Did I F**k up?

Question

I just recently gave birth 3 months ago. I am a single mother. I keep on running into this man. We crossed paths about 6 times in a row we were at the exact place at the exact same time. It was kind of weird and more than coincidence. We never spoke, but his energy always made me feel good, about my self which I needed. I began to look forward to seeing him to see if I would run into him--it became my entertainment sad enough. I feel bad that I have never spoken to him to see what our connection is about, and now I cannot stop thinking about him and defintely will speak to him or give him my # or something, but now I never see him, and last time I did he looked pissed. Did i mess up and miss my opportunity? I would like to be friends, and get to know him, but I fear I messed up--

Answer 1

50 years ago I was 16 and there was a girl, age 13, that I really liked and who liked me.

I was too shy to ask her to go out with me, even though I knew she would have said yes. Our parents each approved, and it would have been no problem for us to date within certain sensible limits.

I never asked her out and a friend of mine, same age as me, was bold enough to ask her out and I watched that slip away from me. I regretted being so shy and yet I took some comfort in the safety I felt from not having risked anything.

Years passed. Each of us went our separate ways. I have been married--twice now--fathered two children. I regret the opportunity I let slip by all those years ago, but I have had other frustrations and lost opportunities that were as bad or worse. I don't spend too much time in those regrets. There is nothing to be gained from it.

Trust yourself. If this is something that can be, and if he is at all interested, you will have other opportunities to be friends with him. If not you will have other opportunities that will be as good or better. You have a baby to take care of and that should be your number one priority right now.

Good luck, and--no--you haven't "messed" up.

Answer 2

Well if you keep running into him, you likely will again. And if not, no, you didn't screw up.

We like to place positive emotions and dreams on things that breifly make us feel good but then somehow are lost without us doing more than enjoying it. Then we feel remorse about not doing anything.

Why? That makes no sense. Yes, something wonderful could have happened, but so could something terrible. In the end all you have is your perception and whatever dreams you want to dream about it.

Enjoy those, don't begrudge yourself that. Enjoy this thing and don't reproach yourself. You have enough hard stuff in your life without being hard on yourself.

Enjoy the possibilities of what if, not be down trodden because you don't know the answer. Sometimes the anwers are disappointments. Your dreams are whatever you want them to be.

Stay grounded of course and keep looking for Mr. Right but don't settle for anything less. Ever.

Answer 3

I'm pretty sure that you guys will meet again. And be sure to grasp that moment when you do.

If you were the cause of his anger, I wouldn't think that it would linger to long, just because you're a semi-stranger to him.

Don't worry about it... if you've already met 6 times already, I'm pretty sure that this is fate talking to you. Your opportunity still awaits, and you didn't mess up at all. Please show us an update within the next 3 months.

Good luck and best wishes.

Answer 4

well since I'm only 18 i really don't know about things like that but its pretty obvious that you didn't mess nothing i mean how you never said nothing so just try to go where you usually meet him periodically and you should see him and from there give him those digits

Answer 5

If you run into him again, strike up a conversation. Let him know you are interested. Explain your situation and that you did not know whether you should approach him. Have you heard the saying nothing ventured nothing gained.

Answer 6

Hey Hun

No you have not F**cked up at all.. it sounds like he was having a bad bad.. and i bet he regrets not seeing and apologising now.. I'm sure that you will bump into him again sooner or later.. and then you can give him a smile and at least say hi

Mark

Answer 7

Sounds like you are needing some excitement...trust that if/when the time is right, you'll run into him again. Trust God to put the right person at the right time for you. Don't trust yourself...take your time!!

Answer 8

Wait until he finds out you have a kid... then it's REALLY over.

All the same anyways, you should be thinking about the little one now and not guys. I would say you f'd up about 12 months ago.

Answer 9

You did nothing wrong silly. The next time you do see him, don't waste that opportuniy.

Answer 10

just go ahead and talk to him... there are several reasons for someone to look mad and it´s not necessarily because of you... just forget that bad day he was having and try to start a friendship.