How should I be feeling, I am having mixed feelings!
2007-04-28 18:27:07 · 16 answers · asked by candigirl 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I can't tell you enough how much i understand. Please do what is best for you. My advice would be to "pack your bags and get on the next train moving!" but sometimes things can be worked out. If you two talk about it, and you think you could learn to trust him again, then give him a second chance, but if you KNOW deep in your heart that he is no good: please leave. :) Best wishes to you.
2007-04-28 18:34:04 · answer #1 · answered by Pearl 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The mixed feelings are understandable. You are irritated about his cheating (putting it rather mildly) but you are also concerned it might be your fault and you don't want to lose him.
Let me set you straight. You have a right to be irritated and it is perfectly logical for you te be concerned. But his cheating is his doing, therefore it is his fault, and you have lost him. The only question is when will you recognize that and appropriately act on it.
I had a cheating wife. I had mixed feelings. I tried being patient, being angry, changing my life. I finally tried divorce and that worked. It was the first thing that did.
Don't bash yourself over this, and don't let yourself be a doormat. You may want to try confronting him and seeing if anything changes, but I wouldn't even go that far. I'd dump him were I you. You aren't the loser. He is.
2007-04-29 01:45:35 · answer #2 · answered by Warren D 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First, it's okay to be hurt.
Next, never blame it on yourself.
Don't do anything rash.
Try to sit down and talk to him. Ask him why he feels he has to do that.
Don't give up on him right away.
If you both are willing to work through it, do it.
If he is doing it out of spite or disrespect, don't stay.
I hope I helped.
Here's a link for more info:
http://dating.about.com/od/cheating/qt/SaveRelations.htm
2007-04-29 01:36:00 · answer #3 · answered by Sasha C 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
okay well if it has happened more than once dump him asap.
if its the first time, sit him down and have a talk and be like i know what you've been doing and im not liking it so either stop or im gonna break up with you.
2007-04-29 01:31:54 · answer #4 · answered by ashley_jayne_x3 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
kick him to the curb! if you have proof, get rid of him. what are the mixed feelings about?!
2007-04-29 01:31:15 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do you know for sure? If you do then you should try to work things out maturely. Ask him if he did it, why he did it, and if you should start seeing other people.
2007-04-29 01:33:40 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
dump his a$$, no man is worth that. if he really loved you, then he wouldn't have cheated on you in the first place. so DUMP him
2007-04-29 01:32:05 · answer #7 · answered by kevin l 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
let it go, its over try to move on. unless u would approve of him cheating. because u let him stay he will continue to cheat .
2007-04-29 01:33:57 · answer #8 · answered by RICKY 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
if you know that he is cheating, then you need to kick him to
the curb.. he does not have any respect for you if he doing
this.you need to be with someone that will apprecate you
he does not.
2007-04-29 01:33:19 · answer #9 · answered by luckystar 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Slap him, Dump him, and Cry hysterically
2007-04-29 01:34:14 · answer #10 · answered by ;) 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋