Im 15 years old, and ill be 16 in two weeks. My boyfriend turned 18 this month on the 26th. We have been together for two and a half years. Last week we were at my house, well i live with my 25 year old sister and her boyfriend. And my boyfriend and i were alone in my room(no one was home) and we didn't have protection so we masturbated with each other, and as we were doing it i guess my mom came for a visit and she had a key to my room supposedly and she opened the door really fast and saw everything. After that she closed the door really fast. and ran to the car and went home. She didn't call at all for 3 days, so i called her yesterday and she screamed and cried and stuff on the phone and hanged up in my ear. Now she wont talk to me or pick up the phone, Like come on, Did really do something that bad? What do i do now? Was that gross? I thought it was normal?
2007-04-28 16:04:16 · 21 answers · asked by Britt-R 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
My parents loves my boyfriend, well probably not anymore but i know she wouldn't press charges. And me and my boyfriend are in a serious relation ship. We can take the consequences.
2007-04-28 16:18:03 · update #1
She freaked. She'll get over it. I'm thinkin most parents don't like accepting that their kid is growin up.
U didn't do nothin wrong for sure. And really u acted responsibly by masterbating when u didn't have protection handy. So u did the right thing.
Of course your mum seein u together and naked and all, nothin but that registered with her. She will calm down after a few weeks and u can tell her about it then probably.
2007-04-28 16:10:13 · answer #1 · answered by Travis M 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ok, I'm about 5 months older than you, and I would never think of doing that. I suppose it is normal, and like one said, no mom want to see their baby get pregnant. You should definately talk to her about it. If you aren't careful, there is a chance you could get pg doing what you did. Not a high one, but still. You should tell her that you didn't want to have sex w/o protection. The truth is usually the best. Oh, and be careful, when there is more than a two year age gap, and one is over 18, and the other isn't, it can be a crime, especially if having sex. Just so you know.
2007-04-28 23:17:21 · answer #2 · answered by lifelesswonder 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What you did was normal but what your mom did was normal too. As a mother of a 15 year old myself i am sure that your mom was hoping that you wouldn't do things like that until you were either old enough to make a mature decision about it and just using protection is mature but that isn't enough, you have to be sure that you can handle the emotions that come with having sex and most 15 year olds are not that mature yet. Or she was hoping like all moms that you would wait until your married. Just tell her that you made a mistake and need to talk to her about it.
2007-04-28 23:11:53 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, it looks like things were pretty much normal, the both of you were spending intimate time with each other, as long as it is safe and responsible. Eventually you should be able to take charge of your own personality, character, style and growth without any imposing ideologies against you. That takes a day at a time! =<)
2007-04-28 23:40:44 · answer #4 · answered by Sir Grandmaster Adler von Chase 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well...first off. Why aren't you living with your Mom....second...your boyfriend can get in trouble for having sex with a minor. (he's legal at 18 and you aren't)....next...what was she doing with keys to your sisters house and no permission to be there ??? Someone must have told her you'd be there with him, other wise she wouldn't have just shown up at the wrong time....
So I don't think she has a right to scream at you or even cry. If you don't live with her, you don't live with her rules. She can be as upset as she wants, but in the end it's really none of her business...
2007-04-28 23:11:38 · answer #5 · answered by Chrys 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No it's NOT gross, However it was most likely a shock and hard for your Mom to see that and she's having a hard time processing what she witnessed. You are quite young still and dating someone who is commiting a felony by having sex with you (a minor) might be hard for her to accept. I would just give her some time to chill out and once she's calmed down you can talk to her.
2007-04-28 23:10:04 · answer #6 · answered by Heather L 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think 15 is a little young to be sexually active You have a whole beautiful life ahead of you and one slip up can blow your future right down the tubes. Go to your mother. Imbrace her. Tell her you love her. And have a good cry together because you've both, whether or not you realize it, have lost something very valuable. You have lost your innocence. Your mother lost her image of you as her precious baby.
2007-04-28 23:38:33 · answer #7 · answered by Ladybug II 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, it wasn't gross. She should be glad you were practising safe non-existent sex. I think she's over-reacting a bit. Firstly, if she suspected something she should knock on the door first. And there is no reason for her to scream. Really what example is she setting for you. If your daughter does that you don't want to end up screaming at her either. You guys just need to have a heart to heart talk. Don't shut her out and be nice to her so she can warm up to you again.
2007-04-28 23:13:34 · answer #8 · answered by nina 2 · 0⤊ 2⤋
u r to young to do things like that,,,, u have loads of time to have sex, just take yr time.
As for yr mom, she see u a girl of 15 having sexual contact with a guy,,, she doesn't want u doing that because u r 2 young.
go to mom's home and talk to her face 2 face, I'm sure she be OK
2007-04-28 23:12:15 · answer #9 · answered by versace_girl_2002 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Coz she had some trust on you. Of course, she is your mother and you should have told her earlier about your relationship, that's why she is sad now.
Now tell her all in detail, try to console her n tell her next time you would tell her everything.
Eventually, say SORRY.
2007-04-28 23:22:45 · answer #10 · answered by D Dude 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋