Hello, I have been recently employed. I was wondering if anyone could tell me the signs of a boss making moves on me (not sure). Anyway, the story goes, my boss has been telling me that "Ya know, Billy Graham never got onto an elevator with another woman." I said"Why not?!" He responded by saying that Billy Graham didn't want a woman to make any wrong assumptions or false accusations, then he said, "And I assure you, I am no Billy Graham." I didn't know how to respond to that. Anyway, he keeps saying that I'm way more "good-looking than so-and-so" Just little things here and there, ya know...long looks, comments on how thin I am, he asked what kind of music I like, and has told me that my husband is a very lucky man. He also mentions that he is a happily married man, but I often find that when he says that, it seems as though he's reassuring himself that instead of just saying it. What do you think? I feel very awkward. Thanks!
P.S. I am a married woman myself and he knows it
2007-04-29 09:34:38 · 16 answers · asked by Rosalind55 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
First of all, trust your intuition. You feel awkward about the things he's saying to you, both verbally with his comments, and the body language with the way he looks at you. Pay attention to the times when you get this sense that he's out of line. Second, you can either refine the way you set up boundaries with him or move on to a different job.
You can set firm boundaries by telling him clearly that comments about your looks are unprofessional and unwelcome. Feel free to tell him "you're out of bounds." You don't have to be nasty, but do be clear and solid. It's quite possible that he'll get defensive and pretend like you misunderstood him if you confront him directly. Don't fall for it. You understand him loud and clear.
Get yourself out of there if you can. There is nothing so precious as your marriage. And no one deserves to be harassed in that way.
So, trust your guts and take care of yourself. You'll feel good about yourself when you set the boundaries that are right for you. Be strong, you can do it!
2007-04-29 09:55:24 · answer #1 · answered by Aunt Laya 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
His behavior may not be about you. He may be trying to see if your easy and dumb. A man will know he has limitations according to responses. Stop trying to make sense out of nonsense. Continue speaking about your husband, only verbally respond to your professional responsibilities and keep doors open. As long as he doesn't lay a finger on you. Just keep conversations short and business orientated. If you feel uncomfortable after practicing this advice talk to his boss not him. This is a woman's world too.. Good luck
2007-04-29 09:48:35 · answer #2 · answered by Freedom Rules!! 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
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2016-12-29 17:02:31 · answer #3 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This kind of behavior is borderline, heading toward hitting-on and workplace harassment. I would suggest finding a more businesslike relationship with your boss, before things get out of control and very awkward.
2007-04-29 09:38:10 · answer #4 · answered by Jarien 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
YES he is hitting on you. I am no Billy Graham was your biggest tip off. Never go to lunch or happy hour with him, he is setting you up.If they use the words Hun, babe, sweetie when talking to you. If they are inviting you out for lunch, happy hour or dinner and he wants you to have alcohol beverages ---HE IS HITTING ON YOU !!!!
2007-04-29 15:12:57 · answer #5 · answered by Banderagal 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yup...*nods slowly* he sure is...*nods more* that Billy Graham...*stops nodding* Soooo since your married, i think you autta talk to yer boss and tell 'em...maybe your just misunderstanding friendliness for 'hitting on you'
*Hands chocolate cake*
My work here is done.
2007-04-29 09:38:28 · answer #6 · answered by I Am A French Fry 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
He's definitely hitting on you. Try to avoid him all you can without offending him. He does have the power to fire you. Of course you could sue for sexual harrassment if you get fired but it's very hard to prove without witnesses.
2007-04-29 09:40:45 · answer #7 · answered by luckford2004 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yup, he's making overtures, waiting to see how it will play. He hasn't progressed to the hitting on you stage yet.
2007-04-29 09:38:29 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Check here, you are being subtley harrassed:
http://www.workplacefairness.com
Post yourself on:
http://www.monster.com
to see if an opportunity comes up. For an alternative.
2007-04-29 09:39:50 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yes, he is hitting on you. You may want to find another job and do NOT put this one on your resume.
2007-04-29 09:38:48 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋