at the moment i am in a vicious circle of having low self esteem and confidence. I long to have a bf and never been in a proper relationship with a guy and just want ot know what its like. I see couples and i just long for that closeness and intimacy. I know guys are attracted to confident girls i just find it hard being confident as i dont feel good in myself as i cant attract them in the first place. Any advice would be appreciated
2007-04-29 05:01:22 · 8 answers · asked by ludvigjs 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
dont try too hard it will happen when you least expect it
2007-04-29 05:05:56 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
"I don't feel good in myself as i cant attract them in the first place."--- Your self esteem and confidence should not be based on attracting guys. You have to be confident in yourself because of you and no one else. Because you ARE beautiful, smart, thoughtful, friendly, and caring. Different characteristics attract different guys, and the only way to find the one attracted to you is to be yourself and feel great about it.
Also, a lot of guys are attracted to women or girls with low self esteem. The problem is most of these guys do it to use girls with low self-esteem and those who don't feel so good or confident with themselves. You have to be confident about yourself sweetie. And it has to be for you- not to attract a guy.
2007-04-29 05:16:29 · answer #2 · answered by Leah 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well I'd say fake it until it becomes you, until it becomes real. You need to have confidence when trying to attract guys cause you're gonna find out that not everyone who you're attracted to may be attracted to you...confidence is what lets you keep going instead of giving up and tossing in the towel.
Smile more...a smile always makes you look more approachable...think of something that makes you smile or laugh whenever you're out somewhere by yourself if you need help smiling.
Dress more approachable too...this does not mean dress like a skank...wear clothes that make you feel comfortable and look cute. Try for colours that you like...if you're into black for instance try spicing it up with another colour that you wouldn't normally wear like red, or yellow, or blue...pretty much anything goes with black.
It also helps when you give yourself a pep talk. Look in the mirror and talk to yourself...give yourself positive affirmations like saying why anyone would want to go out with your or be friends with you in the first place...like I'm smart, I'm beautiful, I know another language or whatever as long as it's positive it helps. There are days when I look in the mirror and think ahhh I look like crap today but I tell myself I'm beautiful and listen to upbeat music that makes me feel light and bouncy...that prolly sounds silly but it does work.
2007-04-29 12:11:03 · answer #3 · answered by Lucky 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well Girlfriend,
I went through exactly the same thing, do you know what I did to boost my confidence??.....
I went on a dating show that was on tv, oh my god it worked wonders for my self esteem girl!!
Truthfully, you've just got to learn to love yourself and be comforntable in your own skin, thats the biggest attraction for a man is confidence!
Wish you all the best honey, you'll get there xx
2007-04-29 05:12:08 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe my own trick will work for you. I'm a very shy person, but most of my friends wouldn't agree. The trick is, I act like I'm not when out in public. Have you ever acted in a play in school, or played make believe as a child? It's kinda like that. You remain yourself, but act like you are a confident person. I do it in the hopes that someday I convince myself that I'm not shy.
2007-04-29 05:20:32 · answer #5 · answered by Erin 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you already comprehend the respond on your situation. self expertise is sturdy to a definite improve. yet being too unsleeping ends up in self belief issues. intercourse isn't the main serious difficulty in life. attempt diverting your concentration on some thing else , like activities or some thing. i think of ladies of your age are greater wanting to journey intercourse than us adult men. attempt to excel in what you're sturdy at. this would help u build your self-worth. character is plenty greater important than the way u look whilst it includes attracting women.
2016-10-04 02:18:44 · answer #6 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
work on your self confidence first i would say,because sometimes when your esteem is low,you meet the wrong kind of people-good luck
2007-04-29 05:07:49 · answer #7 · answered by NATALIE W 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
just be yourself , when you are least expecting it LOVE comes along !!!
2007-04-29 05:05:04 · answer #8 · answered by ? 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋