Now I'm only 15, but I'm curious about this because when I eventually have sex, I want to know that I'm giving the girl the pleasure she deserves. So... any ideas on how I can find this out?
2007-04-28 17:09:35 · 15 answers · asked by raptor444 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
By your question, you seem to be an unselfish and caring person...two very critical ingredients in becoming an excellent, passionate lover. By being unselfish and caring, patience and sensitivity will naturally follow. If you'll let your instincts guide you, you will give your lover more than enough for her to achieve maximum pleasure.
2007-04-28 17:19:49 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
Well, it's nice that you care. That's an improvement over some.
You can watch out for the moaning and writhing, and while that might mean they are having an orgasm, it at least means they want you to THINK they are having one.
But if you're interested in the real thing, there are physiological responses. Women swell up down there when they're excited; it really does look different. And after an orgasm, maybe within a minute, nipples will get hard. So those might be things to watch for, along with all the moaning. But in the end you'll just have to trust her that she's telling you the truth. Encourage her to tell you what she likes before and during. Each woman is different so you'll have to give your mission personal attention.
Good luck.
2007-04-28 17:17:31 · answer #2 · answered by Singinganddancing 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The girl having an orgasm must put effort into it too.
The only way you can ever truly know if you are "good" is to ask a girl. You can read books about this sort of thing.
Being a good sex partner and knowing a lot about it will probably make you good in bed and you won't have to be so worried.
Usually girls won't orgasm simply because we are made to not appreciate sex as much as guys do. Plus, our sex organs are inside of us. It's a fact of life that guys orgasm easier than girls.
It also has a lot to do with maturity. If a 15 year old girl doesn't have an orgasm, it may because she isn't concentrating well enough because she is nervous or scared. It's really not your fault. There is no way you will know if you personally are good at sex until you have it.
2007-04-28 17:17:21 · answer #3 · answered by joawesome 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Stop stressing so much because when you are with the right person you can learn together. No one comes with a manual as to what will get them off or not and every girl is different as to what she likes. It takes a little practice when you do finally have sex and talking during sex and telling each other what you like is an excellent way of learning. Its the same for every guy at your age and I'm sure with your concern about treating a female right you will be a stud before you know it! Good luck and have fun experimenting!!
2007-05-06 16:58:38 · answer #4 · answered by Minnow 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
OK first i have to say your a kid kids should not be worrying about this at your age. Why do you kids think that you have to grow up so fast now a days? You should worry more about your not so distant future say education then this. The question you are asking is something that life will really have to teach you. Sorry no short cuts on that one. So just be a kid. And if your still wanting an answer ask your parents or another adult in your life not people on the internet.
2007-05-06 11:44:21 · answer #5 · answered by blondie4ev12003 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
At 15 you should not be thinking about this you shouldn be doing it ! And be gentle and curious when you do have sex you will be sure to give and yourself a good orgasm Good luck
2007-05-06 16:18:54 · answer #6 · answered by artie4848 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Its all in the relationship, its about communication. The woman, once you find her and you are in a good solid relationship, hopefully married, should communicate to you what she likes or doesnt, and the same for you. You cant just be good at it, because what one woman likes, another may not. It will all come to you once you get into a relationship when you get older, so dont worry about it now.
2007-04-28 17:17:27 · answer #7 · answered by ♥mama♥ 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, it depends on the person... there are girls who are really sensitive and will get an orgasm easy while there are others when you can do you thing for hours and they'll feel nothing. Same with men.
2007-04-28 17:12:46 · answer #8 · answered by longd 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
How do you expect to know that? That is like asking someone if you will speak good spanish before you learn how to speak a foreign language.
2007-05-06 09:47:29 · answer #9 · answered by joeln31 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The vagina can naturally contract rythmically during or shortly after an orgasm. This is one sign...it is possible that that won't happen though...you may just never know...sorry. Kudos for asking though! lol
2007-04-28 17:17:59 · answer #10 · answered by Ridiculous 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋