Should I leave him?

Question

For the past three years, I was being treated for female reproductive problems. I recently found out that the problem I was being treated for was incorrect. I have gained a substantial amount of weight over the last three years and did not know why. I finally went to see a doctor who was able to figure out the true problem. The medical condition I have makes you gain weight. I have changed my diet including the fact that I had to give up drinking alcohol. I have been exercising like crazy and have actually lost 15 pounds in 1 1/2 months.
The problem is, my husband acts so concerned, but the minute we go out, he is breaking his neck looking at other women (smaller than me). I am really trying to lose the weight, now that I know what is wrong with me. When he does this, it makes me feel bad, like if I did not gain the weight, he would be looking at me instead. Or, the fact that he used to look at me like that. When I try to talk to him about it, he tells me I am just insecure.

Answer 1

I know you love him but, he should know that what is in the heart is what matters, beauty fades with time and if he can't love you for the you that is in side then he should get out. and besides, you deserve better, NEVER forget that...

Answer 2

If your husband is looking at other women in front of you at all that is a sign of a problem in your marriage. Sorry to be the one who has to tell you this but seriously. If he is looking at the women in front of your, I wonder what he does when you aren't there. Makes you think doesn't it. However, if you guys have an "open" marriage then I guess that isn't your problem. On the other hand, if he did actually love you and marry you for who you are in the inside, your gaining weight should not have an affect on him. He could comment about it, but being overly concerned is not normal. Maybe a marriage consular is the answer since he won't "talk" to you or tell the truth when you two have one on one conversations. Don't think about marriage counseling as a bad thing, just an extra push to being your marriage closer together.

Answer 3

oh for god sake GROW UP!! its always the fat thing with you women.. god!!! you lose a little weight and now you wanna leave your husbands? is it some kinds sickness you women are born with?? just because he looks at skinny women ..so what.. he has a right to look at something nice to the eye ..doesn't mean he is mind F.U.C.King them does it?? and you cant tell me you never looked at men your self . because i know you have ,,and after 3 years when a females body changes the man does kinda lose interest.. I'm sure in the beginning it was all new and you looked better,, now you went down hill.. the same feeling are gone sorry you have to except it I'm sure he loves you very much ..maybe more

Answer 4

I'm a woman and I hate this terrible of habit of man specially married ones. Even those who have slim partners look at the other girls and I think most of them do it unintentionally but it really is annoying for women. Divorce doesn't sound like a good idea. Tr talking to him or if you can't try going to see a consultant. Leave the divorce as the last choice.

Answer 5

Don't leave him ...yet.
Try to sit down and talked things out. Does he still feels for you? Is he worried that he may not get satisfied by you anymore? Because a husband shld not cracked his neck to see another woman especially wif his wife walking alongside him. Unless of course the wife pointed to a woman as an exhibition. Come on lady...you can do it. Just take some determination. Prove your critics wrong and shut them up.

Answer 6

Hes a jerk. Maybe its time for you to play the stupid mind game that never seems to cease with people and start flirting with other men. There are men out there who prefer heavier females. If it turns out hes cheating then definatly leave him. Stick to your weight lose program and get all sexy looking like he knows you can and enjoy the groveling. Next find a good man who knows what love is....like me honey. I will help you stay looking gorgeous and treet you like a queen. (Within reason) Our days will be consumed with thoughts of each other. And when we get home in the evenings....BAM.

Answer 7

What do you tell him when you talk to him about it? Do you tell him that it hurts you? Or just that it bothers you? Do you tell him that you really think he might cheat on you? If you think he'll cheat on you or he doesn't care that it hurts you, then you might seriously want to leave him. If he's just looking because it's window dressing and he likes to look, then it might just be you. It's tough to feel sexy after gaining some weight, but don't give up because it sounds like you're doing really well.

Answer 8

Try talking with him about how this all is making you feel. Oh and keep exercising because there will come a day when he'll realize what a hottie he's married to. Just try to stick this phase out.

Answer 9

Sounds like you married a "Shallow Hal." What a shame. He should not be making you feel insecure like that. Jerk.

Congrats for losing the weight. It's not as easy as people think (mostly men).

Answer 10

Congratulations on losing the weight and exercising. Good for you!!!
The best thing to do is get professional help. First you and then have him come in with you to talk to a professional.

Answer 11

Aww. I'm sorry but I think a husband should love the person they married for the rest of their lives. No Matter What! That is bull crap. I cant tell you to leave him or stay but i think what he is doing is bull. I bet your real cute and you could find someone else. Good luck.