My son's dad is taking me to court for visitation. He has not been in his life for over 4 years. I don't agree with tues., thurs, & every other weekend. He told me he wants to see him now because I put him in for child support. The more visitation the less he has to pay. I want it to start gradually. With like a couple of hours a week, no over nights.
2007-04-29 09:47:16 · 4 answers · asked by mom21 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
It is always a safer bet to get an attorney. more expensive, but when it ocmes to the safety and happiness of your child, its worth it. he hasn't seen your child for four years, he cannot just expect the child to be thrown in with him. it does need to start gradually. if you just let your son go over there for overnights and things right at the get go, it will be hard for him to adjust as he doesn't really know his dad. tell your lawyer you want to take it slow and ease your child into this transition.
2007-04-29 11:09:14 · answer #1 · answered by jess_85 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he's only wanting visitation to reduce child support, maybe let the court handle it and you go through a lawyer, so a guardian ad litem can be appointed that will help decide the best interests of the child. That also protects you in case your ex starts causing any trouble (he'll be in violation if he talks to you directly once a lawyer directs him not to). Family law can be really confusing and vary vastly from state to state...I would advise a lawyer especially since you and your ex do not seem to be on good terms. Good luck!
2007-04-29 16:59:01 · answer #2 · answered by Maggie M 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
OK, Why are you relying on his money? is this because he wants to pay less or because you want to get more? Don't rely on his money, if he is a good dad, he will give it, was it his choice not to have his son? Did he fight for him? Did he lose to you? If he fought for him and lost, then you must have been fighting for him because you could support him more? Any decent father will always pay for their kids, but situation dependant, it annoys me when women finish their relationship, strip the father of his children then expect them to pay for them. Its such an insult to a dad.
2007-04-29 17:30:48 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get an attorney, and explain your concerns to him. He can better express them to the court.
2007-04-29 16:56:46 · answer #4 · answered by Beau R 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋