GIRLS ONLY!!! I'm more developed then girls my age and look older. Guys always yell stuff to me. Help Me plz??

Question

I'm in the 6th grade but have DD cups. And yes, I'm young, they're real, but I'm tall and I sort of look older. I get the age 15-16 a lot. Guys are constantly yelling stuff out their cars at me, and eareir today my friend and I were riding bikes and we went to a high school football feild were guys that were like 13 maybe a year older then us was like hey, honey whats up? Then we just left and we went to watch a baseball game at a park nearby and then they showed up so we left after the same guy smiled and waved at me and blew me a kiss. Then from there we went to a pizza place and got sodas we went to eat outside since it was beautiful outside and i was just forgetting about them then they showed up. And the guy came and sat down next to me and looked down at my chest and smiled at me then i got up and moved to another table then i called my big brother and he chased them away but when guys yell at me i feel really bad, like Im not a kid barely. How can I get over htis feeling?

Answer 1

I know it's tough for someone your age but when you get older you will start to appreciate the attention.

Answer 2

Honey... if anyone knows what you are going through, I do. I am nearing 20 now, and at age 8, I had B cups. By 10, I was a full D cup. That was fifth grade! I got period the same year - fifth grade. I was VERY womanly and people used to think I was about 16 at 12-13. I felt very uncomfortable. After monhs of agony, I begged my grandma to take me to get a minimizer bra. (Try BALI bras - they are GREAT! They have them at Macy's and JCPenneys) And, I always made sure to wear clothes that were very plain, but on the younger side so I would look more my age. Don't wear anything too low cut and nothing that has seams that outline your breasts. NO dark lipstick either. It is an invitation for boys. And on the topic of boys... don't give them the time of day. Just ignore. You are more mature now than boys will probably ever be... so when the time comes, you'll be all over them. Take it one day at a time. If you need any further advice, feel free to contact me. :o)

Answer 3

I'm sorry you have to go through this. I grew into a D cup, which is a bummer, because I'm short. I found that Bali Minimizers are the best bras for me, and they make you look a little smaller. It won't stop all the comments, but maybe a few?

Also, be careful with these guys. I used to flip them off, but then on my honeymoon, I got followed! So don't do that! Just ignore them, and if strangers sit next to you like jerks, get up and leave. You can also report them to people at the place you're patronizing, because you're a child, and they can't treat you that way, darn it!

Finally, and this is important: Middle school is awful. For everyone. Everyone is so confused and hormonal and upset about their own sexuality and changes, they don't think about other people's feelings. I remember we made fun of a teacher at my school who was homosexual, and now I feel awful about it, but that's how it is, you know? I know it's not a big comfort now, but you'll get through this, and you'll be a beautiful woman with a lot of self-respect.

Good luck! You can contact me, if you want.

Answer 4

I was exactly the same way when I was your age. I had D cups then but now I have DDs. It was hard because I had the biggest breast of all the kids at my elementary school.(it went to 6grade)and some teachers. I felt really bad but I talked to my aunt and mom about it. It really helps to have someone to talk to. Guys would chase me that was in highschool and I didn't have an older brother. I had my cousin to help tho. So just keep your head up baby and be proud of your body. I hated them back then but I love them now. Im 22 now. I hope this helps u out sweety.

Answer 5

These guys are boys pretending to be men- just like a lot of guys my age (23). A real man respects a woman, treats her kindly and does not go out of his way to be obscene or obnoxious to her- unfortunately, you encountered some immature freaks.

It is a shame you have to experience this- you need to know one thing that is most important- just because your body is developed early does not mean you are any less of a person, or expected to be a certain type of person. You do not deserve these comments and gestures (which you seem to be aware).

I know words aren't going to make the feeling go away, but you have no right to feel ashamed. It is not like you are walking around purposely flaunting your body. These 'boys' are disgusting and I am surprised they think they're so great enough to warrant your attention- especially when being so vulgar.

This is meant as no offense but from someone who has been there, you are still a kid. Just because your body is kicking in on the path to adulthood does not mean you need to keep pace by changing your interests.

It is important to not take comments like that lightly though because you never know who is harmless with just words and who really is a creep. Do not be afraid to tell a guy to get lost if he is being obscene. Hold your head high and be proud of who you are- you have done nothing wrong. If ignoring them does not work, nor telling them to leave you alone, alert a manager or security guard nearby that you are being harassed.

It's very nice of your brother to stick up for you in that situation. The best way to get over the feeling is to know that you did nothing wrong- utilize your friends and family as support around you- do not be ashamed of who you are because i cannot stress enough- you have done NOTHING wrong. I'm sure your brother's defense of you is proof enough you did nothing wrong and these guys are gross.

Answer 6

nawww.. u poor thing, hun
well when i was ur age, i had a friend who had the same problem, but she tended to show them off alot. Dont go there!!
But as for the boys, just ignore them, obviously, you are WAY more mature than them!
talk to a family member, because most probably they would have the same sort of thing.
be proud of yourself, but not to the point where you get to be like my old friend, though i know you won't.
Yes, i completely agree with your second last statement, don't try to grow up too quickly , because trust me, that will come!
oh, and im not exactly sure on ur age,( im from australia and don't really get the grade/years at school) but you sound fairly young, but dont worry, boys are just so immature more than sometimes, pretty much all the time, so hold your head high and fight it because your strong enough, honey!

Answer 7

I am so sorry about all the problems you are having at such a young age. Don't fall prey to it. Try ignoring them if that does not work tell them that you are still a little girl and that they could get in a lot of serious trouble if they bother you. Tell them you are jail bait and to stay away. Ask for a Minimizer bra. This bra is commonly sought after by large-breasted women who wish to reduce the appearance of their breasts by a cup size or two.

God Bless You And Stay Sweet and Innocent-
Vicky

Answer 8

Sorry to pay attention this. i'm 14 too and have the face of an 11/12 year previous however the physique of a 14/15 year previous as i'm particularly curvy. I advise donning your hair in infantile types. case in point; with beautiful clips clipping the front away out of your face, tieing it in a fluffy ponytail, plaits, headbands, pigtails. donning baggier, colourful outfits would make you look youthful; inclusive of Longer tops that have infantile types on with leggings and running shoes. desire i've got helped xx

Answer 9

That's a tough situation, guys seem to make girls uncomfortable ALL the time no matter how old you are. It just hit you at a younger age. At least you know your pretty lol. But there's nothing you can do about your chest now. Guys yell at girls all the time walking down the street. I get it and I'm 17. So it happens a lot guys are pigs. Just know your better then them. You don't need to wistle at a guy, guys are weird and imatture -- you'll learn that as you get older. There's nothing really to do, just tell them to leave you alone or you'll get your older brother to beat their face in lol. I hope this helps .. sorry girl :(

Answer 10

You can't really help that you've developed earlier than your peers. But the best thing you can do is love yourself, and accept your body the way it is. Believe me, it may seem bad now, but it won't be once everyone else catches up to you. It might help to not dress provocatively, even though it is kind of the trend these days, and keep yourself busy with activities and things you enjoy. It won't last forever, and it helps to have good friends to lean on and big brothers who look out for you.

Answer 11

right now, the only thing that you can do is to deal with them, and make sure you have great friends who support you. at a later age, you might choose to get a reduction, but that is up to you and your doctor. don't wear revealing tops, and just make sure you are covered up. as for the boys, just keep in mind that they are young and immature (even the 20 year olds), and that they are just saying these things because they think they are cool. talk to your mom. i'm sure that someone else in your family has had to deal with this issue (large breasts don't usually appear out of nowhere). i am the same size as you, but i am also a grown adult. i can't imagine how a 12 yr old deals with it. good luck, and i hope i helped.