I don't want to be. I don't see the point in the whole making your first communion and stuff. I see it as dumb, but I know my mom would KILL me if I told her this. I tried to bring up the subject with her, but she always says, "You're not thinking about not being Catholic are you?" And she goes through the whole conversation, but very angrily. I want to go to the church where my boyfriend does. No, he is not trying to get me to be his religion! We have only talked about religion once, and that was to ask what church I went to. He has not even asked me or told me to go to his church or switch or anything, so don't think that. What do I do?
2007-04-29 03:24:06 · 15 answers · asked by Anonymous in Society & Culture ➔ Religion & Spirituality
I don't want to go to my boyfriend's church just because he is there. That is plain stupidity.
2007-04-29 03:37:08 · update #1
Pastor Billy says: without going into great detail this entire statement (not question) is a fake. Any Catholic could spot it a mile away. You'd better learn more about the faith before attempting to pose as a Catholic.
2007-04-29 08:56:02 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know this sounds pretty lame but as long as you live with your parents you really need to be going to church where they go to church.
I can understand how you feel about the Catholic Church. As soon as I moved away and started college, I was off going to church wherever my friends went. After I while I was more comfortable in their church than the Catholic church. So I left the Catholic Church for about 20 years....
I returned. Why??? The other churches were more fun, they had better music, better sermons and better social functions. True. However, what the Catholic church taught was the same stuff that went back to the early Christians. There were no Protestants before the 16th century. Protestant doctrines like, "you can only use the Bible to learn about what's true," and "once saved always saved" are not taught in the Bible and cannot be supported by any Christian teachings before the 16th century.
True, the Catholics have some pretty strict traditions, and they want you to obey their authority all the time, but if you were to really investigate the what?, why? and since when? then you'll find that they have a good reason.
I hope you don't have to repeat what I did. Stick with it and discover the reasons and the beauty of being Catholic.
2007-05-02 19:09:10 · answer #2 · answered by Dr. D 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am guessing that you are still a minor? I would do as your mother has asked for the time being. I am not a Catholic, but I attend a Catholic Church with my wife who is Catholic. My kids also go to the Catholic Church, and they will in turn go through first communion. When they reach 18 they will have a choice of which church they want to attend. I want my kids in church and I want them to learn about Christ. If your boyfriend's parents are willing to let him go to your church, maybe that would be a solution for you. I am sure that your parents want you to be Catholic, but you do have free will and a choice, but your parents are probably thinking it is due to your boyfriend, and that is the only reason. Most parents would just as I think that is the main reason now. This could cause alot of problems for you and your boyfriend if you are not willing to listen to your parents, it could come to where they will try stopping you from seeing him. See if he will come with you, it will also give your parents a chance to know him even better in a Church environment.
good luck
2007-04-29 10:48:51 · answer #3 · answered by Tim 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I was raised a catholic too. I never got the whole thing. I had so many questions, and I definitely had a problem with Jesus. I too tried to talk to my mom about this, but like yours, she'd only want to hear what she wanted to hear. You're still young and I don't think you have much of a choice in the matter. I'm 37 now and I've finally found what I've been searching for. You're pretty much going to have to play along until you move out and can make your own money and your own decisions. Then she can give you her opinion, but you can still believe what you want. In regards to going to your boyfriends' church, well that's probably not going to happen. Maybe you could talk your mom into letting you go there with him as long as you still do all your "catholic" stuff. ?? Who knows what she'll say. (Probably no, but I guess it doesn't hurt to ask)
You're just going to have to wait and be patient. Your time will come, just like mine did.
2007-04-29 11:32:22 · answer #4 · answered by EarthGirl 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have received some very good advice here about honoring your mothers wishes. What you should do is immerse yourself in learning about the Catholic church available at your Church. I strongly recommend that you attend apologetics classes if offered to learn what your Church teaches and about all the misunderstandings about the Catholic Church that comes from more worldly religions and people. If you truly study for a few years you can make an informed decision about your faith and I believe this is your mothers desire for you. Without knowledge one is easily influenced and deceived by the world. Your mother does not want you to fall prey to false teaching that comes from outside Christ's Church. God bless!
In Christ
Fr. Joseph
2007-04-29 10:46:54 · answer #5 · answered by cristoiglesia 7 · 3⤊ 0⤋
If you are a minor, I suggest you do as your mother tells you, even if you don't want to be a Catholic anymore. Don't go to your boyfriend's church only because "he is there".
In some US States (and many Countries) minors over age 14 can decide their religious beliefs, and parents cannot stop them from going to any other church or practice any other belief, because if they do, they violate the minor's religious freedom, which is guaranteed by the Constitution.
However, I believe that you should obey your mother, and when you are old enough, you can go to any church you want to. Remember that your mother only does what she thinks is best for you, because she loves you.
2007-04-29 10:35:40 · answer #6 · answered by David G 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Right now you seem to be a luke-warm Catholic like I used to be years back. Communion, Confession , nothing made sense to me. I went for Confession because my mom forced me to, not because I wanted to. When I started falling into trouble and sufferings came my way, that is when I started thinking of God and began praying. God was merciful to me inspite of my sins and ignorance of my Catholic faith. As I began praying( slowly for starts) He gave me the grace to come closer to Him. I started studying about my own faith. I turned to Our Lady for help in the daily Rosary.
Today by God's grace, I'm very passionate about my Catholic faith and would rather die than give it up. I learnt by reading that the Catholic faith is the only true faith since it was Christ who instituted the Catholic church. All other churches are man-made and do not assure you of salvation. Attendance at other christian churches will water down your own Catholic faith by introducing errors. You may begin to feel that all churches and religions lead to the same God which is the biggest error. Non Catholics have many misconceptions about Mary, the saints, the Pope and everything Catholic, and you may start thinking like them and lose your own rich faith and fall into mortal sin. Mortal sin if unconfessed to a Catholic priest will lead you to hell.
I think your mother is very fearful that you will lose your Catholic faith and thus your soul. It is her love and concern for you that causes her to behave the way she does. Assure her that it will never happen. Start reading up on the basics of Catholicism. What is Communion? Why confess to a priest? Why pray to Mary and the saints? Go for confession and tell the priest about your failing faith. He will guide you. If at all possible start praying , a little prayer to begin with, asking God and Our Blessed Mother to guide you. Start with one Hail Mary a day, bring it up to three, then try to say a decade of the Rosary daily. Slowly you will feel the desire to say the daily Rosary( at least five decades) . Try to say the daily Rosary with your mother even if you dont feel like it. You will learn to like praying.
I pray that God and The Blessed Virgin will restore your faith and strengthen you. Check out the following link and try to read a little a day:
http://www.olrl.org/
2007-05-02 09:29:32 · answer #7 · answered by Pat 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Go where you feel peace, I was a Mormon for 36 years and felt depressed, then wicca (my parents didn't know) and felt depressed, then Atheist (I think my parents knew) and I was still depressed. I became a Christian and got saved and I was happy for once and my parents said I was going to burn, but i was happy for once and not suicidal. I couldn't be a Mormon anymore and be brainwashed or go thru the rituals and I felt my salvation was in trouble so I refused to listen to my parents. You can't let your parent's rule you forever. Maybe you feel like you are rebelling against your parents, but sometimes you have to decide what God wants for you and not what your parents want for you. So its between you and God now.
2007-04-29 10:52:52 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Try talking to your priest. Like go to confession and talk about this all. He can't repeat it to anyone else (not even your mom!) so you have some privacy while getting this off your chest. I'm praying for you.
Peace and Love
2007-04-29 10:36:16 · answer #9 · answered by ineptmarquado 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Just let her know how you feel. If she gets overly mad, then you know how you and your mother stand. But most mothers would let their children make their own choices, I'd imagine. If your mom gets mad though, you can follow your boyfriend's religion by heart until you're eighteen.
2007-04-29 10:36:37 · answer #10 · answered by Stardust 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋