Im burning the candle at both ends, i go out all the time and get drunk with my friends, i cant seem to say no to them. i have no money and im gettin myself in trouble and makin myself ill. any advice? Practical advice would be good please.
2007-04-29 00:30:36 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous in Health ➔ Other - Health
You need to learn to please yourself before you please others. Plan inexpensive things to do alone or with others so you are too busy to go drinking all the time. You need to get a handle on your life and use a little self-control.
2007-04-29 00:34:51 · answer #1 · answered by Gone fishin' 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
First, tell them that you need to curtail the activities so you can get yourself back on track. Then once you've settled down a bit, ask yourself if you have a problem that requires counseling. If it does, then try to seek help from a loved one who doesn't party all the time or from a doctor. You should make a list of your priorities to see if any of them have been obstructed by your burning the candle at both ends. If so, you need to adjust your lifestyle by whatever means is necessary, if you are serious about doing it.
2007-04-30 04:20:33 · answer #2 · answered by gone 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get rid of these no -good friends. They would be the cause for your downfall.It seems these friends of yours are deadbeats and people-users only Reassess your life. Try setting up priorities in life.
Set up realistic goals; What are your short term goals? What are your long term goals? What are your present and future plans and the direction that your future life is heading for or aiming. Are you going to be a survivor or a victim to the pleasures of the flesh?
Are you going to be successful in life? Are you going to finish school and get that career? Are you going to be a productive member of your community? What are your ambitions in life? Burning candles at both ends will eventually take plight on your total health and well-being.
Examine the real reason for drinking. Are you just drowning your sorrrows? Is it a coping mechanism to existing problems? Drinking will cause depression and will cloud your judgment.
The reason you have no money, probably; it's because you squander them all on drinking; or women or smoking. .
2007-04-29 08:03:11 · answer #3 · answered by rosieC 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You don't say how old you are! Regardless, you need some professional help, and you need it NOW> In the meantime, stay away from your friends until you get this problem under control.Your health and well being are at great risk if you continue to do what you are doing. Go see a Doctor.No practical advice from anyone can help you. You need professional guidance and possibly medication to help you .
The choice is yours, get help and become well again, or keep on the same path with "friends " who encourage you to use alcohol and really get sick.
2007-04-29 07:41:53 · answer #4 · answered by Alfie333 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why can't you say no to your friends? That would seem to be the easiest thing to do to break the cycle. Pick one or two nights a week when you go out with mates and only take a limited amount of money (cash) with you - when that's gone it's time to go home! The nights you are in you can take care of yourself, catch up on your rest, eat properly etc. otherwise your body will catch up with you and slow you right down. If they're true friends then they will understand this.
2007-04-29 07:37:02 · answer #5 · answered by JJ 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sorry but it is up to you.... take responsibility for your own life. Kick the drink habit ... you will probably have to change your friends too, they probably wont seem such cool and interesting people when you are not '3 sheets to the wind' anyway.
Take up a new hobby which doesn't involve drinking..... take up Tai Chi (very relaxing, gives you a buzz and can lead your mind into all sorts of interesting areas and great if you aren't too fit - frees up your joints, improves your posture and clears your head).
I used to drink a lot when I was younger, but now very rarely drink at all - I just got happy with my life and relationship.
2007-04-29 07:49:15 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like you are adrift. Sit down and really think about what you really want. How you want to live, etc. If you don't have a plan and an objective then you are going nowhere. Set a goal, you don't have to know how you going to get there when you start the plan, it will evolve over time. Just keep focussing on it and it will happen.
2007-04-29 07:35:16 · answer #7 · answered by Pure Star 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Your bank manager will stop you soon enough. sign up a direct debit with a gym before he does, then at least when your broke you'll still have to go to the gym and get healthy again.
2007-04-29 07:33:07 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
sorry to hear that buddy, its not only costly its bad for your health,
i would say go with them once a month or once a week whatevers good for u. Just dont be scared to say no.
2007-04-29 07:37:20 · answer #9 · answered by Hisham Z 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Begin with yourself.You have to make more of an effort.
2007-04-29 07:35:46 · answer #10 · answered by beavis b 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋