Engagement ring for MY taste?

Question

Back when my boyfriend and I were "just friends" he showed me his grandmother's wedding ring, which he plans to use when he proposes. At the time, we chatted about how he could have the stone re-set. None of his ideas fit with my style, but since we were just friends at the time it didn't really matter.

Well, now he's been sending out test balloons that indicate he might be getting ready to think about popping the question. How can I let him know what kinds of rings I'd like? My style is kind of unusual and I don't wear a lot of jewelry so he might not know what kinds I like....I love him and I want to marry him, but I also don't want him to have his grandmother's diamond reset in a ring I won't really want to wear for the rest of my life...

Answer 1

Show your best friend the ring you want, have her let him know that if he ever needs help picking out that special ring that she knows exactly what you would want...and that she knows how important it is for him to pick one that you would like, since you are so picky....hopefully he will get the not so subtle hint and take her advice.

My sister always shows me what to show her husband....and my sister and I always pick out my dads gifts to my mom.

Answer 2

When my hubby and I started talking about it, we went to the mall one day and just started looking at rings. I told him specifically that I DID NOT want a solitaire. I just really truly didn't like them. I wanted one with at least three stones, i didn't care the size or anything but that was my one requirement. So when he proposed, guess what I got? A solitaire. My initial reaction was true dislike. (I didn't tell him that right away though, don't worry.) It wasn't until right before we got married that I finally confessed that I didn't like the ring. He explained to me why he picked it out. I'm not a jewelry wearer either so the ring he picked out didn't have any claws so if I bumped my hand while working on the farm or something, then I didn't have to worry about the diamond falling out. I couldn't believe that he had put that much though into it! He picked what was best for me, not necessarily what I would like the most.

And it was actually a set with a wedding band. Guess how many stones the wedding band has on it? 3 little ones! So with the two of the rings put together, it now looks like a comet with a tail and I love it! Still wouldn't have been my first choice, but he really did know me better than I initially thought.

So in summery, you may not initially like it, but once you discover why he did it that way, it will warm your heart. I would still say let him know (by window shopping or through a friend and all the other suggestions you've had) what you like. but don't be too disappointed if he decides on someting different. He wants to pick what he thinks would be best for you and, as the saying goes, it's the thought that counts. and besides, you can alway custom make a wedding band to complement it so it becomes more your style. Good luck!

Answer 3

My (now) husband and I went to a diamond show at a jewelers. The man had over 1,000 settings to look at and chose from. I had the jeweler custom make mine by showing her the elements I liked from the different designs. The shows are definitely the way to go b/c they have so many settings there to see and chose from--plus it is rather difficult to tell what you like about a setting with the diamond already in it. If the diamond is subpar to what you want, it's hard to see the setting and imagine the diamond wasn't there.

I was there when my finace bought the diamond and ordered the setting. However, it was still over a month until it was finished and I was still surprised by his proposal--I didn't know when the ring came in or when he might propose.

However especially if you are not going to be happy with just a regular plain setting (and clearly you already know you have rather unique ideas) I'd suggest you go to a couple of these together and discuss what ideas you really like. Even if you don't find the perfect one at the show/expo, you'll have been able to discuss what you liked and didn't like where he can actually see what you are talking about.

After all like you said, you don't want to have an engagement ring you never wear b/c you don't like the style. Anything that costs this much money, you should want to wear everyday.

Answer 4

I think it's very cool that he loves you enough to give you something cherished as his grandmothers ring, to change that maybe disrespecting her memory to him, I'd talk to him about it and if he's just not comfortable changing it then I'd just accept it. If you know for sure he's gonna ask soon then I'd talk to him, be honest..let him know that you're honored to get his grandmother's ring but would it be ok to put it in a different setting. Most importantly be honest with him, but also be ready if he feels to change it is to disrespect his grandmother then to just wear it as it is.

Answer 5

when a man gives his bride to be "the" ring, he really wants it to sweep her off her feet.

you have to bring it up direvtly... men dont pick-up on beat around the bush talk very well.

just tell him. compliment the ring and tell him what you would want when your day ever comes.

it will do two things... 1: let him know what you want and 2: let him know you are open to the idea of saying yes.

if you cant talk openly about something as simple as your engagement ring... you are not anywhere near ready to enter into marriage with this lucky fella.

Answer 6

honestly tell him "remember when you asked me about having your grandmother's stone reset" then show him online some ideas of items that you do like. I'm sure he'd appreciate the input. I know my husband was truly interested in what types of rings I preferred before he asked me to marry him and although I told him I wanted the decision to be his I did show him pictures online of items that attracted me over the weeks before he asked.

Answer 7

I think I would just tell him. If you are not into being that blunt at first, go to the mall with him and stop by a jewelry counter and start showing him what you like and dislike.

Answer 8

So me guys you need to be blunt with but not too blunt just tell him that the only one who really knows what type of rings I like is (name a friend) and then tell her what you like and she can show him at the ring store

Answer 9

You have to show him what you like. Make a file with a collection of the type of rings you like and give it to him on a flash drive. He can look at it at his leisure and select what he likes from the ones that you like and you will still be surprised at what he selects.

Answer 10

Sit him down and give him a tour of a jewelry website, pointing out what you LOVE.