I fell in love with a 33 year old man & dated him for 1 year and a half. He has many issues: lives at home with mom, has a son(he hardly sees) who lives with the mother's parents, has no lisence, no car, and works a min. wage job & bad credit. I did not find all this out until the relationship went further. But i wanted to look past it and love him for his big heart and spirtuality. Well he recently dumped me on EASTER sunday because he says that he wanted a woman more spirtual in his life. So i told him i would go to bible study with him but he told me no "god wants me to give my life to him" (alone) But come to find out later he met some 23 yr old at church that day and begin talking to her and spent the night at her place 2 days later. I am 24 and a virgin and i thought he loved me and was waiting for me. I feel like i am not a good christian now because i study the word on my own. I feel like i gave so much of myself and he can just walk away. Why do i still love this sorry man?
2007-04-28 15:04:58 · 9 answers · asked by sweetnlow 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
This was also the first guy i dated and for him to pray with me all the time (i had trust in him and did not see this coming.) He has given this girl my number and she has called and threatened me if i don't leave him alone and told me god told her "this is her husband" (it had not even been a week yet)
2007-04-28 15:34:42 · update #1
Once you love someone the love does not go away. No matter how mad you get or how much they hurt you the only thing that you can do is move on and learn from this.
2007-04-28 15:09:09 · answer #1 · answered by sweethonesty1699 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He was your first that is one reason it hurts so much.You gave him something that should have been sacred and special to him but obviously it meant nothing.I have been there I have had my heart broken so bad by my husband 10 years ago and it still hurt to this day.Time does help and that will be the only thing that will help you,other then meeting someone else right away,it didn't take him long to get over you when he met that other girl.So you see it does work, I no
it's the furthest thing from your mind but it really does work.I'm not saying go out and sleep with someone just go meet someone your own age someone you can have fun with.
This man screwed your head up,you need to no that your a better person then he ever will be.Is it obvious to you now how he only uses women then throws them away when he has had enough of them.That man doesn't even deserve to be in your nightmares.
2007-04-28 22:42:48 · answer #2 · answered by Teenie 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would have to say that 1) he was using you 2) that the woman was not a Christian for allowing the man to stay at her house over night 3) he will come back to you because she will get tired of taking care of him 4) to answer your question: I do not know why you love him. Because I cannot tell you really why I love a woman that I have dated for almost 2 years and now she just wants to date other people but says I am so good in so many ways I am perfect.
2007-04-28 22:14:31 · answer #3 · answered by walters45805 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have nothing to feel bad about except maybe that you wasted a lot of time with a man who does not want to grow up. He is obviously immature and doesn't want responsibility.
You will get over it. I promise. You are fine as you are and should find someone who deserves you. Don't rush. Keep yourself busy and stay in prayer. You will be fine.
2007-04-28 22:10:44 · answer #4 · answered by Sharon P 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I believe that things happen for reason. I think you deserve the best. You should be with someone who appreciates you and loves you. I know it is very very hard to move on but you should start trying. Start dating again and you'll feel less hurt. I don't think you should pursue him any further. Some times we should let go to save ourselves.
2007-04-28 22:09:23 · answer #5 · answered by GucciGirl 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ARE YOU SERIOUS???!!! Baby girl, pick yourself up, and roll on. You listed a multitude of extremely unattractive qualities this man possesses.......sounds to me that he's the one who needs Jesus. Scripture says and I paraphrase, you don't work, you don't eat. And let your yays be yays and nays be nays. He's a liar and a hypocrite. That is blaspheming the Holy Spirit and trust me, he's in danger....
2007-04-28 22:10:55 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Forget him...ur lucky he left u otherwise he would of have ruin ur life....u deserve better....say thanks to GOD that u were saved...
he is no good ...u should of left him long time ago...girl just move on trust me ur better off without him,..,find urself a decent guy..
If he comes back to u plz don't take him back
2007-04-28 22:11:24 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Cause you loved him for a whole year, I know exactly how you feel it has happend to me.
2007-04-28 22:08:03 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
because your so used to loving him you arnt adapting to loss
2007-04-28 22:08:54 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋