We are happy that she does! We just wonder if this inappropriately blurs the distinction between family and nanny.
2007-04-29 07:02:20 · 22 answers · asked by vandy 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Parenting
I would be okay with it. Your kids have a different type of bond with her and it's perfectly normal for her to love them and vice versa.
2007-04-29 07:15:07 · answer #1 · answered by punkin_eater26 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Wow... Yes, I would say that I would WANT whomever is caring for my child to love him/her.
When you say, "We just wonder if this inappropriately blurs the distinction between family and nanny".... I wonder, is there some appropriate way to blur the distinction between family and others? Your child will certainly remember the Nanny and hopefully fondly with sweet memories and having a Nanny NOT show affection toward your child would be horrible for the child. There is no way around your child becoming attached to and loving their Nanny if she is good to them. You make that choice when you decide to have others raise your child(ren).
I think the whole "nanny" issue is very sad from the beginning. Why would ppl wish to have a child/children and then not raise them themselves? Maybe this is why so many nowdays no longer feel such a loyalty to their family and rather, they are much more loyal toward their "friends"???
That big home, designer clothing and expensive vehicle are more important to people I suppose. Non of which is necessary and none of which a child will remember as bringing them happiness.
Anyway.... I hope your Nanny continues to tell you child that she loves him/her....for the sake of your child.
2007-04-30 02:08:16 · answer #2 · answered by ~Me~ 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
In many respects, a nanny IS a part of the family. The nanny is someone you place a HUGE amount of trust in, and they often have to deal with the children at a very personal, intimate level. The feelings created in both child and nanny are not subject to punching a time-clock.
It's perfectly appropriate for a nanny to give love to the child she or he cares for.
2007-04-29 07:11:51 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 5⤊ 0⤋
Yes...
I Babysit For A Family Of 5 For Many Years. I Started When There Was Only 3 Children. I Fell In Love With These Boys And They Started Calling Me "Aunt"... They Knew I Wasn't Related To Them, But I Was Their Babysitter... The 2 Oldest Kids Actually Asked Me If They Could Call Me "Aunt".
I Honestly Fell In Love With Those Kids And Always Tell Them I Love Them... They Give Me Hugs & Kisses All The Time... We're Pretty Close...
As Long As It's Not Akward For You, Then I'd Say Sure, Let Her Tell Your Kids She Loves Them. The More People Who Love Your Child The Better. It's Better Than Nobody Loving Them Right??
2007-04-29 07:08:27 · answer #4 · answered by Tink's Mommy 3 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Absolutely wonderful and appropriate! Kids need to know they are loved and accepted by more than just immediate family. It helps them to build friendships and trust with other people.
Make sure that your nanny also reminds your child how much mom and dad and other family members love him too.
I do home daycare and I have pictures of the kids' families so they can see mom/dad/grandma (whoever) all day long. At drop off time or whenever they seem like they are missing family, I remind them how much mom/dad loves them and are working hard and will be back to pick them up after nap (or whenever) so they can be together.
2007-04-29 07:15:41 · answer #5 · answered by journey 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It would be inappropriate if she didn't! A nanny should be "part of the family"! In my opinion, a child can never have enough people around who loves him and tells him that.
2007-04-29 09:02:05 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Of course it's not innappropriate. You hired a Nanny to care for your child in your absence as a surrogate parent. Children need love from all who are close to them. Would you prefer your child to see the nanny as an employee, a servant, or a surrogate parent and authority figure? I hope your child returns that love as well, not replacing that which he/she has for you but adding another adult to the list of people he loves and trusts and depends on. If she didn't tell him she loved him he might think she doesn't and this would lead to his being surly and uncooperative when you were not home. There is room in our hearts always for another person to love. If you are concerned about confusing family bonds speak with the nanny and tell her to always remind your child that his mom and dad love him too, occasionally pointing out to him that she is not his mom, just someone who loves him just as much. I'm sure she will comply with your wishes.
2007-04-29 07:18:52 · answer #7 · answered by Robert P 5 · 2⤊ 1⤋
It depends on how long she has been your nanny. if she just started working for you, then I would have concerns. However if your nanny has spent a great deal with your child she has probably grown to love him almost as much as you do. She will never replace you or your relationship with your child, and I wouldnt let others try to convince you otherwise.
2007-04-29 07:11:58 · answer #8 · answered by lilmissblossom 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
There is not such thing as too much love for a child and the more people who love them the better.
Good for you to have a Nanny like this one.
2007-04-29 07:24:25 · answer #9 · answered by daljack -a girl 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Of course. There is no such thing as too much love in a child's life. It sounds like you found a wonderful nanny.
2007-04-29 07:14:01 · answer #10 · answered by notyou311 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
In no way is is inappropriate! Each child needs to know he/she is loved by everyone around him/her... And to have a Nanny to reinforce the love that everyone shares is a great thing!
You obviously have a very caring and loving nanny and you should be proud of her for doing this...
Make sure you follow her example! :)
I wish you well...
Jesse
2007-04-29 07:06:55 · answer #11 · answered by x 7 · 5⤊ 0⤋