Friday was my birthday. When my parents were cutting my cake, they started arguing. They were yelling at each other, and then my older brother started arguing with them. As soon as they started arguing, i set my plate down and left the room. If this was the 1st time they did this, i would have no problem. But, they constantly are fighting. I was severly upset. I wasnt upset about not getting anything as a present for my birthday, i was upset that my family couldnt be a family for just one day. That too, my 18th birthday. After i left the room, i got my car keys and left the house for about 3 hours, just driving around. I didnt answer their phone calls. When i got home, i went straight to my room. The next day, i didnt come out of my room all day, even with the pleading from my family.
I dont feel that i am making a strong enough statement!
What should i do to get their attention, and make them realize they were wrong.
p.s. im still in my room!
2007-04-28 19:32:37 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Good job, sometimes you have to be a little radical to make a point, although in all honesty this isn't going to solve their problem. You have done enough, I assume they "get" why you reacted this way, but there is a difference between making a point and solving a problem. And move OUT!!!
2007-04-29 01:01:58 · answer #1 · answered by The Scorpion 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You must have feel bad. Verbal aggression and fighting in the family make everyone upset and unhappy. I suppose what you did is correct.
Why you want to get their attention when they already plead the next day? They know what they have done. You cant change that.
You should rather concern that wont happen again in future. You cant change behaviour. But least you should guide and educate harmony in the family.
When you are being dumb i suppose they know and you have already sent a message of your unhappiness.
Anyway, happy birthday......! Wish you all the best.
2007-04-28 20:13:43 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
When things are a little more peaceful, talk with each parent separately and in private and tell them how much it really hurts you to see them fighting. Tell them that you will do your part to be a good family member (and do it) by doing your chores, not wasting resources like $, electricity and water. Make it clear that you love both parents and do not want to "take sides" in a battle. Be aware that family problems can take months, even years to be resolved (if ever) so the suggestions I make are just suggestions.
2007-04-28 19:44:42 · answer #3 · answered by Santa C 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You've made a pretty strong statement here,sweetie. Write out what you want to say. Don't get angry, yell, or accuse. Just tell them that when they fight, it makes you feel...how? And tell them what you'd like to see them do to solve the problem.
You might add, very calmly, that since you're 18, if they aren't willing to work toward a solution, you think it's time for you to consider moving out because it's making you so unhappy. Good luck!
2007-04-28 19:47:00 · answer #4 · answered by Alice K 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-12-29 14:50:59 · answer #5 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe you should consider moving out. Your 18th is a special occasion.Moving out would be a major statement.
2007-04-29 00:02:42 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Can't be more adult that by discussing it openly and rationally. hiding in your room is a pretty childish thing for someone who just celebrated their 18th birthday... that is an adult here in Australia, and is old enough to talk, rather than react.
2007-04-28 19:38:33 · answer #7 · answered by Jodes 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
not really sure, the more time you give them time the more time they would realize that you would get over it sooner or later. should have complained on the same day just explain your situation
2007-04-28 19:37:02 · answer #8 · answered by i ♥ Food 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well...i really think that just you and your parents need to sit down together and you need to tell them how you feel. even show them this letter that you have wrote.
*you really need to stress at them...without getting cranky at them and having a fight because you definately don't want them fighting again....just really explain to them what it is doing to you...
***let me know how it goes...good luck. i hope it changes things for you and your parents.
2007-04-28 21:10:34 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Try stop talking to them for one whole week. They know something wrong then.
2007-04-28 20:50:28 · answer #10 · answered by oneofmillions 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋