2007-04-28 19:27:28 · 12 answers · asked by n00b 2 in Health ➔ Mental Health
the situation isn't happening right now.. but i know that if it does happen, i want to make sure that i can do whatever i can to make sure that she doesn't kill herself. she's one of the few friends i've got, i don't want to lose her.
2007-04-28 19:35:25 · update #1
go kill the rapist. no joke, if you can go do it
ANYWAYS. pull the "how many flavors of ice cream have you tried?" And when they say how many reply "well theres tons more!" and start listing them
Chances are they don'tr really wanna die, so some humor may cheer them up.
Rape is complicated and devistating. Try and get professional help to the victim, and try and get him/her to report, but don't be harsh about it.
2007-04-28 19:33:13 · answer #1 · answered by adklsjfklsdj 6 · 2⤊ 1⤋
You get them to talk to someone on a rape hot line.
Tell her that the world will miss her too much and by doing this she's only letting the f#$cker who did this to her win. She's stronger than this and can over come it if she only gives herself a chance.
Also make sure she's been to the hospital to get checked and see if she's even reported this to the police. Sometimes suicide is the first reaction and she may not have gotten medical help or even called the police.
2007-04-29 02:33:07 · answer #2 · answered by Sara 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Hi n00b, Rape is such a dirty word. It makes the victim feel like it was their fault and takes their freedom away from them. They feel like everyone knows what happen to them and everyone is looking at them. Let her know that this was not her fault at all. She was the victim and he was the one who raped her.Tell her you are there for her and you care what happens to her.She really needs to get into councilling there will be other victims there also. They can help each other get through this awful thing.Reassure her that you are close friends and if she needs anything just call you.
A Friend.
Clowmy
2007-04-29 03:01:04 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Sometimes concern for other people can stop others from commiting suicide. Tell her all the time how much she means to you and how you can't imagine your life without her. If it comes to suicide, tell her how much it's going to hurt you and how devastated her family and friends are going to be. That might give her a reason to live.
2007-04-29 06:49:59 · answer #4 · answered by petyado 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Let the person know they're not alone, and assure them you're there. If they will permit visitors, try to help them around the house or in other ways. Rape does more to a person emotionally and mentally, than physically. It makes it difficult to trust others, so try to be there as soon as possible.
2007-04-29 03:07:13 · answer #5 · answered by Crispy 1 · 2⤊ 0⤋
stay with her.
contact a rape crisis and a suicide prevention hotline, and ask them the same question.
remind her of all those specific people who love her, and all that in life from flowers to art to food to movies, books, travel that she loves (specific ones) and would want to experience again.
get het some silk or other special fabric to feel against her skin....Remind her of all that is wonderful in life, essentially.
'this, too, shall pass'.
2007-04-29 14:41:48 · answer #6 · answered by insightfireiron 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
everything happens for a reason i was and it sucks,.,but tell her everything happenes 4 a reason and now u can write poetry and let it out and help other people go to classes to no how to defend urself and tell her she can write a book about her tragidy,.,srry for her wish her the best in life,.,why kill urself if u can help other and if she knows who it was tell mommmy n daddy and dont be ashamed for what someone eles did and tell her not to tell guys she was rapped that does no good then they will take advantage of her bring the fuker to court if she can i did
2007-04-29 02:33:07 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
Listen, this is not something that you should handle - no offense - but they need someone who has professional experience.
You should encourage her (or call yourself) the National Sexual Assault Hotline @ 1.800.656.HOPE. They're there 24/7 and can help you or her. Don't wait. They're there to help.
2007-04-29 02:31:20 · answer #8 · answered by hemmerrocks101 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
You need to make sure they are in a safe place- for example Accident and Emergency... if they are in crisis now.
If you have some time get them to go with you to their GP and get further help. make sure you don't deal with this alone
2007-04-29 02:32:14 · answer #9 · answered by Emma 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Be there for them and show them what love truely is. A higher power is at work in this world, and understanding there not alone can help.
2007-04-29 02:32:40 · answer #10 · answered by garlin104300 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋