an illness and you don't discover it until you are in the hospital...that means that you need or MUST leave her alone. You are not in love with her because she has not given you anything to love her with or for. Sounds like you are doing all of the giving and she has been doing all of the taking. Love has to be a give and take relationship not one sided like it currently is. Don't let her get away with this anymore. Leave her alone before something tragic happens.
2007-04-29 10:03:24 · answer #3 · answered by Sandra C 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sounds like she is a very "to herself" person and may not share a whole lot, this is part of her personality. It also sounds like your relationship is still pretty young, she may still need time to figure out what she can comfortably share with you and what she cant
I would sit her down and tell her how you feel. Also explain to her that no matter what she has to tell you, it doesnt go any further than You (and you had better stick to your word). Lastly tell her that you are there for her, any time she needs to talk or has a problem you are there to listen. and you will do so with out judging her.
Try this, it will take some time. If even then It may just be part of who she is, then you must decide stay or go.
2007-04-29 10:06:28 · answer #4 · answered by Andrew R 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Either she is afraid you will leave her since she already hid her illness from you and that you might not want to deal with more problems she has , She may have another big secret that will effect you in a way she doesn't want you too or she is living a double life one with you and someone else.
2007-04-29 10:04:06 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am suprised most girls want to talk about everything to thier b/f's. Some of her reactions are because of how she was raised. These problems are best delt with by the parents teaching her this behavior. Get on board with her parents. She'll either love you for it, or hate you for it, then you will find out if she loves you.
2007-04-29 10:03:21 · answer #6 · answered by spawanee 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
she was hospitalised for 2 months and you didnt know?
how could you not know?
its ok to have your own space and everyone needs some privacy but that all depends on what you are hiding!
2007-04-29 10:03:12 · answer #7 · answered by mowgligurl 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to watch out for those secretive types. They can be very devious and kill everything you ever felt for them.
2007-04-29 10:03:41 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Where there's true love there are no secrets.
2007-04-29 10:00:36 · answer #9 · answered by luckford2004 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if you think it is something serious than ask her if she seems worried tell her you will be with her if she keeps it up i would break up with her
2007-04-29 10:03:03 · answer #10 · answered by xoxpujrulesxox 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋