after 3 months of dating
2007-04-29 02:10:47 · 15 answers · asked by . 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Because from a biological perspective women and men tend to view sex differently. (Remember that what I say hear is oversimplified and over generalized but the basics are there)
Here is the biological reason that sex changes relationships.
1. The number one biological drive is to get as many copies of your genes into the future generations as possible.
2. The reason we find sex enjoyable is because its purpose is reproduction.
3. Men and women achieve maximum reproductive rates differently. This is the clincher. Women are limited in the number of children they can have by their own bodies. Men are only limited by the number of women they can find and have sex with. This leads problems like you mentioned.
Here is what this leads to.
Women should be looking for quality (the definition of quality causes problems here but that is a different question). Anyway, men tend to search for quantity.
When a couple starts dating the women's attraction to the man tend to increase as she decides that yes this would be a good match. The mans attraction increases until the two have sex, then if VERY strong emotional bonds are not already in place it will wane. The man begins to search (at least subconsciously) for another woman. This causes him to have a roaming eye and perhaps do a little flirting, even cheat or simply find a different woman.
Meanwhile the woman has become more attached to the man. Because it is possible she is pregnant and may need someone to help with the child (even if she only thinks this subconsciously). This causes here to want to increase the emotional portion of the relationship. She becomes more attached.
The man tends to see the increased attachment as clingyness and begins to feel pressured. Many split.
Basically remember this. (and remember they are oversimplified generalities). Sex tends to decrease how attracted the man is to the woman, but it increases the emotional attachment of the woman to the man. This disparity causes conflict.
To limit these problems be VERY certain of your relationship before becoming sexually active. If you are a woman realize that if you have sex the man will almost certainly be less attracted to you than he was before. Also remember that you will be more attached to him, especially if he is your first. Make certain that the emotional bonds are there and very strong. I know this is all unfair but unfortunately these are strong biological drives that are hard to overcome.
BTW I go over this very question every year in the reproductive section of Anatomy class.
2007-04-29 02:46:33 · answer #1 · answered by Jeff Sadler 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If your having sex with some one after 3 months it must have been the right time. But, Some times you just want to be with that person but not in that way. It also depends on your or the other persons maturity level. If not then this can always be a sticky subject and a lot of tension where there wasn't any before. What you need to do is talk. Let the other person how you feel. Better to know now then later. Good luck
2007-04-29 02:23:32 · answer #2 · answered by dshrhammer 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sex changes everything. Along with it comes a lot of responsibility especially as children appear on the scene and they usually come unexpectedly. Sometimes the guy bails out on the woman leaving her to fend for herself and the child and does nothing to help her out. Safe sex is helpful but not guaranteed to prevent these surprises. Your best bet is to be sure of your significant other before you get involed too deeply in sexual activities which could spare you a lot of regrets if things go awry and they often times do.
2007-04-29 02:23:06 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I'm not very sure what you are asking.
In my opinion sex changes everything between 2 ppl. It is part of giving your self to another. It is trust, and once you have sex with someone both of you will always have a different relationship.
2007-04-29 02:15:45 · answer #4 · answered by sankyfinatra 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
It gives a deeper connection when you are intimate with someone, but you shouldn't have sex after only 3 months unless you're ready to have that type of attachment to each other
2007-04-29 02:13:47 · answer #5 · answered by Unique 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Sex changes the relationship. Sex is a bond between two people.
2007-04-29 02:15:41 · answer #6 · answered by Wild Bill 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Social convention attaches deeper significance to sex. Especially if a relationship goes three months before having it.
If sex happens on the first night then nothing is changed.
2007-04-29 02:13:41 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Sex should have no baring on couples that have been dating for a given period of time, thus if one or the other pressures one for sex, the one being pressured should do what he/she thinks best, even if it means slowing or breaking off the relationship...
2007-04-29 02:16:03 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
IT SHOULDN'T MATTER BUT TO GUYS IT'S A GAME TO SEE HOW MANY GIRLS THEY CAN SCREW. ONCE YOU HAVE SEX WITH A GUY WHEN YOUR YOUNG IT CHANGES EVERYTHING. AFTER 3 MONTHS THEN YOU BF N GF THERE SHOULD BE NO PROBLEM UNLESS HE DOESN'T SEE YOUS AS BF N GF ????
2007-04-29 02:18:15 · answer #9 · answered by purpllovex3 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
well...as a guy...getting sex means...that we pasted that stage of impressing girls...by offering us sex u blatantly propose that we can now act as...well...a "man"...we now feel confortable around you (since we've seen everything) and we get lazy...as in fewer dates...less flowers...and more sex...
to put things simple...sex is a way for a woman to control us...
2007-04-29 02:15:47 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋