She has literally put me thru hell since she was about 10 yrs old. She was 11 months old when her dad and I divorced and he is a crook and liar. She discovered how to manipulate and get her way and he used it to his benefit and now that she is an adult, its not so funny and he has conveniently extricated her from his life. She is a mess. She lied on me and I had to spend my life savings in a lawsuit and really could have gone to prizon. Now I have this adult child living in my house. She runs off in my car at nite, steals my money, disappears and meets guys at my significant others house at nite because he works nites and no one is there. She throws fits and goes tromping out of my house. She ran up a $1200 dollar phone bill. I cant take this anymore and I just want to get her out of here. My son has moved out and I feel like my house is a war zone. I have done everything I can to help her but my generosity has ran out and I need her to pack and get out.
2007-04-28 17:37:55 · 15 answers · asked by happydawg 6 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
she should be out on her own so tell her that it is time for her to fly the coop.
2007-04-29 05:20:01 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You could get the law involved. She sounds unstable. If you don't own the house, you might consider moving to a new place. And not giving her any keys to your new place, nor letting her spend even one night (or even come in the door). Perhaps you could get a restraining order if you can prove she's doing all this stuff... report your car stolen, report your money stolen, that kind of thing. You probably can't just change the locks on your current place (legal reasons), but you could see about getting her evicted.
If you haven't offered her the opportunity to get counseling and get on some meds, I'd consider it because she is your daughter. But if you've gone that route and she won't, then it's tough love all the way.
2007-04-28 17:45:31 · answer #2 · answered by Singinganddancing 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The only reason why she is doing all this is because you are putting up with it. Would you let anyone else take advantage of you this way? If not, then why let family do it? Do you want to start teaching her some responsibility? If so then throw her out. You say she is an adult so she can fend for herself. You are not doing her any favors by letting her stay with you... and it sounds like there is more harm being done than good.
2007-04-28 17:44:48 · answer #3 · answered by mosaic 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would give her a specific amount of time to pack up and leave if she's an adult. Then if she refuses hide your car keys and money including all your other important items you wish to keep. Call the poolice to have them take her out if she is not willing to help pay for any bills that she decides to run up. The 1200 dollar phone bill is way too much my cell phone doesn't even cost that much no matter how much I use it. That is pathetic. I would definitely make her pay for alot of that bill!!!
2007-04-28 18:10:07 · answer #4 · answered by Miss_Wings 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Plain and simple -- go to (or call) the Police Station, and FILE the complaints against your daughter -- every time she steals from you, when your car is missing from your driveway, when suspicious (and Fraudulent) bills show up -- and ...
Most IMPORTANTLY --
ASK the Police to SERVE your Daughter at this time with a "NO TRESPASS" Order -- and file for a Restraining Order/Personal Protective Order at the same time.
The "No Trespass" Order does NOT need to go in front of a judge to be enforced .. so that is a GREAT FIRST STEP!
And .. when the police serve her with this "No Trespass" Order for your home and your significant other's home (as well), have her things boxed up and waiting to GO OUT OF YOUR HOME Forever!
PS -- CHANGE ALL THE LOCKS as soon as possible -- and make sure she does NOT have access to your keys or purse!
2007-04-28 18:14:41 · answer #5 · answered by sglmom 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Plain and simple: Tell her to get out! You must mean it and stick to it. Tell her she has till ??? to get packed and move out or the locks will be changed. If that doesn't work, have her physically thrown out. CAll the cops or whatever you need to do. She is abusing you as a parent and you shouldn't have to take that from an adult child. Be forceful.
2007-04-28 17:42:22 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tough love! Change the locks, you pack all of her belongings and set them outside, don't let her have a reason to enter your house again. Your daughter sounds like my sister, and that is what my family had to do to her. I know it is hard, and I know this is breaking your heart, but it is time that you start thinking about yourself. Keep your head up, don't let her hurt you, in the long run you are doing what is best for her and you both. She is going to say things to intentionally hurt you, but she won't mean them. Good luck and hang in there!
2007-04-28 17:54:37 · answer #7 · answered by charity_j_thornhill 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-10-04 01:57:31 · answer #8 · answered by gizzi 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Change the locks on your house and your significant others and put her stuff in boxes outside for her to pick up. I wouldnt let her pack herself or she prolly will take more than what is hers.
2007-04-28 17:43:27 · answer #9 · answered by d2347 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
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2007-04-28 17:51:42 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
Call the cops on her next time she takes your car. Seriously. She needs some tough love.
2007-04-28 17:56:24 · answer #11 · answered by Lilia 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋