Why do a lot of men not open the doors for ladies?

Question

When you are on dates or just because.

Do you think the ladies like there doors opened?

Answer 1

Since the 1960s Women's Liberation movement and with increasing intensity through today, men are told constantly that women are not the weaker sex, that women have all the same rights and privileges as men, and that women are perfectly capable of opening their own doors, pulling out their own chairs and paying for their own meals.

Personally, I still open doors, until I am specifically asked not to do so.

Answer 2

Men have gotten a way from opening doors for woman for a few reasons.
1) it is because the men are loosing there manors.
2) they don't have respect for the woman that is around them.
3) I have found that If I hold doors open for woman they sometimes get offended because they think that they don't need a man to do for them. and sometimes I get afraid not knowing what I should do I was brought up with manors and to show respect but when I get comments from woman that they don't need some guy to do for them then I question what I am doing, and if today's woman is worth doing anything for. It is really confusing for guys to want to do for woman, and then when the guy does do for the woman and gets treated like Sh-t for doing it. So most guys don't even bother anymore because of the hassel. And if you look at it guys are getting hasseled doing it for woman and they get hasseled for not doing for woman. and that is what is the problem. It is not the guy it is you woman not making up your minds as to how you want to be treated buy men and if you don't send a clear message why should we as men try. it is just not worth the hassel.

Answer 3

I think it's very nice when a man opens doors for me, regardless of the situation. I'm certainly not averse to opening a door for a man or anybody else who has his hands full as well, and have done so many times.

Answer 4

From what my male friends have told me, it's because they've had their heads bitten off one time too many by an unappreciative woman! (The snarling, "I can do it myself" types.)
I personally like it when anyone opens (or holds) the door for me, even though I am perfectly capable of doing it, as I consider it to be an act of common courtesy - regardless of the genders of the parties involved. And I hold doors for others, too. It's a pity that simply being nice has become so fraught with politics.

Answer 5

I have no idea! I consider myself a lady and when a male opens a door for me, I sure think he's a gentleman for still being MAN enough to make me FEEL like a lady. ;) I was at a Kohls dept. store this weekend and was trying to figure out with a non-visible disability I have, how in the heck I was going to get my cart through two sets of non-automatic doors. A gentleman, maybe 20, said, "Heh, let me get those doors for you!" I thanked him and told him he must have read my mind. He smiled and even offered to load my SUV. I declined but smiled several times later that day thinking about how nice (and RARE) it is to find someone that age that still knows how to be a true gentleman! Yes, women want equal job pay, etc., etc. but we are STILL ladies and like to be treated like them. He was young enough to be my son but he, if he hasn't already is going to make some young lady very happy and proud- I am sure his parents raised him to be a gentleman and so many don't these days.

Answer 6

I always hold the door for ladies that I know. Except say coming out of a store cause I'd be pissed that we had to stand in line for so long.

Lol, but I seldom do it for strangers because I've had a few be like "What do you think I need doors opened for me?" And then I let it hit their face it was pretty funny.

Answer 7

Because some men are no longer taking care of their responsibilities and in some cases women are not allowing the father of their children visitation. Women are now raising the boys by themselves. The sad part is that we can't teach a boy how to be a man. Our kids mimic what we do. A son is never going to see his mother opening doors for people and most women don't encourage their sons to open doors. Another reason for this problem is that women are so use to not having the door held open that we walk ahead of the men and don't give them the opportunity to hold the door. Sometimes you just have to slow down and give them the opportunity to walk infront of you. :-)

Answer 8

Because we have hands too and know perfectly well how to open doors by ourselves?

I guess men are just confused about what we want, whether we want to be treated as equals or taken care of with special treatment as if we're fragile and helpless by ourselves. They don't know whether chivalry is appropriate anymore I guess, and I can't blame them because that's something us women can't even agree on yet.

Answer 9

Because a lot of women today think that chivalry and chauvanism are one and the same. When men open doors for these kind of women they get repremanded because they're assumed to be saying that women are weak, etc.

Answer 10

Basic courtesy went out the window the day fundamental feminists sold the rest of us the idea that we did not need it anymore, or that it was an offensive show of men's oppressive behavior.

To me it means I'm noticed, and a little courtesy on both sides goes a long way.