Will anyone give me support? Even some comforting words?

Question

I usually become sad and a little depressed during the winter but most people do. Its been getting gradually warmer out but I still feel sad. I just found out my bf is going to Iraq soon and random things will remind me and upset me. I dislike college as well. Im not getting the grades I did in high school and I feel like I'm trying my hardest. Its very frustrating.
Im just very upset and I need words of support. I'm here alone in my house and my boyfriends out with his old college buddies. I don't want to ask him to come home just because I need support. (Sounds funny that I'm asking strangers for support but plz dont judge me)

Answer 1

Between college and having a loved one go off to Iraq it's completely understandable that you are having these feelings. Try to spend as much positive time with your boyfriend before he leaves and look up support groups for soldier families/friends. We all get down but it's how we get back up that's the most important. Take it step by step and remember, sometimes it's not always necessary to constantly be strong. Reach out to family and friends, let them know how you are feeling because the more you are surrounded by those who love you, the better of a chance that you will be able to lift yourself out of these sad/depressed feelings. I wish you the best:)

Answer 2

Listen .. the first year (or two!) of living independently, going to college, and yes, taking on ADULT Responsibilities in life are difficult for ANYONE .. and ...

Let this Military Retiree (who was also a Long Term Single Parent, and now is an Empty-Nesting Single Retiree) tell you this --

No matter what -- his 'buddies' in the service will look after him -- that is why we train the way we do. He may feel at this time the need to have a bit more time with his 'buds' from college - - because, unlike him, they won't deploy and/or may not have in them the WILLINGNESS to VOLUNTEER to do what he did -- which is to SERVE his Country in the Armed Forces.

It takes quite a bit of work and scheduling one's assignments to get GOOD GRADES in college. The most important part of this is to TAKE FULL RESPONSIBILITY -- KNOW when the projects are due .. when the assignments need to be read (and which parts!), and when the exams are -- because there are NOT weekly assignments or exams all the time -- College usually has one or two projects and only one or two tests per course -- a MAJOR change from High School for sure!

Answer 3

Girl no way would I judge you. Your feelings are completely justified and understandable. You sound like a very conscientous caring girl. I understand your feelings completely. I am in college now. I have had problems such as an eating disorder and my grades are no where near what I am capable of. I have a boyfriend who is out tonight while I'm here by myself because I haven't met that many people either and I have a lot on my mind and don't like to go out and have fun because I don't feel happy. I completely hear you. i am sorry that your bf has to go to Iraq. That takes a whole lot of faith that he will be alright. That is devastating but you just have to put your trust in the universe to protect him. You will be able to keep in touch hopefully and just think how happy you will be when he comes home! All you have to do right now is get really quiet with yourself and let all of the racing thoughts and negative thoughts just come through your mind and then let them right out. You don't need to feel bad about anything. You are obviously trying your best and that's all any of us can do. Find a funny movie or get some pictures of you and your boyfriend together and write funny comments on the backs just to think happy thoughts about the two of you together. Trust me...everything will be okay. You will finish the semester fine and then you will be able to gear up again for either summer or fall. We all are not as great in school as we'd like to be. It happens to everyone. Just hang in there girl it will all be okay. Smile! you're in my thoughts and prayers.

Answer 4

When my husband when to Iraq, I was left at home w/ a 3 year old daughter and a 10 year old step daughter. I wasn't the same when he left and I was working full time on top of raising kids, maintaining a house, etc. Needless to say I went to my doctor and told him that I wasn't doing all that great, he sent me to a counselor and both of them agreed that I needed to be on a anti-depressant. It isn't a big deal, and I'm not the type of person that likes to take any type of drugs. It helped me so much and made me feel better.
Your mood and how you feel can also reflect on your schoool work, college is hard -- much harder now than from when I went and graduated. I think that you will be able to come to the right decision and do what you think is right for you. Hang in there, don't let this get you down. Keeping you in my prayers!
CT

Answer 5

Hey, we all feel alone sometimes. I'm trying to get over a huge depression that lasted the span of winter myself. First of all, don't think anyone is "judging" you, that's the silliest thing you could possibly say! And go ahead, ask your boyfriend for support. Tell him how you feel. Ask anyone you can for help. Believe it or not, the human race isn't as bad as it's chalked up to be. MOST people love helping others in need. Just know that no matter what, you are never alone. You are strong enough to get through this, and you will get through this because you have to. If you need someone to talk to, email me at [e-mail].

Answer 6

I completely understand what you're feeling, only I never went to collegte. If you're depressed seek help, if you don't find another way of doing thing. Go out to the movies with a few girlfriends, or starts an artsie thing. What I started doing is scrapbooking. It was nice I went through a bunch of pictures from childhood and worked my way up to adult hood. It actually made me feel better and I started to do better with my job. Another natural thing I had to do and I still do is take Vitamin B and Vitamin 6 to help with my depression, and it helps give me some energy. These are just a little pointer. So I kinda know a little. After my daughter was born I was home by myself with her while my husband ran around with his friends and I had to drop a lot of mine. But that's also life and now I enjoy it. I hope this works, never hurts to try. Don't worry not everyone will judge you.

Answer 7

the first year of college is usually the hardest year for students. new demands are set on you. its a whole new world. your bf going off to iraq, i can understand the sadness in that. just remember he will be home soon. just keep telling yourself it does get better. and it will. once you have made the adjustment to becoming an adult. its a hard transition for anyone but most people come out of it alright and i have a feeling you will too. take care.

Answer 8

winter is coming to an end. the days are getting longer and it will get warmer. :) thank god!! as for school- college is hard. no doubt about it. you just have to buckle down and make some more time for studying. Anything that is worth achieving should be a struggle. right? its totally ok to feel down in the dumps.
you gotta learn how to shake it off girl!! maybe dance around with the radio blasting, or even better, grab your fave cd. when you feelin down, do something you enjoy to lift your spirits!!!!
cheer up!! school is almost over for this semester!

Answer 9

I think a network of friends and some couseling could provide you the support you need. You could be suffering from depression. Work on developing your relationships with friends. Don't worry about your college grades, the academics are harder in college and your grades will reflect that.

Be strong. Seek help. Thrive.

Answer 10

it just sound you to stop being so hard on your self. things
may be dark right now but you will see that there a light
at the end of the tunnel. you just need to take things one
day at time. get out and start to live your life. as for college
it will get better it a lot harder in college then in high school
but it will get better. keep your head up and your spirit
high. and thing will work it self out. peace be with you
my angel. and god bless you and keep you.