how bad (for a christian) is having sex before marriage?

Question

a lot of christian youth have sex before marriage, and i wanted to know how bad it is and why it's wrong and how wrong it is

Answer 1

sin,.. just like the rest

Answer 2

There is a lot of debate over whether 'sex before marriage' is wrong. Many conservative Christians and those who take the bible literally will say that it is wrong and that it is equal with any other sin and also forgiveable through repentance.

But the problem with translating the biblical mandate to today, is that in antiquity (Jesus & Ancient Israel) most people would be married as soon as they hit puberty (12, 13 years old). This is around the time that humans get sexual urges.

Furthermore, marriage and family was a necessity for survival. For instance, a woman could not make a living for herself, except for prostitution, and thus relied upon a husband for survival. As such a faithful marriage was essential for the society to function and thus was a part of the culture.

Answer 3

Thank you for your honest answer Debbies. This is why we as Christians should be as honest with our youth as possible of the conseqences of premarital sex. Give them the reality of true stories. I am a youth leader at my church and I am completely honest with them about my past mistakes before I followed the Lord completely. Sin is something that we have fallen into at one time or another in our Christian life. Honesty and open talks with teens will help guide them in their walk instead of lying to them. Romans 3;23 For all have sinned and fallen short of the glory of God.

The Bible says that people have been fornicating for ages (2 Corinthians 12:21; Galatians 5:19-21; 1 Corinthians 5:1; Jude 7). (Fornication comes from a Greek word, porneia, and is correctly understood as any form of sexual immorality.) The Bible says that even Christians have been guilty of committing fornication or immorality (2 Corinthians 12:20-21). This is a reality.

The Bible also says, however, that God has always condemned sexual immorality (Ephesians 5:3,5; 1 Corinthians 6:13,18; Hebrews 12:14-17; Colossians 3:5). This is a reality.

The Bible says that fornication or immorality is an abomination, and considered as "filthy" before God (Revelation 17:4). This is a reality.

In order to avoid immorality, the Bible says that God created marriage (1 Corinthians 7:1-2). In Hebrews 13:4, the Bible says, "Marriage is honorable among all, and the bed undefiled; but fornicators and adulterers God will judge." This is a reality.

In 1 Corinthians 6:9-10, the Bible says, "Do you not know that the unrighteous will not inherit the kingdom of God? Do not be deceived. Neither fornicators, nor idolaters, nor adulterers, nor homosexuals, nor sodomites," {10}"nor thieves, nor covetous, nor drunkards, nor revilers, nor extortioners will inherit the kingdom of God." This is a reality.

1 Cor. 10:13 No temptation has seized you except what is common to man. And God is faithful; he will not let you be tempted beyond what you can bear. But when you are tempted, he will also provide a way out so that you can stand up under it.

I hope this helped a little

Answer 4

Having sex before marriage seems to be a cultural thing. The importance of it - especially for young women - seemed to be on the fact that the heir was really biologically related to it's sire. As Society has become more relaxed, and more advanced medical testing has come to use, you see this whole "no sex before marriage" also relaxing. Besides, the mentality is that if it is against the Bible, God can always forgive you. I think that this encourages the youth to be more...promiscuous. But if they feel that that is what the need to do to feel loved and accepted, sad as that is, they're probably going to keep doing it and there isn't anything we can do to stop it.

Answer 5

Premarital sex is not permitted in any God fearing religion. So many people from different religions get involve in this action that is harmful for the strength of our spirituality. However I feel that each individual is different and the circumstances also make a difference on the way we can feel about this issue.

What makes a difference is:
Are you a christian simply because you believe in Jesus or do you practice your relgion by attending church and preaching etc?
If you are a practicing christian, it makes a big difference if you brake this law because you are in constant reasurance of what is expected from you as a member of your congregations.

If you are a person who has not really learned about the importance of chastity then the difference is that you are not aware of the concequences of breaking this law and you are sinning by default, meaning you are only accountable for what you know.

We are humans and we all fall sometime but the most important thing is to repent if we have committed a sin and ask fof forgiveness and strength. If we pray and read our holy book, we are less likely to commit adultery (fornication) because we know the price we have to pay.

"Remember my brother that we only have one soul and if we lose it we will not recover it". (Brother Pedro; he was a monk who died in Antigua Guatemala and did so much for the poor people).
I am not catholic, i am muslim, but I love to remember things that mean something good to me.

Answer 6

Along with all other kinds of sexual immorality, sex before marriage / premarital sex is repeatedly condemned in Scripture (Acts 15:20; Romans 1:29; 1 Corinthians 5:1; 6:13,18; 7:2; 10:8; 2 Corinthians 12:21; Galatians 5:19; Ephesians 5:3; Colossians 3:5; 1 Thessalonians 4:3; Jude 7). The Bible promotes abstinence before marriage. Sex before marriage is just as wrong as adultery and other forms of sexual immorality, because they all involve having sex with someone you are not married to. Sex between a husband and his wife is the only form of sexual relations that God approves of (Hebrews 13:4).



Sex before marriage has become so common for many reasons. Far too often we focus on the “recreation” aspect of sex without recognizing the “re-creation” aspect. Yes, sex is pleasurable. God designed it that way. He wants men and women to enjoy sexual activity (within the confines of marriage). However, the primary purpose of sex is not pleasure, but rather reproduction. God does not outlaw sex before marriage to rob us of pleasure, but to protect us from unwanted pregnancies and children born to parents who do not want them or are not prepared for them. Imagine how much better our world would be if God’s pattern for sex was followed: fewer sexually transmitted diseases, fewer un-wed mothers, fewer unwanted pregnancies, fewer abortions, etc. Abstinence is God’s only policy when it comes to sex before marriage. Abstinence saves lives, protects babies, gives sexual relations the proper value, and most importantly honors God.

Recommended Resources: Why True Love Waits by Josh McDowell.

Answer 7

Well if you put yourself at risk by reasonable standards it is a sin. If you make a very bad example to others, by objective standards, it is sin. If the culture you are in makes it a grave sin you may be responsible for putting your self at risk but that is your decision as a matter of conscience.

Basically you possess all the mental faculties to understand what it wrong. It is possible that there is nothing wrong. It is not magical, you can use your head. If no harm is done to you or others there is no sin. If you feel bad you can forgive yourself.

Answer 8

All sins are equal in the eyes of God, be it fornication, lying or murder...sin is sin.

But...we are human and fallible. He knows that, He made us, warts and all.

We sin. We make mistakes. We fall down, get back up, brush off our knees and bandage them if need be and try again.

I'm a much older person now but I did it too. I think most of the people I knew did.

NOW I have remorse because it led to a life I did not need and children that also did not need that kind of life. It led to bitterness and abuse from a man who didn't deserve to kiss the mud behind me, much less have me and give me children...then abuse us all.

My remorse for my sin, asking for forgiveness, knowing how wrong I was...that's enough. God knows that I have paid and still am paying. I have suffered.

I think maybe that is WHY it is a sin, perhaps. Because it leads to other sins or leads you to people who will do you badly or people who are not worthy of you...or into a kind of life you don't need to be leading. I think that's what happened to me.

Also, there are so many people who will tell you sweet things, take what they can take...and walk away, tearing your heart out when they go. And you suffer while they just laugh.

So...it's probably not so much "fornication" as it is the kind of people who may USE you to fornicate WITH you, the kind of people who may use you and leave you, the kind of people who are unloving and uncaring.

I think it is probably wrong, as I said, because it leads you to the wrong people, brings you pain from the wrong people, and you suffer. And God wants GOOD people in your life.

Does that make any sense? I don't like to sound preachy because that's not me.

Answer 9

humm lets see .god made adam a partner so he would`nt be alone .so he gathered some spare parts from adam and a pile of mudd and made eve.well now ,in the garden adam ate an apple that eve gave him and he opened his eyes to see the beuty before him .lets anolize this .the apple is the ovum of the tree .and the serpent is the penis .put these together and you have premarital sex .back then adam and eve didn`t even hear about the institute of marriage. in other words if the persons are old enough ,then go for it.

Answer 10

Having sex before marraige is a MAJOR sin against God! God put us on this earth to live happily and purely. Having sex before marraige is like drinking and then driving! In both situations you're breaking the law. Having sex, period, could cause you to break away from the Lord and it's just as worse, if not more, to have sex before marraige. In the Bible it clearly states that a man and a woman who love each other eternally should be able to be enrolled in marraige and able to make new life purely and cleanly.

Answer 11

having sex before marriage is called fornication. It is a sin. The commandment is Thou shalt not commit adultery which is having sex with someone other than the one you are married to. A sin is a sin the same as any other sin. Breaking a commandment is worse.