When I met her I thought she was the one. People told me she is platinum, not just gold. She is religious has morals and would make a good mother someday, etc.
But although there are qualities in her that are hard to find in a woman, I am somewhat miserable in this "relationship". All we do is make out really. She says she hasn't had sex with anyone for 6-7 years (religious).
BEFORE we where together, she flew two states away one time to see a guy she was dating, and once more to see another guy she was dating later on.
I asked her to spend the night with me and she played hard to get like always but eventually sounded excited about it and said ok. But later on she kept saying she can't because of her parents and how she needs them to trust her. She can't drive the one mile to spend the night with me but she could fly thousands of miles to see her other boyfriends (long distance relations)???? She says it's because her sister got preg.
2007-04-29 09:51:34 · 16 answers · asked by tony c 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
by some guy she met on myspace (thisis true) since then and her parents are wary. But I don't think she has even asked them!!!
I don't want her to spend the night out of pitty with me because I tell her "what you could travel all that way and spend the night with them (I am assuming she stayed with them not in a hotel) but you can't spend the night with me????"
I just feel I shouldn't have to struggle this much to advance with her. Four months and all we do is make out, once saw her boobs for a second, touch them once in a while. Ridiculous. It's like a first date everyday.
2007-04-29 09:52:24 · update #1
There is a huge difference between being religious and an extreme prude. I have a friend who is also in the same situation but they live together and see each other naked and do everything but have sex. It does not say be a complete prude until you are married, it says no sex before marriage. I am so embarrased because she doesn't even feel like a girlfriend. My ex's stayed the night (besides having sex). I like her but the fact that she went through all that trouble to go see the other guys but won't even drive here to be with me...well...
2007-04-29 10:41:07 · update #2
Just go! don't dwell on this no more!!
2007-04-29 09:54:12 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
hey, you said she was religious. maybe she just realized that she doesnt want to have sex or, anymore sex at least until she's married. I know some people like that. She could be acting awkward around you because she gets the feeling that its the only thing you want. Try making your wants and needs less noticeable and see if she wants to hang out more often. when she wants to make out just give her a kiss, not a quick one but a loving one and thats it. Besides, if you have sex with her thats just one less thing you have to look forward to in the future. Doesnt it ever make you feel good to just wonder what it would be like. Cuz when it happens you know it will be a whole lot better. Respect is a very strong weapon in situations like this, respect her wants she may start to come around. You can only try it and see what happens.
if she still acts that way then, like my one ex, she may be afraid to tell you something.
also, I dont know if you've ever had one with her but, heart to heart conversations are a very good thing to have. they allow you two to get certain things off your mind and and correct them without having to deal with all the fights that come with finding things out on your own. So, communication communication communication.
Good luck man, hope things change for the better for you. If not, theres billions of other girls out there.
2007-04-29 10:07:26 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like she is not really interested in you for sex. I would gather that she can count on you to do pretty much any thing she needs. (thats not totally a bad thing) But you sound like she has the power and you keep playing the game.
I would call it quits or even play a little hard ball, when she asks you to comeover... tell her you have something to do, or you have plans. Do this a few times and make her WANT to see you not just casually use you.
2007-04-29 09:58:45 · answer #3 · answered by Andrew R 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like she has some issues in her life.I would just come right out and ask her what is the problem. I can respect the fact that maybe she is trying to change her life for the better, but she does need to be honest with you on where you stand in her life. If her answer is OK with you, be patient and understanding. If in your heart you feel like she is just giving you the run around, forget her and move on.
2007-04-29 10:04:44 · answer #4 · answered by sandrajj67 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
this woman is taking you for a complete ride, she obviously dwells on the fact that you will do anything for her. she is playing hard to get (as you said) and it's not going to stop any time soon. some woman just love the idea of men running after them. get out man - it's for the best. you sound like a awesome guy and you need a woman that will RESPECT you, as much as you respect her
2007-04-29 10:00:05 · answer #5 · answered by Mel27.09.08 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you should respect the fact that she is not having sex with you. Believe it or not, this may be the one for you. She actually seems genuine. She may be looking to get married soon and may be waiting for you. If you love her then wait. I assure you that it will be worth the wait.
He that findeth a wife, findeth a good thing.
Be blessed
2007-04-29 09:58:58 · answer #6 · answered by Keith D 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like her parents are very strict. She only feels comfortable far away from her parents to enjoy close relationships. May be you need to take her far out of town, away from her parents. You think she will be up for a romantic get-away?
Good luck :)
2007-04-29 10:00:02 · answer #7 · answered by Sammy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well,,,1st of all dont get mad cause she wont go to 2nd base,you said she has those good qualities that u like...maybe try and meet the parents and if you do see how she acts towards you,,,it does sound a little strange that she traveled to meet other people..if you like her,,,respect her and wait it out,,otherwise no sense in pushing her,,you might push her away
2007-04-29 09:59:02 · answer #8 · answered by igottadrive2001 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if you love her you should stay if you dont than go there to more to a relationship than just sex my friend.. by the way do you live in tacoma?? this stroy sounds very fimilar
2007-04-29 09:57:22 · answer #9 · answered by Sunita W 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
U have to decide if she or having sex with her is more important to u
2007-04-29 09:57:52 · answer #10 · answered by madame239 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
cut your lost and say good bye ...bit/ch like that could drain you physically, mentally and financially later on.
2007-04-29 09:55:54 · answer #11 · answered by DlCK Chenney 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋