am i a problematic?

Question

i didn't meant this to happened...it was an accident...i called my father around 1:10 p.m. to tell him to pick me up at school...after that, i decided to accompany my friend to the bus stop...okay, i might be talking with her for a long time till i didn't realized that my father already arrived...so i stepped into his car and he was like...screaming and shouting that he had been waiting 4 me for a long time...i was thinking...WTF!!!

THIS IS THE 1ST TIME I'M LATE TO GET INTO HIS CAR...but why can't he go easy on me...like i said, it was an accident...i was too busy talking with my friend...why do i have such terrible , hot-tempered parents...why can't they at least love me...i'm longing 4 a lovable parents 4 a very long time...

why can't they at least respect me?

i've been depressed 4 a long time, and i think i can't take this anymore...JUST BECAUSE OF MY PARENTS...

Answer 1

To put it bluntly -- as a Long Term Single Parent myself -- when I HAD To take off from work, and go to the school to pick up a child (who is ill, injured, or missed the bus), then ...

When they ask, and I tell them I am headed over and will be there in x amount of time .. I get there ....

THEN Find out the "Child" is NOT there -- but has walked away and is goofing off/talking, or doing other things and NOT where I expected -- and MAKES ME WAIT ...

YES, you ARE the problem!

It is DISRESPECTFUL to the extreme! WHY can't YOU RESPECT YOUR PARENTS who work to put the roof over your head and the food in your stomach and who are caring enough to come to the place to PICK up your ungrateful, disrespectful self!!!!!!!

It was NOT an 'accident' -- it was DELIBERATE -- and I can say that from experience. It was a way to HUMILIATE your parent, and yes, a way for you to 'BRAG' to your so-called 'friends' how much "CONTROL" you have in the HOME of your parents.

THIS is PATHETIC -- and .. once again .. DISRESPECT to the PARENT.

GROW UP!!!!! Get responsibility, and be where you agreed to be ON TIME and Don't make the PARENT WAIT!!!!

Answer 2

Sometimes you have to think about your parents and what they might be going through...this is really hard to do until you get older, but consider this:

Dad might have other things on his mind: work, money, a project he was working on, somewhere else he needs to be, maybe he's feeling unloved or under appreciated too...

Loving your family has to be the most self-less thing you can do...you have to learn to be able to forgive them for anything, and always be quick to apologize...the best way to get love is to give love back...so maybe do something nice for your dad - breakfast in bed, bring him something he likes(the newspaper, the mail, a drink, etc.) with a note in it that says "I'm sorry I was late the other day...Will you forgive me? What can I do to not make you upset next time? You could wash his car, make him a sandwich...do something nice for your mom to. It would make a really big impact if you continue to do this stuff for weeks.

And of course, they'll ask why...and you can just tell them you're trying to be a good kid so they'll not get so mad at you all the time.

Becoming closer over little dumb things like that will make it a lot easier when you run into bigger problems later down the road.

Answer 3

Growing up is always hard. But sounds to me like you love your parents, even you are complaining a bit , so forgiveness is the key.
I dont know y he was so freak out about, maybe he had a bad day or somthing in his mind so was very upset. Forgive him.
Maybe a cheap cell phone for members of the family will make things easier. Talk about that with them.
Would you scream at your friend if he/she makes you wait a long time, let say an hour in front of a store?

Answer 4

i am a parent, and am sure your parents love you very much. your parent has a life as well as you and sitting around for you doent sound much of a life for him. you want respect then you need to respect your father, you are too rapped up in your own little world to see what other people are doing for you. this may sound harsh, but i know i was there where you are and now i am the parent. i just worry soooo much about my children, so when i get scared that maybe something has happened to them my reaction is to shout. i know this sounds like a clechie but, you will understand once you have kids of your own. dont be depressed your life is just beginning, give your parents some slack and i am sure they will give you some. have you thought maybe your parents have got problems of their own, maybe at work at home, maybe, that is why they are soooo hot tempered. anyway, dont leave thing to get worse e.g. your depression go to the doctor, as this problem can be solved. good luck and god bless.

Answer 5

Kids expect repsect from their parents but I see very few that respect the parents. Kids think parents owe them. Remember who feeds and clothes you. HOw many mothers stayed up night after night with their crying babies or sick children. Kids do not realize what parents go through to raise their kids and it is harder and harder with each generation. I treated my parents like crap and showed them no respect and now as an adult I realize all they did for me and I treated them horribly and with little respect. How hard would it have been to be there on time. Your dad has more important things to do then sitting in a car while youa re gabbing and gossiping with your friends.

Answer 6

Sweetheart sometimes parents forget what it's like to be a kid.You really need to tell them everything u told us. Do it when both of u are calm and willing to listen.Tell him how u feel when he screams at u. Just tell him. He can't read your mind. Let him know u got caught up in talking to a friend and u didn't do it on purpose.Let him know that everyone makes mistakes and that u are sorry. Let him know it was the first time it happen and why did he have to scream at u.Let him know your not perfect and u are doing the best u can.That should make him think.Good luck

Answer 7

There is something to remember about parents...
They're not much different from you.

Have you ever been stressed out about an argument with a friend or something and yelled at someone without thinking?
Parents do that too. They get stressed by things and need to vent just like everyone else.

Something you might try next time.. (if there is one)..
Let him vent, and then ask him what has him so upset.
Maybe its money problems, trouble with someone at work, or maybe he's just afraid he's going bald or something, but if he will tell you what is stressing him out, he is less likely to take that stress out on you later.

Answer 8

You're not a problematic...we all have parents who act up for no reason at all. Probably he was just in a bad mood or something. Anyways, you should start learning to love yourself and keeping in mind that no one has the right to make you feel inferior without your consent; even your own parents.

Answer 9

Parents get like that at times, PuPu. Just raising kids in these times is hard, and they get a bit uptight. Don't take it to heart, at least he did turn up and wait!

Answer 10

You are never problematic,

you seems to be very intelligent, yet inorder to understand your parents, you need to acquire a lot more experiences about life,
so accept the facts, your father is like that, and its not your problem at all.
You need not to worry.